Can't tell if my own girlfriend sees me that way and if she's into women

So this may sound silly. I (19F) posted about how my girlfriend (18F) doesn't see a future with me and instead is planning to marry a guy. She also may have biological children in the future and talks about it sometimes. Now, part of it is because her family will apparently hate her if she ever marries/has a long-term relationship with a woman, but the other half, I'm not too sure. Yesterday when we saw each other and we were hanging out with our aroace friend (almost 21NB), my girlfriend says she's had crushes on women and men, so she considers herself bisexual, but she also talks about her crushes on women in the past and stuff and says "I don't know if I actually saw them as more than a friend".

I probably shouldn't feel insecure, but given everything she's talked about, I feel like she might see me as just a friend and just THOUGHT she liked me but she continues to date me, so I don't know. Liking men and all, she hardly talks about attractive women either as she doesn't know if she has crushes on them and she usually talks about attractive men and stuff.

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Klarinette245@feddit.org · 9 pts · 129d (2 replies)

Update again: Taking everyone's advice, I asked my gf if she would agree to just stay friends

TheOctonaut@piefed.zip · 3 pts · 128d

It very much sounds like you were already just friends.

Aneb@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 127d

Hey honey, take some me time. Go for a walk, don't over think. Listen to "Stop" from the mean girls musical album. You haven't lost anything cause she wasn't "yours" anyway. Sorry for your loss but there will be so many more people who are capable of loving and understanding you. Hang on there

endless_nameless@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 128d

If a partner says they don't see a future with you I think the relationship is pretty much done and dusted

verolena@feddit.nl · 8 pts · 129d (1 reply)

maybe she’s bisexual heteromantic??

Klarinette245@feddit.org · 5 pts · 129d

Maybe 🤔

Rumo161@feddit.org · 5 pts · 129d (6 replies)

She "may or may not" have biological children?!?!? Shouldnt she know? Does she just wont tell you? This sounds like a red flag to me. I understand if she isnt quite sure about her sexuality with social pressure going on and stuff. But having (multiple?) children and only being vaguily open about it seems off.

Klarinette245@feddit.org · 9 pts · 129d (1 reply)

No like in the future, she may or may not plan to have biological children

Rumo161@feddit.org · 1 pts · 128d

Oh sorry. Apperently i cant read.

Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 127d (3 replies)
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xav@programming.dev · 3 pts · 127d (1 reply)

This. Both of you have plenty of time to make other experiences and change your mind about many things. Don't stress, enjoy the moment and change something if the moment isn't enjoyable.

Source : am old.

Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 127d
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Rumo161@feddit.org · 1 pts · 127d

I missundertood the Text. Apperently i have terrible reading comprehension.