My mom learned this lesson after she told people about my sister-in-law’s miscarriage. My mom wondered why I didn’t send her get well wishes and I was like, “Well, I wasn’t supposed to know about it in the first place, since sis-in-law didn’t tell me she was pregnant. So messaging her about it wouldn’t be very tactful.”
It took many years and being kept from a lot of information, but she’s finally learning.
My mom likes to tell the story of the time they had friends over, everyone chilling the in the kitchen.
I walked downstairs that night, apparently sleepwalking, opened the fridge door, opened the crisper drawer, peed in it, then closed everything up and went back to bed. I might have been 6 at the time.
When I describe my 10 year old life to other folks they tell me I was an abused child.
Mostly because I spent a lot of time out in the woods with my friends and playing video games, and apparently that's 'abuse/neglect' by today's standards for children. I was supposed to be doped up on meds and have every moment of my childhood filled with 'productive activities'. Probably why I am not depressed and anxious like many of my peers.
Apparently letting your children have unsupervised unstructured time is child abuse now.
As a parent, I'm sharing all the weird things my kids are doing in my journal and then locking it away forever.
They do so many weird things. And the fear is just like this picture: friends come over and I suddenly pop like, "Oh yeah my 5yo decided to be a dog today and pee on the neighbor's yard."
So putting it on paper hopefully releases the demons.
17 Comments
tacosanonymous@mander.xyz · 61 pts · 11d
As a particularly awkward child, I only learned that you could share each others' business. Shit stopped pretty quickly when I talked about theirs.
toofpic@lemmy.world · 35 pts · 11d
My 10 yo anxiety stories became MY topicstarters now - work great every time!
protist@retrofed.com · 14 pts · 11d
I was going to say this, being able to talk comfortably about that stuff is usually a sign of emotional security. It's not your mom's to share though
Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 11d
Then later she would always whine about how I never told her anything.
Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 10d
My mom learned this lesson after she told people about my sister-in-law’s miscarriage. My mom wondered why I didn’t send her get well wishes and I was like, “Well, I wasn’t supposed to know about it in the first place, since sis-in-law didn’t tell me she was pregnant. So messaging her about it wouldn’t be very tactful.”
It took many years and being kept from a lot of information, but she’s finally learning.
aeiou@piefed.social · 16 pts · 10d
I'm pretty sure this is why I have a compulsive need to hide literally every action I do from others
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 10d
how do you grocery shop, do you have like a cloak over your cart or something? so no one can see what you are buying?
aeiou@piefed.social · 3 pts · 10d
Walmart delivers
Or else I bite the bullet and go anyway, letting my nerves distract me into forgetting something
DrPop@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 11d
Ahh the piss drawer.
Unrefined@anarchist.nexus · 9 pts · 11d
My mom likes to tell the story of the time they had friends over, everyone chilling the in the kitchen.
I walked downstairs that night, apparently sleepwalking, opened the fridge door, opened the crisper drawer, peed in it, then closed everything up and went back to bed. I might have been 6 at the time.
Never happened again.
TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 10d
When I describe my 10 year old life to other folks they tell me I was an abused child.
Mostly because I spent a lot of time out in the woods with my friends and playing video games, and apparently that's 'abuse/neglect' by today's standards for children. I was supposed to be doped up on meds and have every moment of my childhood filled with 'productive activities'. Probably why I am not depressed and anxious like many of my peers.
Apparently letting your children have unsupervised unstructured time is child abuse now.
mirshafie@europe.pub · 0 pts · 10d
I was an abused child and all I got to show for it is a psychopath's charisma and a cat's reflexes.
Katana314@lemmy.world · -1 pts · 10d
Right, but this is a generation that thought the EPA is a terrorist organization. Fresh air is fucking evil.
SpaceCowboy@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 10d
In 1980s the EPA blew up a firehouse that resulted in noxious gasses being released into a major city.
Video proof: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pNmpRtnUBwQ
20cello@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 11d
Wtf mom?!
VitoRobles@lemmy.today · 9 pts · 11d
As a parent, I'm sharing all the weird things my kids are doing in my journal and then locking it away forever.
They do so many weird things. And the fear is just like this picture: friends come over and I suddenly pop like, "Oh yeah my 5yo decided to be a dog today and pee on the neighbor's yard."
So putting it on paper hopefully releases the demons.
Batmancer@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 10d
No thank you, I have a handful gripped tighter than I did with those GME shares.