I read people say online that Americans are loud. What does this mean, exactly? Is it literal volume or is it our personality/presentation? Something else?
I may be moving to Australia because of my wife’s job, and I want to better understand this. I want to assimilate and I don’t want to be annoying. I’m personally pretty low key and listen more than speak, but this is my perception of myself.
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schwim@piefed.zip · 55 pts · 68d
Sometimes literally loud(New Jersey residents raise your hands), but usually also overbearing, painfully extroverted, having to control conversations, injecting themselves into what didn't need them, etc.
I'm not judging from the outside. As an American that at one time was married to an Australian, we met when I was stationed there and we were both at the same base so I would see how my squadmates behaved then later when they had gone off to the racks, I'd get to hear the Aussie service members mock and laugh at some of the behaviors of the guys I came over with. They would joke that I had to be an immigrant because I rarely talked.
It's not an "all Americans do this" type of thing, it's that the Americans that do this are so impactful in a negative way that it becomes a cliched caricature. If you're not that type of person, you won't need to do anything to assimilate, you'll fit in just fine. Those folks were some of the best people I've ever met in my life and they were very welcoming and inclusive.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 68d
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! Your last paragraph is pretty much what I was thinking, but I also wanted to gather some opinions.
I will just be myself and hopefully be one of the ones that leaves a great impression. I am finishing my masters degree in elementary education and I hope to eventually get a job teaching over there if we move. I am so excited to learn their culture and history. It’ll be an awesome experience to have my knowledge and learn theirs while sharing between us.
gwl@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 28 pts · 67d
Another factor, there's so few of you that escape the country (only 48% of you have a passport) that the only ones folks in EU mostly see are;
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
This is absolutely true. The American Dream carrot keeps us from spending and learning about others. If we did that, we might have some legit options that help the people. We don’t want that though!
Thanks for the reply!
AndyMFK@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 26 pts · 67d
Volume for sure, but also Americans seem to be largely incapable of experiencing silence. They tend to fill silence as if they love the sound of their own voice.
Obviously this isn't all Americans, and my only experience of Americans are when they're tourists.
You say you listen more than you speak so you're probably fine. Even just asking about how to not be annoying shows you have more self awareness than any American I've ever met
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 67d
Thank you so much for your reply!
The constant talking thing is definitely cultural. Americans get nervous during silence in conversations because we think there is something wrong like we’re not interesting or people don’t value us or something. It’s absolutely our own stupid hang up.
thisbenzingring@lemmy.today · 21 pts · 68d
you will not be a loud American in Australia, they won't allow you to be louder then they are
its bizzaro world down under
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 68d
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I only visited Sydney and Cairns, but they were definitely not loud to me. They seemed the same as most Americans that I know. Maybe that’s the point though? I don’t notice how loud we are in actuality?
Mothra@mander.xyz · 4 pts · 68d
I don't think you would notice just walking down the street. Try being in an environment where you actually deal with people consistently over time, such as a classroom, an office, or a place where you volunteer.
THE_GR8_MIKE@lemmy.world · 19 pts · 67d
As a Midwestern American, my girlfriend and I went abroad on a trip that happens to be where cruise ships dock. We did not take a cruise. However, the most annoying people we met on the entire trip were southerners from the US. Just everything about them was the worst. Every stereotype you can imagine was being presented. They were god fearing and cheeto loving, and they made it known. We weren't even in the US, for fuck's sake. The cherry on top, for me, was every single American store we passed on the tour bus, one of them had to yell the name of the store. "SAYAM'S CLUHHHB"..."WAYNDEES" Like, can you shut the fuck up? It was, right then, in that exact moment, it hit me like a bolt of lightning, no wonder people say Americans are loud and annoying. Because the vocal yokels absolutely are.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
Oof. We Americans are such douchebags sometimes. Hello fellow Midwesterner! I’m in the Chicago area myself currently.
Thanks for your insight and anecdote!
pianoplant@lemmy.world · 18 pts · 68d
I flew back to America from Tokyo today and as a frequent traveler to Japan I can tell you it's all of the above. As a very introverted, easily overstimulated person I love going to Japan because it's my 'quiet time'. Coming home I'm usually overwhelmed by the sheer noise of being in America.
Hopefully this didn't come across too much as venting. I can't wait to go back.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 68d
Thank you for your answer! It’s definitely not coming across as venting. You have some great thoughts and the idea about standing further away when speaking really hits home to me as something I’ve been thinking might be part of the reason for our loudness as I’ve been reading other answers.
Thanks for the Tokyo insight as well. Our family has booked a trip to Japan this Fall, so we’ve been trying to brush up on culture and language as best we can so we aren’t total assholes over there. 😂
queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 68d
I've been told by non-Americans that Americans (myself included):
edit: since you mentioned Australia, I'll point out that I've heard this primarily from European, Indian and Southeast Asian software developers I've worked with. I've worked with fewer Australians, and as far as I can recall we never discussed American stereotypes directly, but my impression is that they're much closer to the US culturally, loudness / brashness-wise. Curious to hear from Aussies if you think my impression is correct.
chunes@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 68d
There's a whole wikipedia article about the "American lean." https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/American_lean
American spies are trained not to do it.
queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 68d
That's very funny. Has it really been a "thing" recently? I feel like it's been years since I've heard someone mention it. Maybe it got subliminally resurfaced.
MurrayL@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Almost all of the references on that wiki page are from the last couple of months - I assume it’s been trending on social media recently.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 68d
I definitely agree that many Americans butt in frequently. As someone that tends to be more of an observer, the moments I do talk o tend to get cut off and it’s annoying as absolute fuck.
I never thought about the leaning on things. I’m a bigger dude, which is probably mostly because of my poor choices, but I do know that I lean on things a lot to relieve stress on other body parts. That really comes down to needing to lose weight and lose my bad habits.
Thanks for this comment!
sasquash@sopuli.xyz · 16 pts · 68d
As European travelling in Asia at the moment, I notice this a lot.
There are loud people from all countries, and Americans are at least pretty nice usually. But in my opinion it's true, you are also louder than most.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 68d
Thank you for this answer!
It really has me thinking about why we speak louder. It’s got to be something to do about our culture here. Proud? Bravado? We have more space and we’re used to having to project our voices? The want to be heard over others (competition)? I really have no clue, but it’s an interesting subject.
Balisada@piefed.social · 2 pts · 67d
I want to reply with a joke about how America is a big country and people need to talk louder because of it, but you raise a very good question.
I would venture a guess that your suggestion about the space being bigger and people having to project their voices as a possible reason.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 67d
It’s entirely possible. Or maybe we’re so fat that we have to work harder to speak and thus we get louder? 🤣🤣🤣
pianoplant@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 68d
This is a very balanced take. I appreciate it ☺️
Goldholz@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 14 pts · 68d
Americans speak loud, you hear them from a faar and can spot them easily
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Understandable. Thank you for your answer.
SanderZeldenthuis@nord.pub · 14 pts · 68d
I think it just means louder that most (but not all) of the other people. I didn't think much of it until I had some American friends visit me and I took them to bar near where I live. I didn't really noticed anything while we were all sitting together.
When I crossed the room to go to the bar for another round, then I noticed that I could clearly hear my American friends voices above everyone one else in the room. I could clearly hear their conversation from across the bar. They were just speaking somewhat louder than everyone else.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
Very interesting!
Someone else made a comment that I found interesting which was about how Americans usually speak far apart compared with other cultures that lower their voices and lean in. It has me thinking about how much space we have here and the ingrained competition which makes us naturally speak louder.
Another thing after talking to my wife is that there are a lot of large American families and children vie for the attention of others, which means having to speak up and over their siblings which sort of trains us to be that way.
It’s all fascinating to me to think about. Thank you for your answer!
khannie@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
Mmmm, it's a theory I suppose but I have a large family. Our dinner table is busy but not loud (except with raucous laughter which is semi frequently in fairness). Cross conversations go on all the time, it's just the nature of lots of people at a table.
My own experience with American tourists is that it's a volume thing. Interestingly I don't recall noticing it as much while visiting the states but definitely slightly louder than other cultures.
Sounds like you won't have any issue anyway.
Good luck with the move! I've never heard anyone come back from Australia with a bad word to say about it and lots of my fellow countryfolk do a year there (including my sister and bestie).
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
Thank you! I’m hoping we end up moving there because I loved my visit there a couple of years ago and I would love to be there always.
farmgineer@nord.pub · 13 pts · 68d
American who left the country over a decade ago.
Many (of course not all) speak more loudly than they think and more than is necessary. This is especially noticeable when not competing against other people's voices/loudness in quiet places. That is, the default is higher and you might work to lower it or at least be aware of it depending upon the ambient volume and norms where you are (Americans aren't the only ones like this).
Many US folks also act differently to even other English-speaking countries. This can be extroversion, small talk in countries that don't do that, certain expectations of how things should work, etc. USAmericans are the folks I hear most saying "but it's not that way in my country!" (though again, not exclusively). How direct you are vs others is another one; many can be quite direct whereas other countries use more context and subtlety. My advice would just be to watch how other people interact more intently than just being around in the space until you get used to it. I've never lived in Australia so I couldn't specifically say
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Thank you so much for your comment! I’ll definitely be sure to observe and do my best to not be that stereotype.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 13 pts · 67d
So here's a Canadian answer.
I have found that, on average, Americans speak at a higher volume than folks from my country. At the same time, they seem more willing to share things that we wouldn't except in more familiar company. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing, but there are times when I would recommend a touch more discretion.
For the most part I think you'll be fine in Australia. Just whatever you do, DON'T support Collingwood and DON'T drink Fosters.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 67d
Ha! Thank you for the comment.
Fosters? Seriously? When there are craft brews? I’m going to be drink the craft or wines…I just wish weed was legal.
Lushed_Lungfish@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 67d
Oh, just a note. Don't look for a "pub" or a "bar". For some obscure reason, a drinking establishment is called a "hotel". I don't know why but that's the way it is. I spent about 45 minutes wandering around trying to find a place for a bite and a drink. Finally had to flag down a local.
early_riser@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 67d
Billy Mays is an outlier and should not have been counted. He raises the average volume of the entire country
jenesaisquoi@feddit.org · 10 pts · 67d
Let me put it this way: When I am in a restaurant/bar/pub/similar place, I can't follow the conversations of the people at the other tables. However, with US-Americans, I understand every single word, even if they're two tables over. Their normal conversational volume is just so much higher. To them, it is completely normal, and they don't seem to notice. To us, they're speaking very loudly, as if everyone were hard of hearing, or as if we were on a construction site.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
Interesting. I’ll keep my volume in mind. Thank you for your reply!
jenesaisquoi@feddit.org · 2 pts · 67d
The fact that you're even asking this tells me that you're more considerate than most. You'll be fine!
Mothra@mander.xyz · 8 pts · 68d
It's very hard to explain. I'm not American but I've migrated to Australia. What you will find is a culture that is probably much more polite and considerate of others than American culture, and also, the culture here doesn't appreciate individuality much. I'm painting this with broad generalizations so of course this will differ from person to person, but generally, this is my assessment.
Individuality isn't overtly shunned, people will tell you to be you, but subconsciously you will find the real attitude is that people who stand out are also set apart, semi ostracized. It takes loads of charisma to stand out in a positive light here. This is the land of the tall poppy syndrome. Difficult to put in words, I would bet money you won't notice upon your arrival, you'd be like "nah man that mothra dude on lemmy was talking shit, people here are super friendly" and then after a year or two you'll see the pattern. It's very subtle but very much there.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 68d
That makes total sense to me. Look at the culture, it’s about doing good for all (environmentally friendly, better healthcare for all, etc). I think you’re probably spot on.
Thank you for your answer. I’ll have to pay close attention to that if we end up moving there. Also, as a Godzilla fan I love your name!
radiofreebc@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 68d
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 68d
lol. I appreciate this comment. Honestly, I’ve been to Australia, Italy, Germany, and Mexico. Every country has these people. I just find it interesting that Americans are called out for it so much, but I also kind of get it too. 😂
Zier@fedia.io · 4 pts · 68d
Most Americans cannot afford to spend big on Transatlantic vacations. So the loud people are most often people in a certain income bracket & higher who are just mannerless in the first place. These are also the people who get pissed off that (insert country here) is not speaking English to them.
America has a reputation, and not just as vacationers, for doing everything over the top and at high volume. Just listen to people when you are out.
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 67d
I went to Geneva, Switzerland when I was in college. There was a public square with about 1000 Swiss eating at different tables, all leaning forward like they were telling secrets. We 6 American college students were louder than all the 1000 Swiss in the square, by volume.
Dasus@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
You noticed this and just kept going?
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
We figured it out eventually
Dasus@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
I wasn't even being judgmental. Just curious. I basically have a personality disorder because I have a loud voice and am kinda extroverted. But I think if I were to live in like L.A. I'd be considered introverted. Maybe average for like rural Minnesota.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
Wow. Any reason why you kept going? If I noticed that then I would probably mimic others nearby.
Thanks for your reply!
Dadifer@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
We were just laughing and talking among ourselves as per usual. This was before cellphones.
Vanth@reddthat.com · 7 pts · 68d
The fact that you're asking/concerned tells me you'll probably be ok.
I'm an American who moved to Australia for a while. I wasn't ever pegged as an American because of my voice volume. What caught me was my smile; easy-coming with white, straight teeth exposed. I was told I could be confused for a Canadian except that I spoke too fast. Apparently, the speed-quipping Letterkenny sorts hadn't made it to Australia yet.
Also, think about what you want by "assimilation". You would probably enjoy getting to know an Aussie visiting the US, no? Getting to hear their perspective on the country they're visiting? Enjoying seeing them experience our cultural quirks? Assume the same good faith of Australians. Current politics aside, Americans and Australians have a very friendly history. Just don't be an asshole about it, continuously pointing out how everything is different/better in the US.
My weirdest, most uncomfortable repeat experience had a gendered element that you probably won't experience but your wife might. Older (50+) dudes on several occasions took the liberty of telling me, an American woman, all about how American soldiers stationed in Australia during l WW2 "stole" all the womens' attention. They were just so hygienic and handsome in their uniforms, the Aussie men didn't have a chance. So yeah, some might have a weird grudge over their fathers or grandfathers going through a dry spell almost a century ago. I share this story to illustrate that people are people, same is Australia. You will neither be universally liked nor universally hated by all Australians. Most of them are decent sorts, and a few of them are massive assholes.
Don't attempt shrimp on the barbie or baby-eating dingo jokes until you know a person very well.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Thank you so much for this answer! You have some fantastic advice and anecdotes here. I definitely speak quickly and now it has me wondering why that is. It’s an interesting quirk and I’ll see if I can curb it some.
I’m finishing my masters program for elementary education, so I have to slow down some anyway because of speaking with linguistically diverse children so maybe that’s will help. I’m hoping to land a job as a teacher at some point over there after I get my foot in the door being a relief (substitute) teacher.
BloodMuffin@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 68d
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 68d
Thank you for your answer. I do hope that I buck that trend when people meet me.
dellish@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 68d
You talk loud and don't shut the fuck up. Yes, you have an opinion on everything. Yes, you think your country's great. Yes, you think you are great also. Shut up.
I remember being on holiday in Thailand, visiting a village that very clearly had set aside an area as a market for tourists. The Americans decided to have a conversation between one area and another about heading off to look at the village school or whatever. EVERYBODY ELSE, locals and tourists, could tell this specific area was for tourists, but the USAians just couldn't read the room and had to loudly talk about it. JFC it was painful to witness.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 67d
Thank you for your answer. We Americans can be very stupid when it comes to reading the room and observing things for sure.
pHr34kY@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 67d
As an Australian, I took up baseball because the crowd is far more pleasant than the Aussie Rules football mob.
You'll be fine. Half of Australia doesn't have an "inside" voice.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 67d
Awesome! Thank you for your comment!
brewery@feddit.uk · 5 pts · 66d
Others here have covered great points, especially that it is a physical loudness and presence.
I would add that everyone tends to be very knowledgeable about US culture, history, geography, politics etc from TV, films and news but with the "typical Americans" you are talking about, they know almost nothing about other countries or cultures. They might know very high level things like what Buckingham Palace is where the King lives but not much beyond that. The worst of the stereotype just don't care and don't show an interest in learning anything. It's almost like a tick box to see certain things and then that's their holiday done.
Slow an interest and curiosity and you'll be fine. Look at what the locals are doing and try to copy them. If you go to London, everyone will stand on the right on escalators. Anybody with eyes can see that! Yet you'll find so many people don't look or care so get in the way.
Also, all countries have stereotypes that apply to most people but not everyone - the British are horrible binge drinkers who go for cheap beers in the sun. Im not like that but can certainly agree with the sentiment after seeing Brits abroad! Just sitting back and noticing goes a long way.
Shopping and service culture is very different. Most retail staff don't have to welcome everyone, make small talk, fake an interest or have to stand up all day at a checkout to not be lazy. Restaurant staff often seem "rude" compared to America but in reality they're just trying to do their job and we don't always want the American style customer service. I'll ask if I need help!
IWW4@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 67d
It means the other country is perpetuating stereotypes.
Let me tell you a few more:
To be clear, I don’t agree with or believe any of the above, I am just telling you the stereotypes.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 67d
Absolutely. It’s a fair point. People are people and should be judged on their individual basis.
Thank you for your answer.
RBWells@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 67d
WHAT?
Just kidding.
There's a range of actual volume, my boss I cannot hear half the time because he is quiet but a couple of coworkers have voices that really carry, it's not exactly volume or not just volume, it's throw.
Talkative we are, overall. Not everyone of course, but there is a lot of talking.
And pushy and curious we are, overall, too. I think that can read as loud too.
Strider@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 66d
It's the literal volume. In Germany you mostly recognize Americans because they are mostly louder than other people, for example in public places or transport.
Thats the image but it does absolutely not apply to everyone.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 3 pts · 68d
Tip for assimilating into Australian culture: learn the local language, don't just speak English. We have a lot of immigrant families who haven't bothered to learn the local language even after five or ten generations. They just speak English. Don't be like them.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Interesting! Can you tell me more about what you mean by the local language? Are there dominant languages in different states or territories that are other than English? Or do you mean slang and colloquialisms?
reptar@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 67d
It's a joke about Australia already being populated when England colonized it.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
Oooooh! Thank you!
I was kind of wondering if there was something about the indigenous people and their language in there.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 1 pts · 67d
Sure, we've got dozens of Indigenous languages. Here's a handy map:
Whatever place you're moving to, figure out which country rightfully owns the land there, and make an effort to learn their language. For example, if you're moving to Arnhem Land, pick up some Yolngu. I'll get you started: The Yolngu word for didgeridoo is yidaki.
Australia isn't a country. That's a controversial opinion, but I believe it. Australia is a continent, home to dozens of countries, and one giant illegitimate colony. Most australian countries never surrendered to the British invasion. Victoria is the only state to have a treaty with Aboriginal peoples, and they signed it last year. The rest of Australia? According to the ancient laws of the land, it belongs to its First Peoples, and the colony is an illegal occupation. I do not recognise the king's colony of Australia as a legitimate nation.
Now, you're in a difficult position. You have to recognise the colony in order to move here. But once you do, I have a recommendation: Attend a Welcome to Country. Welcomes to Country are an ancient international law that govern tourism and immigration between Australian countries. In order to legitimately travel to an Australian country, one is expected to attend a Welcome, just like one might get a visa from a western state. Welcomes traditionally make tourists and visitors aware of the local laws and requirements. These days, they go a lot faster, but the tradition is the same. It's the proper way to travel across this continent.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
Thank you for this info. I’ll be sure to take a look and digest all you’ve said.
jarvis@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 68d
Corngood@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 68d
I think they are just talking about annoying main-character type people you see traveling all over the world. It's not really an American thing, it's just that a you're likely to come across an American one of these assholes due to various statistical factors. I'm sure in Spain they have the same idea about the English, or in Indonesia about Australians.
If you're the type of person to think about this and contemplate how people perceive you, I strongly suspect you are not going to annoy anyone.
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 68d
Anglo Saxons are loud and have main character syndrome, then? 😅 I have a feeling Aussies don't, and most Americans I've met have actually been sort of ashamed of saying they're from the States and overall sweet, lol, so the world might be healing.
Corngood@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 67d
Those were just random examples that came to mind. I'm sure there are places where people have an impression of Chinese people based on tourists, etc.
Americans just stand out because you see them everywhere, because they have a huge amount of wealth.
The point I was trying to make is that it's tourists in general who might tend to be more annoying.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 68d
I appreciate this insight. Thank you! I certainly hope that I can be someone that bucks the trend.
Schlemmy@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 67d
People from the Netherlands are loud too.
It's something about when you guys walk around in a larger group. Most of you just have a higer volume setting. Like you are trying to get heard by every bystander as well. When hiking through the Balkans I could hear Americans from far away.
Australians seem te be loud as well so you'll be fine I guess...
But who's generalizing?
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 67d
I don’t know who this General Izing is, but they sound like a controversial figure!
Ha! Thank you for your comment.
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 2 pts · 67d
where tf did you get this idea?
Schlemmy@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 64d
I've been camping my whole life. Had several occasians where Dutch people dominated the soundscape.
I mean, it's generalising. You should take it with a grain of salt but I'm not the only one who has noticed.
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I thinks it's always what you compare it with. I'm Belgian. Dutchies are they loudest neighbours and being able to understand what they say perhaps makes me tune in.
I've noticed my Spanish relatives are even louder.
HubertManne@piefed.social · 1 pts · 67d
I wonder how true this is now or if its something that is more from last millenia. With everyone on their phones now I just can't imagine its quite the same. Granted every so often you run into the person with their speakers playing the game/media sounds rather than earbuds.
WindyRebel@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 67d
I feel, as an American, it probably still holds up. We have a culture and don’t veer too far.