Being mindful of others, almost to the point of it being debilitating at times.
Was hanging out with friend from out of town and their parents recently, and I suggested we go to ice cream parlour after a meal. They were all too full, but when I decided to change my mind seeing it would just be about me if we went, they insisted we go regardless.
It was embarrassing enough to me that we were cutting out their time for something that'd only benefit me, but it only got worse when the place I suggested had an unusually long line that they insisted we stay in despite me saying I wouldn't want to waste their time.
I know it was done because they wanted to treat me, but an experience like that is just against the values I live by.
omg thats like a nightmare scenario. i try to be mindful of people too. someone going out of their way for something that doesnt mean that much to me gives me crazy anxiety. glad you got through it lol.
I occasionally have intense boughts of depression but I can feel like I have my shit together as long as I muster the energy to put on pants if I need to leave the house.
No romantic partners. I just got my life and on track after years of work so…I don’t need someone coming into it and leaving cups on my clean counters and pouting when I don’t want touch.
To listen my intuition. And be as conscious as possible. Treat others like I would like to be treated and not get offended if they don't appreciate. Just to be myself.
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OliveBrittle@piefed.ca · 13 pts · 10h
Being mindful of others, almost to the point of it being debilitating at times.
Was hanging out with friend from out of town and their parents recently, and I suggested we go to ice cream parlour after a meal. They were all too full, but when I decided to change my mind seeing it would just be about me if we went, they insisted we go regardless.
It was embarrassing enough to me that we were cutting out their time for something that'd only benefit me, but it only got worse when the place I suggested had an unusually long line that they insisted we stay in despite me saying I wouldn't want to waste their time.
I know it was done because they wanted to treat me, but an experience like that is just against the values I live by.
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 9h
omg thats like a nightmare scenario. i try to be mindful of people too. someone going out of their way for something that doesnt mean that much to me gives me crazy anxiety. glad you got through it lol.
Wren@lemmy.today · 9 pts · 5h
Never wear pajama pants outside.
I occasionally have intense boughts of depression but I can feel like I have my shit together as long as I muster the energy to put on pants if I need to leave the house.
blkvvvs@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 9h
Be the person you are.
I've found that it makes life a lot easier.
Beth@piefed.social · 6 pts · 4h
No romantic partners. I just got my life and on track after years of work so…I don’t need someone coming into it and leaving cups on my clean counters and pouting when I don’t want touch.
AcidBurn@retrofed.com · 5 pts · 5h
Be scared, but do it anyway.
I used to be a timid homebody, and missed out on opportunities as a result. Now I just wade in, even if I'm scared.
Newhere@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 6h
To listen my intuition. And be as conscious as possible. Treat others like I would like to be treated and not get offended if they don't appreciate. Just to be myself.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 3 pts · 3h
Take "no" as an answer.