What's something about sex you think is pointless or overrated?
I'll start with shower sex. Showers are great for foreplay, or for aftercare, but actual sex in the shower? I'm not a massive fan
How about you?
What's something about sex you think is pointless or overrated?
I'll start with shower sex. Showers are great for foreplay, or for aftercare, but actual sex in the shower? I'm not a massive fan
How about you?
45 Comments
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 35 pts · 70d
A little sweat smells hella fuckin' good. Like, after a hard day outside don't immediately hop in the shower. Different story if you haven't cleaned a single part of your body for 3 days. That's the difference between being musky and being stinky.
meatwads_tooth@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 70d
Updoot for that being very much a hot take. Figuratively and literally.
RepressedLemmyUser@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 65d
Really? But I hate being sweaty, and go out of my way to get rid of it.
Maybe I need to get with a sweaty person to understand?
Leviathan@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 49d
Hell yeah. A bit of body odor on a woman is a serious turn on. But then again I hate the smell of perfume on a person in general, so I'm already odd in that regard.
LouNeko@lemmy.world · 28 pts · 70d
Onlyfans has gotten out of hand. Generally I have nothing against camgirls or even prostitution. You want to profit from degeneracy, more power to you. But Onlyfans has reached a point where it has completely changed the landscape of short and long-form content on mostly SFW platforms. It has reached the point where any field where women can present themselves in a positive and safe manner has been overtaken by balant self promotion of of Onlyfans content creators. Everything from comedy to music. It seems the meta is to dress in an ridiculously skimpy outfit and "e-girl/goth" makeup and put in the lowest effort to make provactive videos to farm engagement and funnel people to you NSFW content. The problem is that it completely dilutes and overshadows the actual effort women put into their passion.
Sure you can invest 1000s of dollars and 100s of hours to make a detailed cosplay, or you can put on a yellow microbikini and paint red circles on your cheeks and tell people you're Pikachu and get 100x more views and an influx of paying customers. Why learn classic piano when you can play 4 chords on a guitar in a miniskirt? Why upload a well acted funny skit if you can read a single dad joke in a see-through dress?
It has gotten so bad that whenever you see a woman trying to be mildly entertaining on the internet, you can just type in their name into Google and see her fully naked.
Is a viscous cycle of idiots paying for that content and women being incentivised to reach bigger and bigger audiences to outpace the emotional dept of being a NSFW content creator puts you in.
You want to jack of to goth mommies and instagram bimbos, then keep that shit of non-porn platforms.
ricguy91@fedinsfw.app · 15 pts · 69d
Is it that OF has ruined content platforms? Or is it that the only way for people to make money by making content is by doing OF?
IMO there is a societal problem being reflected there.
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 47d
Well the societal problem here is the monetary value we have placed on women's bodies. Onlyfans is not the only valid content creation method but for some reason a woman showing her ass is deemed much more valuable than most other things she can do. The only way out of this is for naked women to become cheaper.
SarahFromOz@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 70d
Well said.
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 47d
I agree with your take but your error here is saying you've no problem with them "profiting off degeneracy". It's kinda like if you have crack dealers on street corners, there will be more drug users in your neighborhood. One thing leads to another, you see where I'm going? Now I don't think the solution is to ban porn either but my hot take is that men are wired to need to have sex and porn is simply the most efficient way to monetise this instinct. Hookers didn't really use to become millionaires the way of girls do, right? Also a funny thing is that onlyfans takes advantage of the social/romantic aspect of male to female interactions. I dunno but for me it's hard to classify the onlyfans boom as anything else but exploiting vulnerable people. Men in general are having less sex than ever before and women are doing more porn type providing than ever, we could kill two birds with one stone here but obviously it's easier said than done š¤·
brucethemoose@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 47d
Well said.
I dunno what to do about it, but I feel like there are multiple fundamental issues:
The algorithmic, engagement-optimized platforms juicing the āfirst stageā (the creator link to OF), for profit, with zero consequences.
OnlyFans itself, having their cake and eating it. To payment processors and the public, they get to pretend to be a SFW platform when they are clearly not.
A society/culture that covets influencers, encourages parasocial relationships, and is okay with stupendous levels of OF consumption.
An economy that funnels young people into this.
Trace all these issues, and a common root seems to beā¦
Big Tech platforms. Right?
Surprise, surprise.
ayawnymouse@fedinsfw.app · 19 pts · 70d
I've never understood the appeal of anal. It's a big turnoff to me. If I could filter the entire Internet of one thing so I (and only I) never had to see it again, that's what I'd pick.
LemonMan@fedinsfw.app · 17 pts · 70d
I'm really into femdom but pegging doesn't interest me at all. I don't want anything up my ass. I just want to be forced to keep fucking through my refractory period.
CuriousCassie@fedinsfw.app · 7 pts · 69d
Takes notes
OK, good to know. Good. To. Know.
LemonMan@fedinsfw.app · 4 pts · 69d
Ooh I do wonder if you will revisit those notes to practically apply what you've learned āŗļø
CuriousCassie@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 69d
I am very studious! Promise!
Checks notes
Ooooohhhhh
Puts strap away
Keepthoseeyeslockedonmine@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 69d
No need to put it away, just save it for those who can't resist š¤
brucethemoose@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 47d
+1 to Lemon.
That kind of femdom is sexy as fuck.
playfulkittykat@pawb.social · 12 pts · 70d
Sex is overrated. Kink and especially longer term stuff (eg. chastity, conditioning) is where it's at.
SarahFromOz@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 70d
+1 for kink!
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 70d
Sex, and romantic relationships, are a lot more important than people realize. Unless you're some variation of asexual/aromantic, it's a need, just not one that followed by physical issues or even death upon failure of satisfying it. Dismissing them as not important or completely interchangeable with regular friendships/hobbies is dangerous, and leaves an opening for grifters.
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 47d
Hard agree with you there. There's been so much of this weird pressuring, of men especially, that you can just replace romantic and sexual interests with a hobby or something. And honestly now I see that type of "advice" as simply evil. Everyone who feels like they need romance and sex are completely valid in their feelings.
not_main@fedinsfw.app · -2 pts · 69d
What? Just no... Yes feeling undesirable can seriously hurt one's self-esteem but at non point can it lead to physical issues.
WaxRhetorical@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 69d
Yes, that's what they're saying. "It's an emotional need, not a physical one."
melsaskca@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 69d
"Missionary-style" is the new fetish kink.
MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.app · 5 pts · 69d
Nothing wrong with a bit of missionary, a, very versatile position
CuriousCassie@fedinsfw.app · 3 pts · 69d
Does that mean missionary is like, cool in a way now or something? Or does it mean missionary is weird/looked down on? Cause I've gotten a lot of weird looks for saying I like missionary over the years.
Keepthoseeyeslockedonmine@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 39d
Missionary is great. Missionary with legs pinned back is š„
MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 68d
Why would you get weird looks for that? There's so many things you can do with missionary, it's a very versatile position when done properly š¤·š»āāļø People are strange, you do you, Miss C
CuriousCassie@fedinsfw.app · 4 pts · 68d
It's usually more of "wow, that's so boring compared to all your other options" kind of response. I did have one guy try to tell me that meant I was just bad at sex and that he'd show me how to have good sex while he "fucked the gay out of me". Needless to say, that never happened and I never spoke too him again.
MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 68d
What. A. Knobhead. I hope he never gets to have sex again. Missionary, there's full access to the tits and nipples, throat, eye contact, you can push the legs to the shoulders to get really deep, you can do anal like that. It can be nice and slow, close and romantic, or it can be rough and desperate and passionate. Missionary can be more than great!
RepressedLemmyUser@fedinsfw.app · 3 pts · 65d
1: Furries are actually really fucking hot. You can't see who or what you are fucking under the costume, and that is incredibly hot for some reason.
2: One night stands are unfun, because people just want to get rid of their urges like animals, as soon as possible. Aftercare is rare, no bonding whatsoever. The fun is in making the giving the other person the time of their life, speaking of which:
3: I prefer spending quite a bit of time lavishing the other person first. I can get myself off easily at any time, I prefer seeing what makes the other person squirm first, and teasing them a bit. Fucking for an orgasm should come only after a while of this.
TheStaffmaster@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 49d
Dudes that like shaved girls strike me as closet Pedos. WOMEN have hair down there. (what? you asked for a hot take)
Also, women who leave it intact strike me as confident in their own skin and confidence in oneself is sexy as hell.
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 47d
What about the girls who like it shaved down there? š
TheStaffmaster@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 47d
I believe that is a related, but separate discussion.
tantricgooner@fedinsfw.app · 0 pts · 47d
I just find it funny that online you hear this take be repeated quite often but in my experience pretty much all girls I've discussed it with have said they themselves prefer it without hair yet I don't think I've ever seen anyone call out women for this preference š¤·
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -17 pts · 70d
Anal lovers need to calm down and just admit they have a poop fetish. Itās coprophagia plain and clear.
The fetishizing of assholes to the extent Lemmy users CONSTANTLY talk about anal, eating assholes, looking at a gross grody looking fat peopleās dark greasy hemorrhoids like itās a sexy selfie⦠serious you all need to cool it. You basically eat shit and love it, we get it. Itās gross. Please, thereās no value in sharing to the world how shitty you are.
Saying you love looking at an asshole, digging into it, eating it⦠just stop calling it that and own up to the fact that youāre shitty sounding, likely full of shit smell, and you like it. You should be shit on as much as you praise it, thatās clearly who you are. But really, youāre a minority and no one cares to hear about shit as much as you love shit.
Edit: I clearly struck a shit covered nerve. No one responding but clearly they vote with their feces.
Must be a lot of shit eating folks there Randers⦠they must feel triggered getting called out for the shit in their teeth.
SmuttyLad@fedinsfw.app · 8 pts · 69d
Locking this comment chain, and consider this a warning. Please do try to be respectful and considerate of others.
The purpose of this comm is to be able to have open conversations regarding NSFW topics, not shit-talking (hah) one another.
playfulkittykat@pawb.social · 4 pts · 70d
Wow, this is definitely a hot take. You might need to look into getting a Japanese-style bidet.
And for the record, if there's any shit, rimming is off the table.
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 70d
Totally a hot take! Youāre assuming youāre going to avoid the very source of shit while burying your face in it then saying shits presence is off the table?
Is it so crazy to say obsessions out-weigh common sense if you're face first with an asshole while pretending you donāt want a bunch of shit???
Youāre pretending of common sense over shitting assholes is weirdā¦
Like having a sexual obsession is one thing, but obsessing over a shit portal where porn stars specifically say you should expect shit to show upā¦
Yea everyone else has the hot take⦠frankly Iād take the non-hot take if it means less feces.
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -2 pts · 70d
ā looking at a gross grody looking fat peopleās dark greasy hemorrhoids like itās a sexy selfieā¦ā
Define the hard take there⦠would you like a few choice photos?
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -2 pts · 70d
āPlease define the specific visual that I should be disgusted by yet Im not and Iām weirdly interested in..
https://fedinsfw.app/c/gonewild/p/342620/incredible-pov-of-a-69-p-oc-mf
You seem desperate for this stuffā¦
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -3 pts · 70d
If any shit is presentā¦
Do you not understand how fucking stupid you sound?
If any shit is present? Bitch youāre face is deep in the source of it all moron! What the fuck do you expect to be present when you shove your face into an asshole????
imadethis@fedinsfw.app · 7 pts · 70d
Eh, the mouth is the fount of vomit, but I bet you don't mind kissing it. If you clean down there, you shouldn't be encountering shit during the act. As a fellow 'not anal lover,' I can assure you, it still feels good to the other party. Use a dental dam, douche before sex, and encourage them to use a butt plug during vaginal sex (because both being filled is so much better).
MrBackwardsCap@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 70d
How massively ironic that you're talking shit about your hate for shit
Beetschnapps@lemmy.world · -2 pts · 70d
Behold! The brown holes that give nothing of sexual value beyond commonality with feces. Stare into a smelly brown void instead of having sex⦠watch as hairy holes take the place of sexual anything⦠dig into the feces instead of reproductionā¦
https://fedinsfw.app/c/gonewild/p/342620/incredible-pov-of-a-69-p-oc-mf