I had abusive and neglectful parents and I wished I was an orphan as a kid. After having met people who grew up in the system, I’m pretty sure I was better off. The system can be way worse than my parents were at their respective worst and my parents were way better than the system at their respective best. My therapist says I have a bit of a complex for downplaying my experiences though, so maybe I don’t know.
Leave. Straight up irish goodbye. There’ll be more parties if you don’t have a rep for literally smelling like shit. Toss the underwear on the way home.
I’ll never forget the day a friend and I were leaving a gamestop and a us army recruiter approached us and said “Do you wanna live the Call of Duty life?”. I didn’t want to be disrespectful, so I said “No, I don’t think so.” and kept on walking. When we got back to my friend’s car I immediately said “Does he realize how many times I die in that game?” and we both burst out laughing.
I feel like context is important. I live in NY and it’s pretty great, but super expensive. I’ve heard California is nicer but even more expensive. Minnesota was really nice when I went there and more affordable, but the winters are pretty harsh.
Worst state is gonna be like Mississippi or some other southern backwater. A friend of mine moved to Georgia and he works three jobs and still makes less money than me. Apparently there’s not much to do there either.
No need to apologize. It kinda stunned me and some of my friends have been acting odd since. I don’t really have a good way to describe it myself. It definitely was funny though. I unfortunately haven’t experienced the whole “erogenous zone” changes yet. I have sensory issues though so that might never come.
It was unexpected, but I wouldn’t say it broke my boundaries. Idk if I would call it cute. My friends aren’t cute types. They’re kinda dumb and impulsive and I’ve always just considered it funny. They’re super supportive though and I’m thankful for that. I’m not the first trans person in the friend group though and all my friends are gay, bi or some kind of queer. I’d be pretty shocked if they weren’t supportive.
I have some friends Im similarly close with and when I came out to them, one just walked up groped my boobs with disbelief in his eyes. It’s okay, we’ve always been physical friends. It’s definitely crazy the reactions you can get from people when you come out though.
Imo, I think high waisted bottoms are pretty good for showing off the waist. It gives you a smooth curve from the waist to the thighs, but try out lower cut stuff and see if you like it. I gotta put on a bit more weight before I think I can pull off low cuts well.
Looks super cute. I don’t think that goes against the “tight and loose” rule. The top is flowy with baggy sleeves and the bottoms are fitted. I also think you got high waisted shorts and that’s where they’re supposed to be.
Great fit though! Love it!
Edit: also don’t worry too much about the “tight and loose” rule. It’s more like a rule of thumb than a law. If you think an outfit isn’t working or are having a hard time pairing stuff, consider it. If you like how an outfit looks, wear it and don’t worry about rules.
Yeah your two ideas are probably the only thing you have to go out of your way for. Just treat them normally. If they contacted you saying they’re nervous, it wouldn’t hurt to ask them what they’re nervous about. Even if they can’t describe it, it’ll probably put them at ease knowing you cared enough to ask. Hell, telling them you asked around online will probably go a long way too.
I used to be super sentimental and a bit of hoarder, but when my parents split and were talking about selling the house I had to start getting rid of stuff. It was hard at first, but got easier over time.
First I got rid of junk in bad shape. Then I started donating stuff in good shape I would never use or display again. Then I got rid of stuff I hadn’t used or wanted to use in a very long time. Then I got rid of stuff that I had used or would want to use again that I thought I could easily replace. Throughout the process I would put aside anything I struggled to put in a garbage bag or donation box. When I finally had to go through that stuff, I had been desensitized to getting rid of sentimental things and got rid of more than half of it.
Now, all my stuff would fit in one moving truck. All I really kept were: books, games and consoles, records and my player, tools, some useful tech stuff, camping gear, instruments, some plushies, probably like a tenth of my clothes, a couple basic furniture items, and only a box worth of small sentimental items.
I live in a place that’s pretty safe for trans people, so it’s not really a life or death issue in my experience. It’s just that trans people typically seek out other trans people and the community tries to make sure everyone is involved. Maybe that’s more of a factor in other places where it’s more dangerous, but not really where I am.
Still, what you and I are describing in more words is just solidarity as I understand it.
I had abusive and neglectful parents and I wished I was an orphan as a kid. After having met people who grew up in the system, I’m pretty sure I was better off. The system can be way worse than my parents were at their respective worst and my parents were way better than the system at their respective best. My therapist says I have a bit of a complex for downplaying my experiences though, so maybe I don’t know.
Leave. Straight up irish goodbye. There’ll be more parties if you don’t have a rep for literally smelling like shit. Toss the underwear on the way home.
I’ll never forget the day a friend and I were leaving a gamestop and a us army recruiter approached us and said “Do you wanna live the Call of Duty life?”. I didn’t want to be disrespectful, so I said “No, I don’t think so.” and kept on walking. When we got back to my friend’s car I immediately said “Does he realize how many times I die in that game?” and we both burst out laughing.
I feel like context is important. I live in NY and it’s pretty great, but super expensive. I’ve heard California is nicer but even more expensive. Minnesota was really nice when I went there and more affordable, but the winters are pretty harsh.
Worst state is gonna be like Mississippi or some other southern backwater. A friend of mine moved to Georgia and he works three jobs and still makes less money than me. Apparently there’s not much to do there either.
is that the grandma bike guy?
I don’t think he actually cares that much about us. He just uses us to flood the zone so his transphobic base doesn’t start questioning his actions.
I have no sense of smell.
No need to apologize. It kinda stunned me and some of my friends have been acting odd since. I don’t really have a good way to describe it myself. It definitely was funny though. I unfortunately haven’t experienced the whole “erogenous zone” changes yet. I have sensory issues though so that might never come.
It was unexpected, but I wouldn’t say it broke my boundaries. Idk if I would call it cute. My friends aren’t cute types. They’re kinda dumb and impulsive and I’ve always just considered it funny. They’re super supportive though and I’m thankful for that. I’m not the first trans person in the friend group though and all my friends are gay, bi or some kind of queer. I’d be pretty shocked if they weren’t supportive.
I have some friends Im similarly close with and when I came out to them, one just walked up groped my boobs with disbelief in his eyes. It’s okay, we’ve always been physical friends. It’s definitely crazy the reactions you can get from people when you come out though.
I don’t dress formally, but I always try to put effort into my outfit. Why not look good if I have the choice?
If you haven’t tried Tend, I seriously recommend it. That shit is magic.
Daisy, because girl + yellow.
Imo, I think high waisted bottoms are pretty good for showing off the waist. It gives you a smooth curve from the waist to the thighs, but try out lower cut stuff and see if you like it. I gotta put on a bit more weight before I think I can pull off low cuts well.
Looks super cute. I don’t think that goes against the “tight and loose” rule. The top is flowy with baggy sleeves and the bottoms are fitted. I also think you got high waisted shorts and that’s where they’re supposed to be.
Great fit though! Love it!
Edit: also don’t worry too much about the “tight and loose” rule. It’s more like a rule of thumb than a law. If you think an outfit isn’t working or are having a hard time pairing stuff, consider it. If you like how an outfit looks, wear it and don’t worry about rules.
Yeah your two ideas are probably the only thing you have to go out of your way for. Just treat them normally. If they contacted you saying they’re nervous, it wouldn’t hurt to ask them what they’re nervous about. Even if they can’t describe it, it’ll probably put them at ease knowing you cared enough to ask. Hell, telling them you asked around online will probably go a long way too.
Cute! I love it! It looks so comfy too.
That’s my bfs role lol
I used to be super sentimental and a bit of hoarder, but when my parents split and were talking about selling the house I had to start getting rid of stuff. It was hard at first, but got easier over time.
First I got rid of junk in bad shape. Then I started donating stuff in good shape I would never use or display again. Then I got rid of stuff I hadn’t used or wanted to use in a very long time. Then I got rid of stuff that I had used or would want to use again that I thought I could easily replace. Throughout the process I would put aside anything I struggled to put in a garbage bag or donation box. When I finally had to go through that stuff, I had been desensitized to getting rid of sentimental things and got rid of more than half of it.
Now, all my stuff would fit in one moving truck. All I really kept were: books, games and consoles, records and my player, tools, some useful tech stuff, camping gear, instruments, some plushies, probably like a tenth of my clothes, a couple basic furniture items, and only a box worth of small sentimental items.
I live in a place that’s pretty safe for trans people, so it’s not really a life or death issue in my experience. It’s just that trans people typically seek out other trans people and the community tries to make sure everyone is involved. Maybe that’s more of a factor in other places where it’s more dangerous, but not really where I am.
Still, what you and I are describing in more words is just solidarity as I understand it.