Will I ever stop feeling like I need to “prove” my trans-ness to myself? Like, I know that I am, but it’s that obnoxious intrusive thought “but what if you’re just faking?” that keeps coming back
But what about that time you put sweets containers under your pjamas to simulate breasts?
Fetish thing
YOU'RE ACE
Ace people can have fetishes
But what about that time someone asked you whether you'd rather be a boy or a girl and you answered "there's advantages and disadvantages to both, right?"?
She was a girl and I didn't want to offend her by implying her gender was less desirable to be
Why do play female characters so often, even when male ones are available?
I play just as many male ones and always chose the male character in avatar creators
Because you want to or because you feel you have to?
Because I'm lazy and just make a character to match my face
Why are so many of your OCs women and girls?
Because I don't want to be sexist, even within the sanctuary of my own mind
Why are you so concerned about sexism? You're a misanthrope
Because I might get cancelled
In your own mind?
1984 style thought crime legislation is coming any day now!
Why did you change your name to [redacted] on your DS?
For like a minute! Geez, why are you reading into that one at all
Why do you remember that one at all?
Which is a bigger stretch: A cis person experiencing all of these things, or you being trans?
Honestly, past signs are the least important indicator of whether or not someone is trans. Wanting to be another gender right now is the best proof one can find.
If you can point to signs from before you even had language for your experiences, you have a silver bullet against the "indoctornated" argument. What, were executives of the pharmactical industry projecting into my dreams with animal magnatism?
One of my happiest childhood memories was being mistaken for a girl
I enjoyed dressing as a girl in a stage show I was part of that used boys dressed as girls as a joke
I more often than not use androgynous or feminine avatars in computer games
But I'm very comfortable in my male skin. I'm quite certainly cis. The stuff as a kid was just because I had a big sister I looked up to, the games, I don't know, roleplaying as something you're not is fun, maybe
nu!!!!!!! >;( nu i dun.... wan that.... yet-.........,,, feels like....,.... feels like ur writing a test, and u kno ur like - nit well prepared at all and most ur answers r wrong - but then teach comes around n says "woowwww thats do guuddddd does an air kiss".,.. u kno?... like - not in the evil way, but..., in a way where the student just.... cant agree.... u kno?,..
and then theres me who can't remember my childhood. was there signs? probably, i just cant find any because i dont remember anything. before started transitioning i was just some hollow husk or shell, some pound of flesh.
which is the best evidence for me being trans, i guess.
An early sign, you say? Like back when I was five years old in kindergarten, would that be early enough? Nah, I don't think so. That probably didn't mean anything.
26 Comments
compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 261d
Will I ever stop feeling like I need to “prove” my trans-ness to myself? Like, I know that I am, but it’s that obnoxious intrusive thought “but what if you’re just faking?” that keeps coming back
Bryllyg@piefed.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 261d
Have you ever read Mia Violet's memoir? I found a few things there that really helped. She's a good writer. it's called "Am I Trans Enough?"
compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 261d
I read it once before, and I really enjoyed it! Maybe I should read it again
KernelTale@programming.dev · 8 pts · 261d
This feels personal :P
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 261d
It's a common experience really :3
KernelTale@programming.dev · 5 pts · 261d
it is but it has been only 4 hours (or so idk; time is broken on this OS) since we had a small discussion.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 261d
I post here every 3 days, so I'm only doing my usual duty ;3
TheGingerNut@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 260d
But what about that time you put sweets containers under your pjamas to simulate breasts?
Fetish thing YOU'RE ACE Ace people can have fetishes
But what about that time someone asked you whether you'd rather be a boy or a girl and you answered "there's advantages and disadvantages to both, right?"?
She was a girl and I didn't want to offend her by implying her gender was less desirable to be
Why do play female characters so often, even when male ones are available?
I play just as many male ones and always chose the male character in avatar creators
Because you want to or because you feel you have to?
Because I'm lazy and just make a character to match my face
Why are so many of your OCs women and girls?
Because I don't want to be sexist, even within the sanctuary of my own mind
Why are you so concerned about sexism? You're a misanthrope
Because I might get cancelled
In your own mind?
1984 style thought crime legislation is coming any day now!
Why did you change your name to [redacted] on your DS?
For like a minute! Geez, why are you reading into that one at all
Why do you remember that one at all?
Which is a bigger stretch: A cis person experiencing all of these things, or you being trans?
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 260d
Honestly, past signs are the least important indicator of whether or not someone is trans. Wanting to be another gender right now is the best proof one can find.
TheGingerNut@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 260d
If you can point to signs from before you even had language for your experiences, you have a silver bullet against the "indoctornated" argument. What, were executives of the pharmactical industry projecting into my dreams with animal magnatism?
psud@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 257d
One of my happiest childhood memories was being mistaken for a girl
I enjoyed dressing as a girl in a stage show I was part of that used boys dressed as girls as a joke
I more often than not use androgynous or feminine avatars in computer games
But I'm very comfortable in my male skin. I'm quite certainly cis. The stuff as a kid was just because I had a big sister I looked up to, the games, I don't know, roleplaying as something you're not is fun, maybe
TheGingerNut@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 257d
Why not try some voice training.
If you're not trans then you can have some fun roleplaying as something you're not, which you state above is fun, maybe
If you are trans then there'll never be an easier time than now, before your egg cracks and you actually start feeling the dysphoria
QueenMidna@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 260d
I'm 100% able to reassure and affirm everyone.
Everyone except me. I'm clearly lying and making it all up
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 260d
Valid for thee, but not for me
Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.org · 4 pts · 261d
Urghh ain't that the truth.
LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 261d
Too real 🥲
Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 261d
thats meeeeeeeeeee \(>//v//<)/
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 261d
Hmm, right next to your name it says "valid and very good girl." I wonder why? (´･ω･`)
Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 260d
thats prolli jus on ur side, prolli som bug--- try clearing the cache-
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 260d
Still says it. Guess it must be true! (⁀ᗢ⁀)
Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 260d
shakes head nonono.,.,. no.................. no.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 260d
Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 260d
noooooonononononoonononononnoonononoonoooonoooooonoononoooooooooooononno! NOnonooonononoonononnonooonooonononooooooononononooonononnononononononononnoonononnono
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nu!!!!!!! >;( nu i dun.... wan that.... yet-.........,,, feels like....,.... feels like ur writing a test, and u kno ur like - nit well prepared at all and most ur answers r wrong - but then teach comes around n says "woowwww thats do guuddddd does an air kiss".,.. u kno?... like - not in the evil way, but..., in a way where the student just.... cant agree.... u kno?,..
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 260d
It's ok, you've done well. Most good girls struggle to accept their goodness :)
luce@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 259d
and then theres me who can't remember my childhood. was there signs? probably, i just cant find any because i dont remember anything. before started transitioning i was just some hollow husk or shell, some pound of flesh.
which is the best evidence for me being trans, i guess.
LordAmplifier@pawb.social · 3 pts · 261d
An early sign, you say? Like back when I was five years old in kindergarten, would that be early enough? Nah, I don't think so. That probably didn't mean anything.