Very poorly. I ruminate on them for literally decades and have frequent anxiety attacks. I'm working on it, though. I've begun studying & practicing Buddhism and have found it very helpful.
It's rough when I don't end up doing the things that are expected to be done of me. Mainly in regards to work. But, yeah, trying to remind yourself that you literally have disabilities and it's not your fault, does help a bit
I am sick to god-damn death of having my exceptional abilities turned into illnesses!
I have driven myself to the point of stress induced disability trying to learn how to convey meaning clearly. Like many ND, I can intuit large conceptual leaps, often correctly. But not always. So I learned to do my homework, fill in the gaps for others (and frankly myself, as I am not always correct and have learned to curb my enthusiasm when my disciplined research shows this).
At this point, after a modest amount of that sort of effort, I am now inclined to tell people to do their own god-damn homework. If they aren’t gonna try, fuck em.
To give proper credit to your original question then. Assuming that others share the drive to discover the actual truth in a situation and are willing to do what it takes to get there may be regarded as an ‘ND mistake’.
Have vivid flashbacks of the encounter and beat myself up about it for about 3 days. Then move on after I've allowed myself to process it long enough. Sometimes experience the flashback again, but not as frequently.
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ALoafOfBread@lemmy.ml · 22 pts · 324d
Very poorly. I ruminate on them for literally decades and have frequent anxiety attacks. I'm working on it, though. I've begun studying & practicing Buddhism and have found it very helpful.
phoenixarise@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 324d
Remind myself that it’s not my fault, and I’m doing my best. I’m doing everything I can to accomodate myself, and that includes forgiving myself.
Hadriscus@jlai.lu · 6 pts · 324d
yes. You have to give yourself some leeway
Yuki@kutsuya.dev · 14 pts · 324d
Usually hide myself from everyone
Senseless@feddit.org · 12 pts · 324d
idk why, but I needed this right now. Thanks.
LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 324d
You're welcome
lightnsfw@reddthat.com · 7 pts · 322d
Suppress my emotions all day and then mentally beat the shit out of myself as I fall asleep. Also in the shower and while driving.
SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 323d
It's rough when I don't end up doing the things that are expected to be done of me. Mainly in regards to work. But, yeah, trying to remind yourself that you literally have disabilities and it's not your fault, does help a bit
kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 322d
I beat myself up over it and then wonder why I despise myself. Then I continue to hate myself anyway.
Strider@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 322d
I only count myself to neurodivergent since this year and am wondering: mistake by whose standard?
And what would be 'classic neurodiverse mistakes'?
porksnort@slrpnk.net · 3 pts · 322d
I may have a similar perspective?
Let’s see.
I am sick to god-damn death of having my exceptional abilities turned into illnesses!
I have driven myself to the point of stress induced disability trying to learn how to convey meaning clearly. Like many ND, I can intuit large conceptual leaps, often correctly. But not always. So I learned to do my homework, fill in the gaps for others (and frankly myself, as I am not always correct and have learned to curb my enthusiasm when my disciplined research shows this).
At this point, after a modest amount of that sort of effort, I am now inclined to tell people to do their own god-damn homework. If they aren’t gonna try, fuck em.
Strider@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 322d
I see you've already jumped to a possible result 👍. Exactly what I was aiming for, basically hard earned honest self respect and worth.
But the basic question was also a factual one, I really don't know what is meant by typical neurodivergent mistakes.
porksnort@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 322d
To give proper credit to your original question then. Assuming that others share the drive to discover the actual truth in a situation and are willing to do what it takes to get there may be regarded as an ‘ND mistake’.
Strider@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 321d
I see, thanks.
Formfiller@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 322d
Frozen in Existential crisis
kinther@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 322d
Have vivid flashbacks of the encounter and beat myself up about it for about 3 days. Then move on after I've allowed myself to process it long enough. Sometimes experience the flashback again, but not as frequently.