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on Ginger is being generous · c/movies · 2 pts · 3d

It seems like the guy in the OP didn't understand that the pickled ginger is actually there as a delicious pallet cleanser to allow you to enjoy the variety of rolls more fully.

That was interesting lol

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That seems like a very balanced approach beyond what I was even considering; I like it.

The guys channel is full of mad science slapdash stuff to make things work that otherwise, just shouldn't lol. I take that approach to my homelab (with some caveats, since I'm not trying to lose all my data lol), and just kind of throw things together with some minimal understanding of how they fit conceptually.

Haha I legitimately didn't even register the boots πŸ˜‚

Love the candid photo; there must be a word for the specific type of cognitive dissonance in recognizing just how complicated something like shibari is, and how effortlessly one implements it. Seriously, no apologies needed

Also, you're in good company, I have so much trouble posting content to Lemmy that my anxiety spikes when I hit send lol

on I am profoundly unhappy · c/vent · 2 pts · 17d

Thank you, I appreciate your sympathy. πŸ–€

She's been better since she read some of the notes I had written about contemplating divorce/started couples therapy.

The more concerning part to me is that she still says things like "I shouldn't have called you those names, but there's two sides to this". It doesn't really read as growth or integration to me lol

on I am profoundly unhappy · c/vent · 2 pts · 17d

I started writing and recounting events or conversations that had stuck with me, kind of like a historical record "she said __, I said __", etc.

I also had cut off much of my family and don't really have friends, so I took segments of my writing and showed them to chatgpt, trying to be careful not to bias it since LLMs are prone to sycophancy. My reasoning was that they're good at pattern recognition; I wanted to see if one could be found based on my recollection of events. After a few weeks of exploring my memories/feelings and new ruptures/arguments/comments as the occurred, it told me that it sounds like I was being subjected to emotional abuse, disclaimed that it couldn't actually make that call and suggested I find a therapist.

Fortunately for me, I have one colleague who's known me for a decade, before marriage, the house and kids. I went to lunch with them and kind of laid out what had been going on and where I was at. My performance had slipped at work and it was noticed. When I told them that I was considering divorce, they didn't recoil or second-guess and it was enough of a sign for me to start my own personal therapy.