Bwahaha, it's almost always gone the other way for me. Fuck first, then decide if we want to go out. I really despise guys who like "the chase" then lose interest, and I like guys who like sex. In my experience those guys are actually better at dating or monogamy or whatever.
My husband and I did go on one date and didn't fuck, the first time we met, because I had to go back & pick up my kids, and the next one was just sex at his house and what's funny is that both of us said that was the first time we'd had a date without sex.
One or two. I thought about this as a metric in my early 20s, but now I prefer to meet in a public place for lunch or coffee or something, then sex can follow or not. It's a routine that affords more safety than a random hookup at a bar or an app or something.
For my own part, a couple of dates (3+), or at least spending a decent amount of time together, long enough to know that I probably want a relationship with the person.
I find sex to be quite intimate and emotional, which is why I'm more selective.
As few as possible. It is completely dependent on the other person. That can range first date to over 6+ months over my dating history. Different strokes for different folks.
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RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com · 6 pts · 1y
Bwahaha, it's almost always gone the other way for me. Fuck first, then decide if we want to go out. I really despise guys who like "the chase" then lose interest, and I like guys who like sex. In my experience those guys are actually better at dating or monogamy or whatever.
My husband and I did go on one date and didn't fuck, the first time we met, because I had to go back & pick up my kids, and the next one was just sex at his house and what's funny is that both of us said that was the first time we'd had a date without sex.
Mickey7@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
good point about ending the male game quickly of how often do i have to see her before she let's me fuck her
lazyneet@programming.dev · 5 pts · 1y
One or two. I thought about this as a metric in my early 20s, but now I prefer to meet in a public place for lunch or coffee or something, then sex can follow or not. It's a routine that affords more safety than a random hookup at a bar or an app or something.
SmuttyLad@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 1y
For my own part, a couple of dates (3+), or at least spending a decent amount of time together, long enough to know that I probably want a relationship with the person.
I find sex to be quite intimate and emotional, which is why I'm more selective.
dugmeup@lemmynsfw.com · 3 pts · 1y
As few as possible. It is completely dependent on the other person. That can range first date to over 6+ months over my dating history. Different strokes for different folks.
ThunderQueen@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 3 pts · 1y
Mickey7@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
Enjoying a physical interaction does not make you a slut
KrombopulosMikl@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
3 for me and my gf
KrombopulosMikl@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
It was 3 for my gf and me
pinkpint@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
Its usually 3 dates before I'm open to fucking.
Mickey7@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
On that first interaction do you ever consider using just your hand or mouth rather than penis in vagina?
pinkpint@lemmynsfw.com · 2 pts · 1y
The first time usually is just hands and mouths for me.