My wife doesnt like when I tell story's that took place before my wife died. She says, "its very disrespectful to refer to them that way."

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HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works · 32 pts · 76d (11 replies)

Huh

Daft_ish@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 32 pts · 76d (10 replies)

Well, before my wife died, we had an argument about me talking about stuff referring to it as, "before my wife died" solely because until she dies its always before my wife died.

SpruceBringsteen@lemmy.world · 29 pts · 76d (3 replies)

You're not wrong Walter, you're just an asshole

MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com · 21 pts · 76d (1 reply)

Died is the past tense of the word die. I think in this case they are indeed wrong.

It's ok to say "I loved my wife, I still do, but I did previously too." Since the love occurred in the past tense that makes sense, but since her death has not occurred I do not believe OP is grammatically correct.

okwhateverdude@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 76d

Whippin' out Mitch Hedberg to win an argument is the best internetting I'm gonna get to see today

tutter@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 74d
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Vanderdeckenscopilot@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 76d

Is this like how I used to introduce my first ex wife to people as "My First Wife" while we were still very much married?

For some reason she did not find it as amusing as I did? I wonder if its funny now?

Pat_Riot@lemmy.today · 19 pts · 76d (1 reply)

I like my wife too much to make jokes like that. That's kind of awful, really.

Aeao@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 76d

I like you’re wife too

klugerama@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 75d (1 reply)

But why would your wife say "it's very disrespectful to refer to them that way"? That doesn't make sense either

It already doesn't make grammatical sense because your wife hasn't died, so you can't refer to it happening in the past tense - you'd have to say "before my wife dies" which ruins the joke.

Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 75d

Bedore my wife will have died

klugerama@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 74d

You could fix this joke by instead saying "before my wife's death" or "before the death of my wife", and having her just say "that's very disrespectful".

gigastasio@sh.itjust.works · 28 pts · 76d (1 reply)

You lost me at “story’s.”

finallymadeanaccount@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 75d

They lost me at 'way'.

eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 21 pts · 76d

I'm with your wife on that one, that's creepy.

Okokimup@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 76d

I like that you respect their pronouns.

Nomad@infosec.pub · 4 pts · 75d

I though this is a joke about re-marrying quickly, but nope.

qevlarr@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 75d

Garbled

ynthrepic@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 76d (4 replies)

You can talk about the past without reminding others of that particular memory. They're all thinking it anyway.

DokPsy@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 76d (3 replies)

You misunderstand. Their wife is still alive so Everything is still "before she died"

ynthrepic@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 75d (2 replies)

"before she dies" English has a conjugation for that... There shouldn't be a misunderstanding. What a weird post.

DokPsy@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 75d (1 reply)

But they're speaking of their wife in the future tense as it'll be a future event. That's the point and why she'd find it disrespectful

ynthrepic@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 74d

Yeah nah I'm not disagreeing, it's just really weird as well. 🚩

M137@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 75d

Doesn't*
Stories*
It's*

I_Has_A_Hat@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 74d

For more fun and games, you can refer to your wife as your "ex-girlfriend".

ComradePenguin@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 74d

I often say: "Be careful, I only have one wife"

PattyMcB@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 75d

This is some damn fine shitpost