I had a kid at 19. I had to give up my college career to take care of her. I've been taking care of my other kids for 35 years. I also support two separate families across two separate sides of the planet. Our youngest child still has 3 years of high school. Second to youngest is about to go to college. I've been running the families on my single income the whole time.
I've lost sight of what I enjoyed. If I ever do have time to myself, I can't really do much but sit and stare at the wall or try (and fail) to sleep.
But I think what OP is looking for is something dirty, which is often where my mind wanders when I can breathe, because I really love sex. I'll admit that I'm curious about getting pegged.
This sounds like burnout. You've been pushing for so long that when you have time to relax you can't remember how. You keep expecting a new task, or another request.
Finding a hobby you enjoy, or picking back up a hobby you used to do before the kids and responsibilities, is your long term goal here. With the kids almost out on their own, you are going to hit Empty Nest syndrome hard.
But before that, you should start small. Ease your way back to finding fulfillment. The next time you find time for yourself, try going for a short walk around the neighbourhood. Try going to a park, lay back and watch the clouds. Just be, for a while, without any expectations or responsibilities.
Your mind will fight this and try to keep racing, and planning, and worrying. But you have to keep trying to give yourself the time to relax.
I'll also suggest you look into guided meditation. It can help you learn how to give yourself, and your mind, a break. Like our bodies, the mind can also use a break from activity.
Good luck, and remember: you got this far, despite everything. You can keep going.
Thank you for the advice and kind words. I've tried to make attempts at these things in the past but always get overcome by responsibilities. I'll take another crack at it and try to be more patient with myself.
Let's get back to the horny material, I derailed this long enough.
You know, this is what I like about the Fediverse. I came for the sexy talk, and unexpectedly had a nice conversation. It's the best of both worlds kind of thing.
Indeed. I ran across this post at a time I was feeling quite exhausted about all this, and I felt safe enough to share here. That really makes this place great.
9 Comments
monkofapathy262@fedinsfw.app · 11 pts · 11d
I've spent my entire life giving to others and supporting others... and somehow feel incredibly empty.
phoenixz@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 11d
Yikes, that is hard
Any reasons for that?
monkofapathy262@fedinsfw.app · 7 pts · 11d
I had a kid at 19. I had to give up my college career to take care of her. I've been taking care of my other kids for 35 years. I also support two separate families across two separate sides of the planet. Our youngest child still has 3 years of high school. Second to youngest is about to go to college. I've been running the families on my single income the whole time.
I've lost sight of what I enjoyed. If I ever do have time to myself, I can't really do much but sit and stare at the wall or try (and fail) to sleep.
But I think what OP is looking for is something dirty, which is often where my mind wanders when I can breathe, because I really love sex. I'll admit that I'm curious about getting pegged.
Contextual_Idiot@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 10d
This sounds like burnout. You've been pushing for so long that when you have time to relax you can't remember how. You keep expecting a new task, or another request.
Finding a hobby you enjoy, or picking back up a hobby you used to do before the kids and responsibilities, is your long term goal here. With the kids almost out on their own, you are going to hit Empty Nest syndrome hard.
But before that, you should start small. Ease your way back to finding fulfillment. The next time you find time for yourself, try going for a short walk around the neighbourhood. Try going to a park, lay back and watch the clouds. Just be, for a while, without any expectations or responsibilities.
Your mind will fight this and try to keep racing, and planning, and worrying. But you have to keep trying to give yourself the time to relax.
I'll also suggest you look into guided meditation. It can help you learn how to give yourself, and your mind, a break. Like our bodies, the mind can also use a break from activity.
Good luck, and remember: you got this far, despite everything. You can keep going.
monkofapathy262@fedinsfw.app · 6 pts · 10d
I agree with you. Burnout indeed.
Thank you for the advice and kind words. I've tried to make attempts at these things in the past but always get overcome by responsibilities. I'll take another crack at it and try to be more patient with myself.
Let's get back to the horny material, I derailed this long enough.
Contextual_Idiot@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 10d
You know, this is what I like about the Fediverse. I came for the sexy talk, and unexpectedly had a nice conversation. It's the best of both worlds kind of thing.
Now more horny!
monkofapathy262@fedinsfw.app · 4 pts · 10d
Indeed. I ran across this post at a time I was feeling quite exhausted about all this, and I felt safe enough to share here. That really makes this place great.
pech@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 10d
Nice try, FBI agent 😶🌫️.
P.S. lovely photo
LangSlang@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 11d
A view to die for