How many times has an improvement to society been suggested and "Well, I never had that, so why should others?" pops up, and something that could help a lot of people just gets tossed aside because somebody wants everyone to suffer as they have.
My sense is that a lot of the people who say, “Well, I never had that, so why should others?” fail to recognize or remember the kindnesses and support they did receive. i.e.: they'll also say, "I grew up the child of a single mom on welfare - no one gave us anything." There's a specific right-winger I'm thinking of, but I can't remember his name.
I think apart from the spelling mistake there is one logical error in it for maximum kindness. It excludes all of those people who were fortunate enough to be surrounded by kindness. If they weren't denied any kindness they're allowed to be assholes.
It's a variation on the theme of "do unto others as you would have others do unto you." "Meet all people with kindness who mean you no harm." could be a rephrasing that balances maximizing outward kindness with a necessary amount of self defense.
22 Comments
ghost@literature.cafe · 48 pts · 141d
the better way to express it would be to spell ‘were’ instead of ‘where’
Beth@piefed.social · 32 pts · 141d
“Be the adult you needed when you were younger” is my version.
BlameTheAntifa@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 141d
This is a much better version. Thank you for this, I’m going to use it.
Beth@piefed.social · 3 pts · 141d
Of course. I tend to utilize it across age groups due to some trauma. This is how I became “work mom” at 38, lol.
remon@ani.social · 20 pts · 141d
kate@lemmy.uhhoh.com · 12 pts · 141d
be the elephant you want to see in the room
biggerbogboy@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 141d
InvalidName2@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 141d
The doctor told me I need to lose 10 lbs. Now you're telling me I need to be an elephant. I don't know whose advice I should be taking.
kate@lemmy.uhhoh.com · 2 pts · 141d
i’d tell you not to take my advice but 🫣
daychilde@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 141d
be
all that you can be
in the ARMY
bsit@sopuli.xyz · 12 pts · 141d
Yes, but "people" must include oneself as well. Else it just becomes another people-pleaser mantra.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 141d
I feel this is bigger than most people realize.
How many times has an improvement to society been suggested and "Well, I never had that, so why should others?" pops up, and something that could help a lot of people just gets tossed aside because somebody wants everyone to suffer as they have.
tburkhol@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 141d
My sense is that a lot of the people who say, “Well, I never had that, so why should others?” fail to recognize or remember the kindnesses and support they did receive. i.e.: they'll also say, "I grew up the child of a single mom on welfare - no one gave us anything." There's a specific right-winger I'm thinking of, but I can't remember his name.
showmeyourkizinti@startrek.website · 4 pts · 141d
Craig T. Nelson is a huge asshole.
em2@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 141d
Crabs in a bucket.
BestBouclettes@jlai.lu · 6 pts · 141d
"Treat people how you wish to be treated " is mine
melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 141d
The old "do unto others' maxim. I agree.
FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website · 4 pts · 141d
I think apart from the spelling mistake there is one logical error in it for maximum kindness. It excludes all of those people who were fortunate enough to be surrounded by kindness. If they weren't denied any kindness they're allowed to be assholes.
It's a variation on the theme of "do unto others as you would have others do unto you." "Meet all people with kindness who mean you no harm." could be a rephrasing that balances maximizing outward kindness with a necessary amount of self defense.
shyguyblue@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 141d
I made a vow in my twenties: Think about how my sperm donor would handle a situation/person and do the exact opposite...
sad_detective_man@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 141d
you got way too many downvotes for what's advice
InvalidName2@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 141d
Okay however many people where you denied about?
corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 141d
Was it there? Over there?