started a new job recently and im boymoding at work atm. i was expecting it to be cold because most offices ive been in are really cold, but its actually pretty warm. this is a problem because my boobs are getting big enough to be visible under most shirts so ive been wearing a tight bralet, a tshirt, and a hoodie but its too hot so im sitting here sweating wishing i could take off this hoodie but not wanting my coworkers to notice my boobs đ
anybody have some advice on how to stay cool? im worried im just doomed to suffer or come out at work.
18 Comments
Staden_@pawb.social · 34 pts · 2d
I've heard that flannel/plaid shirts are good for hiding curves because of the chessboard pattern on them. There's even a joke in transmasc circles that compares them to the dazzle camouflage used in ships during WWI.
I can't confirm they work. I can't test it myself.
Broadfern@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 2d
Transmasc(ish) enby chiming in to confirm it works - itâs my self-imposed work uniform because bras make me dysphoric af and commute time + work hours + summer heat makes binding for work untenable most days.
Wide leg pants also help to hide lower body curves if thatâs also an issue.
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 2d
is it actually cool though? my experience with flannels has always been that theyre pretty warm. maybe not as warm as a hoodie though?
Broadfern@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1d
You can get flannel-like button ups that are made from very thin, breathable cotton materials and layer a dark cotton t-shirt underneath. Itâs not perfect but itâs better than a hoodie during the summer months
eepydeeby@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 1d
+1 to this, the Plaid Shirt Of Plausible Deniabilityâ˘ď¸ works for all genders
MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 1d
Alas, that makes what makes flannels such a double-edged sword. It's an iconic sapphic aesthetic I see with other women, but then I put them on and I look way more butch than they do. Or maybe that's just dysphoria talking idk. đ
But yes flannels are great for boymoding.
ElcaineVolta@kbin.melroy.org · 15 pts · 2d
I don't have an answer, but I wish you the best.
FloMo@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 2d
Get yourself some breathable button-down shirts and wear them un-unbuttoned over a T-shirt.
Also, the busier the print, the less noticeable your chest will be.
SparroHawc@piefed.world · 3 pts · 2d
Depending on the workplace, Hawaiian shirts or bowling shirts are also great (I have a couple with dragons on them and I love 'em). Lightweight, short-sleeved, fun patterns.
Alternately, a hoodie vest is a good middle-ground and I can wholly recommend Mishu's: https://www.mishuboutique.com/collections/mens-outerwear The Alien Geo in teal looks rad and is super comfy. I got one at a festival and had to order another as a backup.
InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works · 10 pts · 2d
If you wanna keep rocking hoodies, a linen one might be more breathable.
Shirts with patterns might work.
Drink plenty of water, it's refreshing and you're sweating some.
FRYD@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 2d
I wear a t shirt under my shirt and hunch over. I donât think it does a great job of hiding them, but I think my coworkers just donât expect me to have boobs and that does a lot of heavy lifting.
WalrusDragonOnABike@reddthat.com · 8 pts · 2d
I don't wear obviously feminine clothes and most of my shirts are loose fitting. Doesn't matter if I wear a tight shirt, my bra is visible, etc though: no one has said anything at work except a chaser over a year ago.
My boobs aren't exactly hidden; my mom asked me what I tell people when they ask because she thought it was obvious and her eyes have seen better days.
I'm not good at shaving consistently tho and there's still a beard shadow even if I do. So we'll see if laser changes that.
Point being people are blind unless they're looking for it.
Oka@sopuli.xyz · 6 pts · 2d
Take off your sweater, dont get heat stroke. Comfort over conformity.
isleepinahammock@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 29 pts · 2d
She knows her situation better than we do. If she feels it's not safe to be out yet, we shouldn't assume that it is. "Comfort over conformity" assumes a lot about the type of environment a person is living in.
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 2d
its not that hot im not gonna get heat stroke lol
recursive_recursion@piefed.ca · 3 pts · 2d
As an enby the way I'm boymoding is a non-white t-shirt with a sports bra.
I find that white t-shirts are too sheer and let the color of even my white sports bra show through so my recommendation is a light but non-white t-shirt for light colored sports bras and gray to dark shirts for dark to black sports bras.
I chose sports bras as they're quite affordable and more accessible in comparison to binders but still provide the needed compression to hide boobage.
I used 2 things to help find good prices for my sports bras:
I hope this helpsđ
Maeve@kbin.earth · 2 pts · 2d
If I may butt in? White bras of any sort just glare through light and white colors. Champagne or light blush do better, but mostly champagne. A champagne bra with a white undershirt and whatever overshirt may work?
hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 1d
Yes, match the underwear to your skin tone if you want it to be invisible. That's why most undergarments are available in some sort of medium tan/pink/brown. Even if you can't match the color, matching the value can often be enough. A grey will almost always be less visible than white or black.