So this may sound silly. I (19F) posted about how my girlfriend (18F) doesn't see a future with me and instead is planning to marry a guy. She also may have biological children in the future and talks about it sometimes. Now, part of it is because her family will apparently hate her if she ever marries/has a long-term relationship with a woman, but the other half, I'm not too sure. Yesterday when we saw each other and we were hanging out with our aroace friend (almost 21NB), my girlfriend says she's had crushes on women and men, so she considers herself bisexual, but she also talks about her crushes on women in the past and stuff and says "I don't know if I actually saw them as more than a friend".
I probably shouldn't feel insecure, but given everything she's talked about, I feel like she might see me as just a friend and just THOUGHT she liked me but she continues to date me, so I don't know. Liking men and all, she hardly talks about attractive women either as she doesn't know if she has crushes on them and she usually talks about attractive men and stuff.
11 Comments
Klarinette245@feddit.org · 9 pts · 129d
Update again: Taking everyone's advice, I asked my gf if she would agree to just stay friends
TheOctonaut@piefed.zip · 3 pts · 128d
It very much sounds like you were already just friends.
Aneb@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 127d
Hey honey, take some me time. Go for a walk, don't over think. Listen to "Stop" from the mean girls musical album. You haven't lost anything cause she wasn't "yours" anyway. Sorry for your loss but there will be so many more people who are capable of loving and understanding you. Hang on there
endless_nameless@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 128d
If a partner says they don't see a future with you I think the relationship is pretty much done and dusted
verolena@feddit.nl · 8 pts · 129d
maybe she’s bisexual heteromantic??
Klarinette245@feddit.org · 5 pts · 129d
Maybe 🤔
Rumo161@feddit.org · 5 pts · 129d
She "may or may not" have biological children?!?!? Shouldnt she know? Does she just wont tell you? This sounds like a red flag to me. I understand if she isnt quite sure about her sexuality with social pressure going on and stuff. But having (multiple?) children and only being vaguily open about it seems off.
Klarinette245@feddit.org · 9 pts · 129d
No like in the future, she may or may not plan to have biological children
Rumo161@feddit.org · 1 pts · 128d
Oh sorry. Apperently i cant read.
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 127d
xav@programming.dev · 3 pts · 127d
This. Both of you have plenty of time to make other experiences and change your mind about many things. Don't stress, enjoy the moment and change something if the moment isn't enjoyable.
Source : am old.
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 127d
Rumo161@feddit.org · 1 pts · 127d
I missundertood the Text. Apperently i have terrible reading comprehension.