I need to dump this somewhere so please ignore these very long rambles. This has been a week.
::: spoiler very angry venting
Still bitter and angry about the 15% rent increase and the consequent spiraling of how much it costs to exist. Part of me wants to move on and settle it asap and block it from my brain and beat myself into submission, another wants to distract myself from it completely, both want to get away from the volcano of absolute rage that's ready to spiral out of control and burn everything in its path.
Alright, let's have at it: FUCK you, LL, for trying to come across as understanding or nice, you are NOT my friend, I believe NOTHING about how much you "value" me because if you did you wouldn't be slugging a fucking $75/week increase BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU FEEL ENTITLED TO MAXIMISE YOUR PROFIT OUT OF PEOPLE'S NEED TO HOUSE THEMSELVES. This is not a relationship you "value" by demanding more money JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN. Just keep it to what it is, this is a TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIP and if you had a smidgeon of empathy you wouldn't fucking highball it at first opportunity. Fuck the fuck off with your attempt to be personable and magnanimous. I will keep my angry outbursts here because I'm not an idiot and I will stay civil but I will NOT grovel. I will be offering absolutely no more leeway on inspections, maintenance, etc. And fuck if I'm going to do a complete spotless clean of the place when I leave - I'm claiming my bond the second I'm out and you can fucking take it to vcat over fair wear and tear for how much you've fucking earned from me over the years especially as you don't even need to pay REA fees. You will get absolutely no more energy from me. You've taken enough. Go get fucked and I hope you DO get worse tenants here on out who make your life a nightmare. Enjoy being a bloodsucking leech.
:::
::: spoiler and now for the part where I try to calm myself down
Sigh.. Okay. Now the positive of this whole shitshow is, it puts some fire under my arse to sort out my job situation and motivates me to finish up my business in Melbourne and get the fuck out. I've been wanting a change in scenery for ages - first it was "once lockdowns are over", then "once I get PR", then "once I quit my job", then "once my niece settles in"... but this time is it: once I finish up uni in June I am GONE. I knew that studying would involve an earning hit and it was something I needed to invest in for myself. That I'd need to pay myself a bit to get it done.
So, here it is. I'm going to honour my commitment... but the clock has been set. I've been drifting for quite a while trying to get from one week to the next... now at least I know I am approaching the end of a chapter. Closure is coming. I won't forever be stuck in this helltrap of running faster and faster just to stay in place. I will slam the book shut on all the covid/work/friendship yucks, and clear out space in my life for a fresh start. There is relief and determination and growth amidst the anger, and the deep-seated fear and anxiety of not feeling safe and secure of my own housing. I used to feel sad about possibly leaving Melbourne some day, selling up my things, giving away my plants: now I'm honestly ready. will change the narrative. I do not have control over everything, but I will not be a victim; I have so many more options than I used to... I have value beyond paying off someone else's mortgage. I will not be beaten down into misery. I will change the narrative.
:::
::: spoiler and now for some practical steps forward...
Cathartic release/dump so I can feel okay enough to go back into my home - tick.
drs appt for mental health referral - tick.
Look at cost of comparable rentals in area as benchmark.
Look at what my finances and working capacity is; budget for mental health.
Come up with compromise rental $ amount, take a deep breath, and send brief email to LL. Remind myself I will have 60 days from official notice. I will be OK.
check EBA for notice period for job I have to quit
Draft resignation letter and handover actions
Schedule chat with other job about bringing hours up
Start writing down moving out ideas. Who gets what. Which things to sell off. What services to cancel. Clearing out the pantry slowly. Etc.
:::
I need to keep telling myself - I got this. This will be a challenging period going forward. Thank heavens for the cat. Speaking of:
::: spoiler and now for something completely different
Number one. The White Area of Do-Not-Touch.
All I can say is I feel the abject rage towards REs and LLs in my soul and relate hard.
I believe in you, and the list and changes you want to fulfill and make happen. You are intelligent and strong, and you will find peace and happiness away from this place 💜
Thank you 😭❤️ It means a lot to receive empathy as I have noone at home to vent to and I can't keep it in. I'm just done with trying to survive on my own here, I need to know there is an end point. It doesn't help that I messed up the maths on the amount and it's actually a 21% increase ($115/week). Hahahaha get fucked srsly.
I've already ticked off a few things on the list - at least I have a better idea of timeframes to act on and what my options are. It's a constant battle convincing my nervous system that I'm not trapped, I'm safe, I have a way out, I deserve to exist. I'm so worn out, I'm going to bed.
I hear you. I’ve been on both sides. As a LL where it didn’t cover all expenses not to mention damage just due to having average tenants, but c’est la vie. I’ve probably been a tenant for more years than a LL and I’m generally chill if the rent is stable to point of taking care of easy repairs, but yeah, when it keeps going up, then for sure, you need get them to maintain the property. Even the small things we lodged to get done, some of it has been done by the most dodgiest, useless tradespeople, ever. Definitely don’t bother going out of your way to be accommodating. After a certain point they don’t care anyway.
Only thing I can appreciate is that I’ve been in this one long enough to make a case for aircon. That only took about 5 years (been here longer than that).
Honestly I don't want to carry 2 phones. And having the work profile is optional, not a requirement. Whereas if I was issued a seperate work phone, I'd have to carry it with me.
Woke up early but was still all puffy and congested and emotional from last night's shock email. Trying not to let anger take over and focusing on the good things... grateful that I'm catching up with a friend today. Parking in Carlton has really changed. Nearly everything is 2P till 7pm, all my good weekend street parking spots are gone. Fair enough, I just wish there was better PT connection - the new train stations can't open soon enough.
Because you care about the work you submit, and you want to demonstrate an understanding of the subject matter.
It's okay, I tend to over study too, even though I don't have the time but I'm keen to learn each subject, not just pass it. Welcome to the world of adult learning, Baku, where you feel like a dumbass for caring about what you submit!
Doing extra is never wasted effort. It might not be necessary for the specific report you are doing, but what you learn creates a much better foundation for your future learning, both within the course and in life in general. The things you will be doing in the future will all build on the knowledge you are gaining now, so the less thorough you are now the more you will struggle in the future.
There is a vast difference between learning the subject and writing to the question. It is both depressing and hilarious I once got an HD for an essay on a book I didn’t read. Make of that …
I remember when I had to write essays for uni that I the ones I really put effort into didn’t score as high as the one I wrote off the cuff one hour before it was due and ended up getting an HD for it.
Sometimes make me wonder about all the effort I put in 🤔
I used to know the exact time my printer took and the walk to make it to the drop box to get that all important stamp! Not dumb or lazy just need the deadline pantskick
Look on the bright side. Writing more is a lot harder than having to condense and prune an essay.
What might make it easier for you to condense is it focus on making sure you address the key points and see if you’ve duplicated or waffled on about something.
Or see if you make an answer to something concise and straight to the point without being too descriptive.
IE. I walked to my car staring at the sunlight coming down through the clouds, I steadily took my time taking steps slowly to my car and opened the door and sat down then I started my engine and began my journey to the new world.
Short version: I walked to my car and started the engine and drove off.
Just make sure if it’s the assignment is asking you to address points that they are addressed and not skipped over.
The "People and Culture" team would like to remind you that the upskill modules are compulsory and are not to be completed during work hours.
Also note, those who fail to complete the modules by Monday, or do not receive a minimum of 50% pass mark will be placed on a performance management plan.
Vouchers are limited to 1 small coffee when a purchase of $10 or more is made.
Used to be called the Chicago Peace Rose, now just Peace, a very beautiful rose. 💗 My other fave is the Queen Elizabeth, a heavily scented pink tea rose.
Awesome I was wondering what it was (I saw it on a walk). Really beautiful colours. And I had two special people who are no longer around. One loved yellow roses and the other pink/red so it made me smile 😊
Of course it is, because no one ever really wants to be close to someone struggling with their own mind. They prefer performative care, so they can receive sympathy, but do not actually care about the person truly struggling.
The mentally unwell are chronically alone and lonely, I can attest, with few real, genuine human connections, because they are just there to make others feel good about themselves. Even their death is capitalised upon for further sympathy and attention.
I wonder why I have so few genuine, caring friends, but why wonder when the answer is they don't actually care. They just like others telling them how kind and selfless they are. It's disgusting that the mentally unwell are only "cared for and about" when they're fucking dead and it doesn't mean anything to them.
::: spoiler personal experience
My own family, the side I still see, doesn't call or text me despite knowing what I go through, and have suffered through. They never called to check in when I lived through my egg doners severe neglect, just made excuses. They didn't check in when I ended up isolated and raped daily by my ex for 8yrs. But they are quick to say "if you need anything, let us know!". Well I said call me occasionally, just a msg to see how I'm going, and they cannot even do that, so I may as well rot away and they can all have their performative sadness and attention when I pass away. My own dad doesn't even call, even when I initiate contact. So yeah, fuck anyone who pretends they cared, just to take their fill of the attention they obviously so desperately crave.
:::
::: spoiler spoiler
Having very obvious cptsd and the lack of control of emotions and emotional expression that is part of that was a real eye opener.
People can be so fucking cruel. The number of people who saw I couldn't help my feelings and reactions and made me suffer with cruel words was too high. Absolute sadists.
It gave me insight into why many veterans with ptsd commit suicide, the pain is so great and sadists take advantage.
I think one day I will do charity work with vets with ptsd
:::
Thank you seagoon, I offer the same to you. Those who understand, understand the importance of human connection and bonding. This community has been a bastion, and you the shining pure gem at its center. 💜
Death brings out the worst in people. I've seen it up close too many times. People make others deaths about themselves, about how they feel, about their guilt. Because they know they could have done more, whether in the moment or overall, but chose not to. And you know, sometimes they can't do more, sometimes their plate is already overflowing, but that doesn't mean they get to make the death about them.
Ah that's a sleep in for me! Think I've got shopping on the agenda for today, Elder Minipeeler wants some new clothes. Miniest needs some too, she's got this habit of chewing her shirts. But she's decided to take up crocheting in the past couple of days so she's stopped chewing her shirts as much, being busy with her hands. Then it's baking a cake and wrapping gifts for Mr P's birthday, which we're doing tomorrow out of convenience (he doesn't mind).
Rain coming down thick and fast. I did get the washing dry this morning, so am grateful for that. Have also weeded the pot plants and distributed the spring fertilizer ration, so this rain is perfect.
I managed to pull out months of weeds/dead plants and get the fert in on Thu night before soxcat came and very grateful for the timing + this reprieve from watering and so forth. The one upshot of such a gloomy forecast. Gotta throw some seeds in soon...
I have a flight that is boarding in about 4 hours - currently trying to decide whether to try and get at least a couple of hours of sleep or full send it and stay up 🥴
I have a contented cat curled up on my lap, purring. I am getting hungry and and would quite like some lunch. He says that's not his problem. I guess I'm going hungry until His Fluffiness releases me.
That sounds like my old LG steam washer/dryer. The door lock delay was super frustrating and I can't say I ever liked the thing. I ended up going back to a top loader and drying rack and donating the combo unit to an animal rescue.
Attempts to time my afternoon walk between showers were a complete and utter failure, we had to abort early. I was able to take off my wet-wool smelling jumper and am now just a bit damp, but Mr Woof had reached Soggy Doggy status and has been tied into his bathrobe.
Also, i went to the italian supermarket and while there bought a block of nice milk chocolate, I had one square, nibbled it slowly and threw the rest away. It was so delicious.
Gardening question (I'll post it to garden thread also)
This is a 60yo hydrangea. Mr P wants to save it, as it was planted by his Nan. But it's had the outlet air from the split system blowing right at it for years and it's clearly struggling. It also used to have an apple tree for shade but that was removed years ago. He's wondering if he should/could move it without killing it. As you can see, he's already started 😂
Put it in a big pot with a 50/50 garden soil & compost mix. Put pot in shade to semi-shade and protect from excessive wind. Water well and regularly. If you like, after a few months dose with a hydrangea colour fixer as flower colour depends on ph of soil and can be adjusted. Feed once a year with ordinary general fertilizer. Cut back hard after each flowering season. Hydrangeas are fairly tough little buggers so can cope with a bit of neglect but do need protection from too much sun and do need enough water. Some snail bait is a good idea while it's getting adjusted to its new living conditions. Great patio plants if protected from too much sun.
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Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 14 pts · 1y
Music last night has given me this great sense of peace today. Things are going to be OK ❤️
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
so many hugs 🙂
you deserve this
just_kitten@aussie.zone · 13 pts · 1y
I need to dump this somewhere so please ignore these very long rambles. This has been a week.
::: spoiler very angry venting Still bitter and angry about the 15% rent increase and the consequent spiraling of how much it costs to exist. Part of me wants to move on and settle it asap and block it from my brain and beat myself into submission, another wants to distract myself from it completely, both want to get away from the volcano of absolute rage that's ready to spiral out of control and burn everything in its path.
Alright, let's have at it: FUCK you, LL, for trying to come across as understanding or nice, you are NOT my friend, I believe NOTHING about how much you "value" me because if you did you wouldn't be slugging a fucking $75/week increase BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOU FEEL ENTITLED TO MAXIMISE YOUR PROFIT OUT OF PEOPLE'S NEED TO HOUSE THEMSELVES. This is not a relationship you "value" by demanding more money JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN. Just keep it to what it is, this is a TRANSACTIONAL RELATIONSHIP and if you had a smidgeon of empathy you wouldn't fucking highball it at first opportunity. Fuck the fuck off with your attempt to be personable and magnanimous. I will keep my angry outbursts here because I'm not an idiot and I will stay civil but I will NOT grovel. I will be offering absolutely no more leeway on inspections, maintenance, etc. And fuck if I'm going to do a complete spotless clean of the place when I leave - I'm claiming my bond the second I'm out and you can fucking take it to vcat over fair wear and tear for how much you've fucking earned from me over the years especially as you don't even need to pay REA fees. You will get absolutely no more energy from me. You've taken enough. Go get fucked and I hope you DO get worse tenants here on out who make your life a nightmare. Enjoy being a bloodsucking leech. :::
::: spoiler and now for the part where I try to calm myself down Sigh.. Okay. Now the positive of this whole shitshow is, it puts some fire under my arse to sort out my job situation and motivates me to finish up my business in Melbourne and get the fuck out. I've been wanting a change in scenery for ages - first it was "once lockdowns are over", then "once I get PR", then "once I quit my job", then "once my niece settles in"... but this time is it: once I finish up uni in June I am GONE. I knew that studying would involve an earning hit and it was something I needed to invest in for myself. That I'd need to pay myself a bit to get it done.
So, here it is. I'm going to honour my commitment... but the clock has been set. I've been drifting for quite a while trying to get from one week to the next... now at least I know I am approaching the end of a chapter. Closure is coming. I won't forever be stuck in this helltrap of running faster and faster just to stay in place. I will slam the book shut on all the covid/work/friendship yucks, and clear out space in my life for a fresh start. There is relief and determination and growth amidst the anger, and the deep-seated fear and anxiety of not feeling safe and secure of my own housing. I used to feel sad about possibly leaving Melbourne some day, selling up my things, giving away my plants: now I'm honestly ready. will change the narrative. I do not have control over everything, but I will not be a victim; I have so many more options than I used to... I have value beyond paying off someone else's mortgage. I will not be beaten down into misery. I will change the narrative. :::
::: spoiler and now for some practical steps forward...
I need to keep telling myself - I got this. This will be a challenging period going forward. Thank heavens for the cat. Speaking of:
::: spoiler and now for something completely different Number one. The White Area of Do-Not-Touch.
StudChud@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
All I can say is I feel the abject rage towards REs and LLs in my soul and relate hard.
I believe in you, and the list and changes you want to fulfill and make happen. You are intelligent and strong, and you will find peace and happiness away from this place 💜
just_kitten@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Thank you 😭❤️ It means a lot to receive empathy as I have noone at home to vent to and I can't keep it in. I'm just done with trying to survive on my own here, I need to know there is an end point. It doesn't help that I messed up the maths on the amount and it's actually a 21% increase ($115/week). Hahahaha get fucked srsly.
I've already ticked off a few things on the list - at least I have a better idea of timeframes to act on and what my options are. It's a constant battle convincing my nervous system that I'm not trapped, I'm safe, I have a way out, I deserve to exist. I'm so worn out, I'm going to bed.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
hugs
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I hear you. I’ve been on both sides. As a LL where it didn’t cover all expenses not to mention damage just due to having average tenants, but c’est la vie. I’ve probably been a tenant for more years than a LL and I’m generally chill if the rent is stable to point of taking care of easy repairs, but yeah, when it keeps going up, then for sure, you need get them to maintain the property. Even the small things we lodged to get done, some of it has been done by the most dodgiest, useless tradespeople, ever. Definitely don’t bother going out of your way to be accommodating. After a certain point they don’t care anyway.
Only thing I can appreciate is that I’ve been in this one long enough to make a case for aircon. That only took about 5 years (been here longer than that).
You have got this. I hope you feel better. 🖤
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 12 pts · 1y
Oh to be content as a small cat in a shoebox.
Have a great night everyone ❤️
Catfish@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Box 🖤
bacon@aussie.zone · 11 pts · 1y
got home at 1, up at 8:30 for breakfast and movie, home at 1 again tonight, alarm at 4 to see if aurora is here and whether sky is clear
GRINDSET
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 10 pts · 1y
I fucking love Saturdays. Back to bed!
Edit: glad I got rid of the work profile on my phone.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
My favourite sat thing is to get up at 6am like normal, open blinds, brush teeth etc then crawl back into bed
indisin@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
When and why did it become normal for companies to not provide you with a dedicated phone when they expect you to need a phone 24/7?
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Honestly I don't want to carry 2 phones. And having the work profile is optional, not a requirement. Whereas if I was issued a seperate work phone, I'd have to carry it with me.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Good morning
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
👋
just_kitten@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Woke up early but was still all puffy and congested and emotional from last night's shock email. Trying not to let anger take over and focusing on the good things... grateful that I'm catching up with a friend today. Parking in Carlton has really changed. Nearly everything is 2P till 7pm, all my good weekend street parking spots are gone. Fair enough, I just wish there was better PT connection - the new train stations can't open soon enough.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Goodnight everyone. Luv you all. 😘😘😘
Benny@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Goodnight!
Baku@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Eagle@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Because you care about the work you submit, and you want to demonstrate an understanding of the subject matter.
It's okay, I tend to over study too, even though I don't have the time but I'm keen to learn each subject, not just pass it. Welcome to the world of adult learning, Baku, where you feel like a dumbass for caring about what you submit!
Baku@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
Doing extra is never wasted effort. It might not be necessary for the specific report you are doing, but what you learn creates a much better foundation for your future learning, both within the course and in life in general. The things you will be doing in the future will all build on the knowledge you are gaining now, so the less thorough you are now the more you will struggle in the future.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
I agree. Learn the basics very very well now and everything else will be so much easier.
Baku@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Catfish@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
There is a vast difference between learning the subject and writing to the question. It is both depressing and hilarious I once got an HD for an essay on a book I didn’t read. Make of that …
Duenan@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
I remember when I had to write essays for uni that I the ones I really put effort into didn’t score as high as the one I wrote off the cuff one hour before it was due and ended up getting an HD for it.
Sometimes make me wonder about all the effort I put in 🤔
Catfish@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
I used to know the exact time my printer took and the walk to make it to the drop box to get that all important stamp! Not dumb or lazy just need the deadline pantskick
Duenan@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
It’s all skill.
It’s all about precision.
Duenan@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Look on the bright side. Writing more is a lot harder than having to condense and prune an essay.
What might make it easier for you to condense is it focus on making sure you address the key points and see if you’ve duplicated or waffled on about something.
Or see if you make an answer to something concise and straight to the point without being too descriptive.
IE. I walked to my car staring at the sunlight coming down through the clouds, I steadily took my time taking steps slowly to my car and opened the door and sat down then I started my engine and began my journey to the new world.
Short version: I walked to my car and started the engine and drove off.
Just make sure if it’s the assignment is asking you to address points that they are addressed and not skipped over.
Baku@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Duenan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
The word limit is fairly low as well to answer 12 questions.
It’s roughly 30 words per question.
Doesn’t really leave room for an intro or conclusion if you’re sticking to that word limit and if that’s needed.
I hope that helps a little bit.
Baku@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Duenan@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Oohh ok. Now I understand how it’s set out!
Catfish@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
AIATSIS protocols, pick one. Try to describe it in less time than drinking a coke.
Bonus points cite anything by Tui Raven
Baku@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Catfish@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
Cool. But do remember that name.
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
I’ve done nothing today. This probably isn’t helping my physical health or my mood, but the inertia. 😞
bacon@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
It’s Super Star Saturday! Free coffee voucher for those who complete the optional upskill module!
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 15 pts · 1y
The "People and Culture" team would like to remind you that the upskill modules are compulsory and are not to be completed during work hours.
Also note, those who fail to complete the modules by Monday, or do not receive a minimum of 50% pass mark will be placed on a performance management plan.
Vouchers are limited to 1 small coffee when a purchase of $10 or more is made.
Enjoy your weekend!
StudChud@aussie.zone · 12 pts · 1y
Catfish@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
People and Culture should be reminded the Dutch Solution exists.
Taleya@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Mmm will i be paid overtime or time in lieu. I can be a slow tester at times
Duenan@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
Jesus. The thunder is really coming down now.
So loud
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
::: spoiler It's a yellow roses and dragonflies kinda day
:::
Eagle@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Is that Peace? Such a beautiful sweet perfume.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Used to be called the Chicago Peace Rose, now just Peace, a very beautiful rose. 💗 My other fave is the Queen Elizabeth, a heavily scented pink tea rose.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Awesome I was wondering what it was (I saw it on a walk). Really beautiful colours. And I had two special people who are no longer around. One loved yellow roses and the other pink/red so it made me smile 😊
Eagle@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I have Queen Elizabeth, its very vigorous!
Duenan@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
What a beautiful combination of colours.
I’m weirdly attracted to colour hues and gradients sometimes.
Catfish@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Gorgeous!
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
Looks lovely, I like Peace roses
wscholermann@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
StudChud@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 1y
Of course it is, because no one ever really wants to be close to someone struggling with their own mind. They prefer performative care, so they can receive sympathy, but do not actually care about the person truly struggling.
The mentally unwell are chronically alone and lonely, I can attest, with few real, genuine human connections, because they are just there to make others feel good about themselves. Even their death is capitalised upon for further sympathy and attention.
I wonder why I have so few genuine, caring friends, but why wonder when the answer is they don't actually care. They just like others telling them how kind and selfless they are. It's disgusting that the mentally unwell are only "cared for and about" when they're fucking dead and it doesn't mean anything to them.
::: spoiler personal experience My own family, the side I still see, doesn't call or text me despite knowing what I go through, and have suffered through. They never called to check in when I lived through my egg doners severe neglect, just made excuses. They didn't check in when I ended up isolated and raped daily by my ex for 8yrs. But they are quick to say "if you need anything, let us know!". Well I said call me occasionally, just a msg to see how I'm going, and they cannot even do that, so I may as well rot away and they can all have their performative sadness and attention when I pass away. My own dad doesn't even call, even when I initiate contact. So yeah, fuck anyone who pretends they cared, just to take their fill of the attention they obviously so desperately crave. :::
wscholermann@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
So many hugs.
I know I'm just an internet friend but I am always here if you need, you can msg me anytime and if possible i can real life help to if i can.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
experience
::: spoiler spoiler Having very obvious cptsd and the lack of control of emotions and emotional expression that is part of that was a real eye opener.
People can be so fucking cruel. The number of people who saw I couldn't help my feelings and reactions and made me suffer with cruel words was too high. Absolute sadists.
It gave me insight into why many veterans with ptsd commit suicide, the pain is so great and sadists take advantage.
I think one day I will do charity work with vets with ptsd :::
StudChud@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Thank you seagoon, I offer the same to you. Those who understand, understand the importance of human connection and bonding. This community has been a bastion, and you the shining pure gem at its center. 💜
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
It's you everyone comes to see. 😘😘😘
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Death brings out the worst in people. I've seen it up close too many times. People make others deaths about themselves, about how they feel, about their guilt. Because they know they could have done more, whether in the moment or overall, but chose not to. And you know, sometimes they can't do more, sometimes their plate is already overflowing, but that doesn't mean they get to make the death about them.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
Taking my son to watch Seven Samurai at the Astor tomorrow.
Fatherly nerdy bonding
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
Ah that's a sleep in for me! Think I've got shopping on the agenda for today, Elder Minipeeler wants some new clothes. Miniest needs some too, she's got this habit of chewing her shirts. But she's decided to take up crocheting in the past couple of days so she's stopped chewing her shirts as much, being busy with her hands. Then it's baking a cake and wrapping gifts for Mr P's birthday, which we're doing tomorrow out of convenience (he doesn't mind).
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Please post up a cake photo and I’ll be your best friend
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Deal!
Duenan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
I think I’m traumatised from clothes shopping now.
Had to do it for my own well-being and health but jeez it ain’t cheap.
I must know what sort of cake you’re going to make!
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
I think 90% of my wardrobe is Kmart at the moment. It's not bad. Cheapest way to go too
Duenan@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I’ve just come back from Kmart this morning actually.
I bought the super soft pjs to help me sleep. They’re fairly thin too so it’ll keep me cooler as well.
I usually do target and big w but all of them have different things or better things slightly.
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I want to get a print t-shirt with #AnkoForLife on it or something
Duenan@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I’m sure there’s one out there somewhere!
Mittens_meow@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Everything is so short and wide now. They have maximised sizing to fit more people, but it’s all very big and t shirts are short.
StudChud@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 1y
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
Rain coming down thick and fast. I did get the washing dry this morning, so am grateful for that. Have also weeded the pot plants and distributed the spring fertilizer ration, so this rain is perfect.
just_kitten@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
I managed to pull out months of weeds/dead plants and get the fert in on Thu night before soxcat came and very grateful for the timing + this reprieve from watering and so forth. The one upshot of such a gloomy forecast. Gotta throw some seeds in soon...
tombruzzo@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
I showed my girlfriend Life Is Beautiful last night. That movie always hits hard but even more so when you have kids
Baku@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Have you tried Omegle for conversation?
Baku@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Bravo Baku
Baku@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
DolphinLundgrin@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
Muy bueno! Nececito habla mas Espanol, tambien.
Benny@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
I have a flight that is boarding in about 4 hours - currently trying to decide whether to try and get at least a couple of hours of sleep or full send it and stay up 🥴
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Safe travels 💼✈️
Benny@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Thank you very much! Has been going well so far 🙂↕️
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
I’m thinking I make risotto today. Massive batch
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 1y
Kimchi on hot dogs. Discuss..
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Delete the frankfurter. Use a decent sausage instead. Crispy roll, cumberland banger and kimchi - what's not to like.
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
Hmm this is sounding quite good.
Edit: you have your moments..
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Wouldn’t that be a really traditional/usual meal if it was sauerkraut on a bratwurst? Served with pretzel or bread roll
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Yep chuck it on.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Yes
Catfish@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Yes. But delete the hotdog.
MeanElevator@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
Kimchi on anything savoury is good
StudChud@aussie.zone · 0 pts · 1y
indisin@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Satisfactory is far too addictive.
Please send me and Ms. Indisin help that isn't in the form of a notebook or a spreadsheet.
Where did Saturday go? Should probably go finish that production line.
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
BF just hit T4 production and his factory is insane to see. I think he uses some cool YT vids when he's a bit lost.
indisin@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
StudChud@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Sometimes I check the Wi-Fi networks my phone picks up in my building, and they don't disappoint.
::: spoiler paternoster 😂
:::
Duenan@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
I like the Bestwishes warmest regards one.
StudChud@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Duenan@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Shopping done!
Trying out a cafe I haven’t been to today, trying out Drip cafe today.
Hope the coffee is good here.
Not too big of a place here and I’ve taken a front window seat to hopefully see more of the sun.
bacon@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Beep Beep 🚚
🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
StudChud@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
A coffee, and the sweet release of falling apart into my elemental components to be washed away in the foamy gravitational waves.
bacon@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
☕️🌊🥔🌊
Duenan@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Breakfast burger please!
bacon@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
🍳🥓🧀🍔☕️
Duenan@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Thank you Chef!
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Toffee pecan pie with cream please chef :-)
bacon@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
🍭🌰🥧🧁
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Perfect, thank you!
Catfish@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
I can hear an owl 🖤
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Bebbe magpie here. Been practising all night
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
I have a confused honeyeater that talks in the early hours
Catfish@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Got some of those also, they start a bit later
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Ended up with 60mm last night according to the rain gauge. Pretty much in an hour. Insane.
underwatermagpies@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
I have a contented cat curled up on my lap, purring. I am getting hungry and and would quite like some lunch. He says that's not his problem. I guess I'm going hungry until His Fluffiness releases me.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Cola icy pole is best icy pole
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Cannot agree. Passionfruit is my favorite.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
2nd vote for passionfruit.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Splice for the win. Can't beat pine lime.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
splice is not an icy pole tho the pine lime is totes delish
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Yes and no. Its a fusion. That's why it's top tier and above all the ordinary icy poles.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 1y
agree, cola is the best, lemonade/clear second best
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Llab is out past beddy byes…
Aradina@lemmy.ml · 5 pts · 1y
Brain no worky today. No think. NONE.
Except cravings for an HSP but I had one yesterday so brain is gonna have to think less about that
indisin@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
You're an adult (I'm assuming) so there's absolutely nothing stopping you from having a second HSP, it just won't be as good as the first :D
Aradina@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 1y
I'm stopping me! I can do it!
glances longingly at the front door
indisin@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
Nah, you've got this. It's only 1 more HSP and you'll just eat salad tomorrow. Today though is a Saturday and you deserve a treat! You've earned it!
Force_majeure123@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
HSP, HSP!
Aradina@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 1y
Felafel with chilli and BBQ sauce is my preferred hsp. So tasty. Sooo tasty..
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Yum! You’re giving me lunch ideas
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
So… new fancy schmancy washing machine.
Where everything is electronic and painful. I just want to dry off something and check it without having to wait 2 mins for the door to unlock.
At least I’ll be saving water for the environment. Gyah.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
It might have something to do with heat. Some don't allow you to open them until it's safe due to steam.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
That sounds like my old LG steam washer/dryer. The door lock delay was super frustrating and I can't say I ever liked the thing. I ended up going back to a top loader and drying rack and donating the combo unit to an animal rescue.
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Market run complete. I have interesting sausages
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Attempts to time my afternoon walk between showers were a complete and utter failure, we had to abort early. I was able to take off my wet-wool smelling jumper and am now just a bit damp, but Mr Woof had reached Soggy Doggy status and has been tied into his bathrobe.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Does anyone know where there's good turkish restaurant in the Northern suburbs?
Sydney Rd is a nightmare so avoiding that. Not after kebabs unless they serve other stuff.
Duenan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Sorry. I’m not very knowledgable about that stuff.
Can you Google search for Turkish restaurants in Google maps or something? It’s sometimes how I find hidden cafes.
Also just going on a tangent, T20W match at 8pm tonight Aussies vs Sri Lanka but I think it’s on Kayo or something like that.
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I've googled and googled and googled. The good ones don't do dinner on Saturday's. We've got one in mind but if there's any more I'd love to hear it.
Duenan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
How about this one or too far south?
CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
A little bit but it's all good now. Thank you.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
I wore sandals when I went out. Sorry. 😔
Also, i went to the italian supermarket and while there bought a block of nice milk chocolate, I had one square, nibbled it slowly and threw the rest away. It was so delicious.
StudChud@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Bruh, why did you throw the choccie away 😭😭😭
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
otherwise i would have eaten it all
it's bad enough i just ate 4 nougat sweets
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
You did what now?
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Wore sandals, thereby invoking the wrath of the weather gods.. 😔
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Oh. Ok all good. I thought you wasted a perfectly good chocolate.
Carry on🫡
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Gardening question (I'll post it to garden thread also)
TheWitchofThornbury@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Put it in a big pot with a 50/50 garden soil & compost mix. Put pot in shade to semi-shade and protect from excessive wind. Water well and regularly. If you like, after a few months dose with a hydrangea colour fixer as flower colour depends on ph of soil and can be adjusted. Feed once a year with ordinary general fertilizer. Cut back hard after each flowering season. Hydrangeas are fairly tough little buggers so can cope with a bit of neglect but do need protection from too much sun and do need enough water. Some snail bait is a good idea while it's getting adjusted to its new living conditions. Great patio plants if protected from too much sun.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 1y
Thankyou for this. I think Mr P had pretty much decided he was going to move it but had a moment of doubt 😆
Catfish@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
I have no specific advice, but a previous landlord whippersnippered a hydrangea to about 2 inches tall and it recovered. Hardy beasts.
PeelerSheila@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Landlords and whipper snippers shudders
Duenan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
The rain is here. 🌧️
Alamutjones@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Rain sound soothing
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
There will be no rain here but I'm wearing a rain coat to go shopping just in case.
☔
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 1y
I remember going to see this performance , in melbs tho
magic flute in aussie language https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BurovR247oI