Tbf, if you listen to a rock radio station, one minute they're playing Metallica, the next minute it's Imagine Dragons, then suddenly it's the Rolling Stones, then it's that Post Malone song where Ozzy raps a verse
Most people seem surprised to find out that I've made it into my 30s without ever finding a girlfriend. Many women have told me "wow, I'd love to find a guy like you"...the obvious implication being not me.
I imagine it's not that different for women who struggle to find relationships.
You don't need to be particularly hot to not be a femcel, lots of kind-of-ugly people are in relationships. It's all about the social skills and being able to find people you gel with. And, considering the character in the post, not having crippling psychological issues.
worth mentioning this sub in particular is kinda half-ironic half-serious. There's quite a difference between this 'aesthetic' and actual incel culture which is pretty disgusting.
You just need to be ok with also being an introvert / socially awkward person, and then you two can be eachother's person who is generally less taxing and more enjoyable to socialize with than others.
I am awkward and stressed, but not an introvert! Under the right (wrong) circumstances, I can drown a person in conversation, and even be very excited to talk!
Since I will never bother someone by telling them they are kind of cute/asking them out, my only hope is that I get kidnaped by a crazy femcel!
Not sure if we've gone over this before, but that sounds like me 10-20 years ago: socially awkward in a usually endearing but sometimes extremely (unintentionally) inflammatory way.
cough Autistic cough.
I know its scary but you really do just need to practice socializing a bit more, in person.
Probably safer to practice with other autists, if you can find them.
Being able to ask a person for something, politely, in a context appropriate way is an extremely important life skill. Yes, I know it really sucks and seems confusing as fuck because people do not actually make sense.
... But people do mostly make sense, most of the time. It just takes exposure, and courage.
Asperger's just is part of Autism now, the DSM V basically rolled up everything similar into Autism Spectrum Disorder, where there are a whole bunch of behavioral 'dimensions', and basically if your 'total score' exceeds a certain threshold, congrats you get the Autism achievement, lol.
99% sure anybody who was diagnosed/classified as Aspergers would now be essentially a 'flavor' of Autist.
There is also a significant genetic component to Autism... if your brother, mother, father have it, etc, more likely you will as well, or at least be higher on the ASD score than a normie from a family of normies.
AuDHD is Autism + ADHD, which can and do co-occur, but at least for myself, I'm just Autistic.
Anyway, this is all an overwrought way of me trying to say you have more options than consigning yourself to hope for a fantastic movie plot to occur to you.
It took me the longest time to figure out why I loved the Mountain Goats. It's because they are philosophically absurd. The tone of their music rarely matches the tone of their lyrics. One of their most popular songs is about how much you hate your soon to be ex, how much you want them to die, and it's so happy.
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theuniqueone@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 47 pts · 38d
I like good music and dislike bad music.
0ops@piefed.zip · 15 pts · 38d
Wow we have so much in common
Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml · 6 pts · 37d
For real? Me too!! Amazing
islandcoda42@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 37d
Fuuuuuck, I gotta try that!
flamingos@feddit.uk · 27 pts · 38d
"I can't figure out my music type" - Bocchi the *Rock*
🤔
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 16 pts · 38d
The genre is quite varied
Battle_Masker@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 38d
Tbf, if you listen to a rock radio station, one minute they're playing Metallica, the next minute it's Imagine Dragons, then suddenly it's the Rolling Stones, then it's that Post Malone song where Ozzy raps a verse
0ops@piefed.zip · 7 pts · 38d
I'm tired, my eyes did that thing where I accidentally read the same line 3 times in a row, but it was the imagine dragons line, so accurate
Jo4ted@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 38d
Welcome to 66.6 FM, where we play nothing but rock, rock, and MORE ROCK! This aint your grandma's channel!
GalacticSushi@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 38d
I just like listening to good music. If you can't figure out what that means your taste in music just isn't that good.
djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 38d
It's actually very easy to explain, it's eclectic.
you just say that and refuse to elaborate further, people will find you so mysterious
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 38d
Unless it has like a really, REALLY artistic music clip, in which case I like listening to it even if I dislike the music.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 38d
Is it weird that some so-called Femcels are actually kind of hot?
impairedimperator@lemmy.zip · 11 pts · 38d
Most people seem surprised to find out that I've made it into my 30s without ever finding a girlfriend. Many women have told me "wow, I'd love to find a guy like you"...the obvious implication being not me.
I imagine it's not that different for women who struggle to find relationships.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 38d
I'm told I'm hot, but I seldom get hit on, and it's usually someone I am uncertain about and can onoy say "Uh..." to.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 10 pts · 38d
You don't need to be particularly hot to not be a femcel, lots of kind-of-ugly people are in relationships. It's all about the social skills and being able to find people you gel with. And, considering the character in the post, not having crippling psychological issues.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 38d
I mean, they can just date incels, and fix each other!
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 6 pts · 38d
Or make each other worse!
Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 37d
Who's the character in the post?
darthelmet@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 37d
Bocchi from Bocchi The Rock. It’s really good.
QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 37d
worth mentioning this sub in particular is kinda half-ironic half-serious. There's quite a difference between this 'aesthetic' and actual incel culture which is pretty disgusting.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 3 pts · 37d
I know. I don't know why I talked about it as if they were real femcels.
djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 38d
femcels are like pure distilled hot girl shit, so no not that weird
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 37d
Which is why it's depressing that they can't get anything.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 33d
... no?
Have you ever met a conventionally attractive, but socially awkward autist or serious introvert?
Of any sex/gender?
Some such people are women!
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 32d
I can fix her!
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 32d
thwaps you with a ruler
No! No.
You don't need to fix that.
You just need to be ok with also being an introvert / socially awkward person, and then you two can be eachother's person who is generally less taxing and more enjoyable to socialize with than others.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 32d
I am awkward and stressed, but not an introvert! Under the right (wrong) circumstances, I can drown a person in conversation, and even be very excited to talk!
Since I will never bother someone by telling them they are kind of cute/asking them out, my only hope is that I get kidnaped by a crazy femcel!
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 32d
Not sure if we've gone over this before, but that sounds like me 10-20 years ago: socially awkward in a usually endearing but sometimes extremely (unintentionally) inflammatory way.
cough Autistic cough.
I know its scary but you really do just need to practice socializing a bit more, in person.
Probably safer to practice with other autists, if you can find them.
Being able to ask a person for something, politely, in a context appropriate way is an extremely important life skill. Yes, I know it really sucks and seems confusing as fuck because people do not actually make sense.
... But people do mostly make sense, most of the time. It just takes exposure, and courage.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 32d
I suspect ADHD, my brother has Asperger symptom. Could possibly be AuADHD?
Yeah, I appreciate you, and your advice!
We talked about stuff before, and I like you in general.
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 32d
Asperger's just is part of Autism now, the DSM V basically rolled up everything similar into Autism Spectrum Disorder, where there are a whole bunch of behavioral 'dimensions', and basically if your 'total score' exceeds a certain threshold, congrats you get the Autism achievement, lol.
99% sure anybody who was diagnosed/classified as Aspergers would now be essentially a 'flavor' of Autist.
There is also a significant genetic component to Autism... if your brother, mother, father have it, etc, more likely you will as well, or at least be higher on the ASD score than a normie from a family of normies.
AuDHD is Autism + ADHD, which can and do co-occur, but at least for myself, I'm just Autistic.
Anyway, this is all an overwrought way of me trying to say you have more options than consigning yourself to hope for a fantastic movie plot to occur to you.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 4 pts · 38d
Songs? I prefer weird rhythmic noises.
its_kim_love@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 38d
I like garbage music. Especially Garbage.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 38d
It took me the longest time to figure out why I loved the Mountain Goats. It's because they are philosophically absurd. The tone of their music rarely matches the tone of their lyrics. One of their most popular songs is about how much you hate your soon to be ex, how much you want them to die, and it's so happy.
JamesBoeing737MAX@sopuli.xyz · 2 pts · 37d
No children?
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 37d
yes
Objection@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 37d
That reminds me of this
irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 3 pts · 38d
I make really confusing playlists
BigBananaDealer@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 38d
i got hated on for hoarding when i posted on reddit how many playlists ive maxed out
Skullgrid@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 37d
So... basically Mr Bungle in the 90s, Estradasphere in the 00s, and Igorr in the 10s/20s?
Mr Bungle : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUOWTmOP4FQ
Estradasphere : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEC16_V-_II
Igorrr : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZ3KObtDaGw