Yeah, this is great advice. It's unfortunate when pressure to do social niceties holds you back from enjoying meaningful connection with people. Some people are better at remembering dates than others, and caring enough to ask (and put it in one's calendar) is at least as powerful a gesture as actually remembering it.
OP could take a jokey tone to things, such as by expressing surprise that she was able to remember, and then asking what her birthday is
It's just a running joke for greentexts to call them "fake and gay", which became having to come up with some justification to attach both labels to the story instead of just saying it is. This is completely regardless of what the greentext actually consists of.
The more you have to stretch to make the labels fit, the funnier it is.
Yeah, and I find it funny precisely because of the stretching to make the labels — it makes it feel like it's making fun of people who would unironically call things fake and gay in a manner that was nihilistic and homophobic.
It's similar to how I hate the "git gud" gatekeeping that can be quite prominent amongst fans of games like Dark Souls. However, I take great joy in saying "git gud" in a context where it's patently absurd, like when my housemate arrives home completely drenched from torrential rain. It turns the joke back on the gatekeepy rhetoric
I used to behave this way, but people took me seriously every time. Like saying Veterans should die off, because they are no longer of use (as criticism to our way of seeing humans as expendable) and I became very hated for this.
Ok. Well recognition is a huge hill to overcome. But coping with humor isn't always bad, communication is a skill that comes with and requires practice.
I hope you find out how to be you while not feeling like you are pushing people away.
Did you read it buddy? They broke up and he visited her because she had cancer. He's basically just happy she didn't fucking die. Where are you getting that she used him as a stepping stone from?
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redditmademedoit@piefed.zip · 100 pts · 172d
Gay: didn't wish for a blowjob, fake: she probably thinks of him too.
Wicked@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 45d
Your empathy called, it wants you back.
nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 44d
why would you necro this just to show that you don't understand how greentexts work
Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone · 69 pts · 171d
My ex from 16 years ago (16 year olds) wished me happy birthday the other week. Was weird we're both married with kids and never speak at all
slaacaa@lemmy.world · 66 pts · 171d
She’s DTF
(Doing The Friendship)
Beryl@jlai.lu · 29 pts · 171d
Weird but sweet anyway
Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone · 12 pts · 171d
Yeah just way outta the blue, now the real question is so I have to remember hers now? Cause I don't think i do haha
obelisk_complex@piefed.ca · 11 pts · 171d
If you want to, ask her and put it in your calendar! It's always nice to know someone remembers you fondly enough to send well wishes 😊
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net · 6 pts · 171d
Yeah, this is great advice. It's unfortunate when pressure to do social niceties holds you back from enjoying meaningful connection with people. Some people are better at remembering dates than others, and caring enough to ask (and put it in one's calendar) is at least as powerful a gesture as actually remembering it.
OP could take a jokey tone to things, such as by expressing surprise that she was able to remember, and then asking what her birthday is
anonklay@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 171d
why is it weird? I do that too.
k0e3@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 171d
Because you're weird
anonklay@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 170d
i learn nothing from this
k0e3@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 170d
You weren't supposed to because it's a joke.
luxadazy@lemmy.zip · 1 pts · 171d
mnemonicmonkeys@sh.itjust.works · 68 pts · 171d
I gotta admit, I like wholesome greentexts
cabillaud@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 170d
Wholesome? Or mushy?
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world · 56 pts · 172d
Dialectical_Specialist@quokk.au · 54 pts · 172d
fug where is the funny!?! 😭
peteypete420@sh.itjust.works · 49 pts · 171d
Fake: anon had a girlfriend
Gay: anon had dated someone who had sex with a man
MonkderVierte@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 171d
I seriously don't get what's fun about this nihilism and gay-shaming.
damnedfurry@lemmy.world · 55 pts · 171d
It's just a running joke for greentexts to call them "fake and gay", which became having to come up with some justification to attach both labels to the story instead of just saying it is. This is completely regardless of what the greentext actually consists of.
The more you have to stretch to make the labels fit, the funnier it is.
AnarchistArtificer@slrpnk.net · 32 pts · 171d
Yeah, and I find it funny precisely because of the stretching to make the labels — it makes it feel like it's making fun of people who would unironically call things fake and gay in a manner that was nihilistic and homophobic.
It's similar to how I hate the "git gud" gatekeeping that can be quite prominent amongst fans of games like Dark Souls. However, I take great joy in saying "git gud" in a context where it's patently absurd, like when my housemate arrives home completely drenched from torrential rain. It turns the joke back on the gatekeepy rhetoric
yermaw@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 170d
"Sorry Im late, the bridge collapsed and I had to take an alternate route"
"Skill issue tbh"
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · -2 pts · 170d
I used to behave this way, but people took me seriously every time. Like saying Veterans should die off, because they are no longer of use (as criticism to our way of seeing humans as expendable) and I became very hated for this.
Krauerking@lemy.lol · 7 pts · 170d
Genuine question.
Can you see how that is not an obvious absurdist extreme and just sounds like an extreme position that would upset people?
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 170d
I was not an adult, and rather troubled. I coped in very poor ways.
Krauerking@lemy.lol · 4 pts · 170d
Ok. Well recognition is a huge hill to overcome. But coping with humor isn't always bad, communication is a skill that comes with and requires practice.
I hope you find out how to be you while not feeling like you are pushing people away.
Syndication@lemmy.today · 41 pts · 171d
Ngl I thought this was going to be a really fucked up greentext as soon as I read the word "cancer".
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · -27 pts · 170d
RepleteLocum@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 23 pts · 170d
Sometimes relationships just don't work out?
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · -22 pts · 170d
Coolkat@slrpnk.net · 19 pts · 170d
Username checks out
Zos_Kia@jlai.lu · 15 pts · 170d
What a strange take. He's a loser because he has an ex?
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · -15 pts · 170d
MrShankles@reddthat.com · 15 pts · 170d
Not sure if trolling or projecting... hope you're actually doing well though
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 0 pts · 170d
man_wtfhappenedtoyou@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 170d
Did you read it buddy? They broke up and he visited her because she had cancer. He's basically just happy she didn't fucking die. Where are you getting that she used him as a stepping stone from?
Gorillazrule@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 170d
Had me in the first half till I saw the username.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 170d
Ok, some downvotes are expected, but like 30 out of nowhere is a clear sign of a bot account. How petty and self-righteous can you be?
EDIT: Also, no one gets to view the original comment, or get to see the argument now. You don't deserve it, nor will I ever be honest again.
NotBillMurray@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 170d
Is this some fucked up online performance art?
pulsey@feddit.org · 1 pts · 170d
user name is a hint
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz · 40 pts · 171d
I did not expect anything wholesome from this c/...
glibg@lemmy.ca · 35 pts · 171d
Surprisingly touching, thanks for sharing
desiccated_event@piefed.blahaj.zone · 28 pts · 172d
Thank you, Anon.
DaedalousIlios@pawb.social · 15 pts · 170d
This anon's alright!
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org · 8 pts · 170d
And not exactly alt-right!
tetris11@feddit.uk · 3 pts · 166d
*hoooh yeeeaah*
Threat Level: Alright
Not neccesarily alt-right
From Pepe on a peddling /pol/ site
He's a threat, a level
A level level threat
He's the tamest 4channer
I've ever seen yet
Threat level what? Alright
Threat level who? 4channer
Threat level why? Epstein files, gotta release 'em, peace I'm out!
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org · 2 pts · 166d
I was thinking of the song The Kids Are Alt-Right by Bad Religion, but this works too
DaedalousIlios@pawb.social · 3 pts · 170d
Nice one! Take an updoot!
yuriRO@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 13 pts · 172d
Fuck man, i was not ready
RacerX@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 171d
Can confirm. Am bassist for Northstar.
Aeri@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 168d
Imagine fumbling so hard that you don't get with a girl who is so into you that she wants you around while she's dying of cancer.