I have been saying that every man wants a Morticia but not nearly enough women want a Gomez for YEARS.
That being said, I have also pulled some goth baddies by being a weird little guy who is ferociously affectionate, wildly passionate in his interests, and enjoys his share of swordplay. Hopefully my concerns are misplaced.
Majority of women want a Gomez. So, no clue where you got that phrase from but it's kinda dumb to continue saying. Feels like it's just a rehashing of the NiceGuy™ rhetoric "women only want bad guys who treat them like shit" nonsense.
Honestly the statement wasn't meant to be "women don't want this" so much as "women don't openly express desire for this." Gomez isn't, in my mind, part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desireable male partner is.
Anecdotally, that may be true for your personal experience, I can't speak against that, but I have to mention that what most people believe to be
"part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desirable male partner is" comes from misogynistic cultural norms that predominantly men, not women, have perpetuated; decades of men consistently disregarding the opinions of women and opting to tell them what they want instead of actually listening to their desires.
It's less "women don't openly express desire for this" and more "men don't actually listen, thinking they know better than women about what they 'actually' want".
Gomez is written the way he is specifically because he is a personification of what women actually have been saying for decades that they want in a romantic partner that men have consistently been ignoring. It's kinda the entire point of his character in the Adams Family.
You got me there. That was kind of the whole point of the show, no? To be an anti-nuclear sitcom family, who is, at a glance off putting and evil, but are in reality extremely supportive, caring, and generally what you would want a family to be
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sunoc@sh.itjust.works · 40 pts · 363d
Unironically gender role model
brown567@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 363d
Gomez Addams and Bluey's Dad are my gender goals
TheBeege@lemmy.world · 21 pts · 363d
For the benefit of readers who may not know Mr. Addams or understand why he's so great, should we list out the qualities?
I'll have first go, but would love supplemental info.
Most of my observations are based on the cartoons. Gentlemen, we should all be like Gomez. Other qualities to attribute to this legend?
i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 362d
Supportive of others, even if he doesn't quite understand them.
TheBeege@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 362d
That's a really good one! Especially with Lester, if I remember well
Notyou@sopuli.xyz · 18 pts · 363d
Am I the only one that is bothered that the meme uses the correct "you're" while the transcription uses "your" ?
erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 363d
i simply have no respect for the english language~
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 362d
Fair
NerdInSuspenders@leminal.space · 4 pts · 362d
Or do you mean “fare”?
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 358d
y'roue
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 362d
Your right. You're the only one
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 363d
I have been saying that every man wants a Morticia but not nearly enough women want a Gomez for YEARS. That being said, I have also pulled some goth baddies by being a weird little guy who is ferociously affectionate, wildly passionate in his interests, and enjoys his share of swordplay. Hopefully my concerns are misplaced.
Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 362d
Majority of women want a Gomez. So, no clue where you got that phrase from but it's kinda dumb to continue saying. Feels like it's just a rehashing of the NiceGuy™ rhetoric "women only want bad guys who treat them like shit" nonsense.
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 362d
Honestly the statement wasn't meant to be "women don't want this" so much as "women don't openly express desire for this." Gomez isn't, in my mind, part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desireable male partner is.
Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net · 3 pts · 362d
Anecdotally, that may be true for your personal experience, I can't speak against that, but I have to mention that what most people believe to be "part of the cultural zeitgeist for what a highly desirable male partner is" comes from misogynistic cultural norms that predominantly men, not women, have perpetuated; decades of men consistently disregarding the opinions of women and opting to tell them what they want instead of actually listening to their desires.
It's less "women don't openly express desire for this" and more "men don't actually listen, thinking they know better than women about what they 'actually' want".
Gomez is written the way he is specifically because he is a personification of what women actually have been saying for decades that they want in a romantic partner that men have consistently been ignoring. It's kinda the entire point of his character in the Adams Family.
BreakerSwitch@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 362d
You got me there. That was kind of the whole point of the show, no? To be an anti-nuclear sitcom family, who is, at a glance off putting and evil, but are in reality extremely supportive, caring, and generally what you would want a family to be