Right? Any relationship takes work to maintain, so expecting things to just magically work without putting in any effort is a recipe for disappointment.
Also, the whole opposites attract thing is kinda bullshit when you look at 40+ year marriages.
I think opposites and sames are bad frames to think of sex and relationships. Aggro top and meek bottom are either a recipe for a wonderful night or a terrible one depending on communication and tastes. Likewise I’ve had good sex with fellow bottoms even though it might’ve been better had she been a top. Additionally a generous vers will find no better company than another generous vers. What works best is one’s complement.
Communication is critical but it's kind of related to honesty. You can definitely imagine a relationship where there is honesty but not enough communication or there is honesty but there is miscommunication without the issue ever being addressed.
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pennomi@lemmy.world · 148 pts · 2y
kittenbridgeasteroid@discuss.tchncs.de · 66 pts · 2y
Right? Any relationship takes work to maintain, so expecting things to just magically work without putting in any effort is a recipe for disappointment.
Also, the whole opposites attract thing is kinda bullshit when you look at 40+ year marriages.
eestileib@sh.itjust.works · 30 pts · 2y
Opposites attract works for sex though. 2 aggressive tops or 2 meek bottoms aren't gonna have nearly as much fun as one of each.
DharmaCurious@startrek.website · 25 pts · 2y
Thanks to the local porn store, I have had many an eventful evening with another meek bottom.
... also my experience, give a meek bottom some kind of hardware and an opportunity, and they turn into nearly violent tops. Lmao
slurpeesoforion@startrek.website · 13 pts · 2y
Absolutely scandalous
NewAgeOldPerson@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2y
Nice name, Dharma Curious.... I should have made Dharma Chameleon...
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 2y
I think opposites and sames are bad frames to think of sex and relationships. Aggro top and meek bottom are either a recipe for a wonderful night or a terrible one depending on communication and tastes. Likewise I’ve had good sex with fellow bottoms even though it might’ve been better had she been a top. Additionally a generous vers will find no better company than another generous vers. What works best is one’s complement.
jerkface@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 2y
I only date other bi switches.
eestileib@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 2y
Hey wyd
jerkface@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 2y
You may proceed...
eestileib@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 2y
I'm guessing you're in Canada based on your instance so I doubt it would go anywhere. If you're in the Bay Area I'd grab a beer/ slice.
jerkface@lemmy.ca · 0 pts · 2y
I don't consume alcohol or intelligent creatures, but if you're ever in Waterloo, we can have sex.
Yewb@kbin.social · 33 pts · 2y
Your not wrong but there is always someone out there that just gets you, difficult to find but they exist.
pennomi@lemmy.world · 39 pts · 2y
Mr_Blott@feddit.uk · 13 pts · 2y
Obi@sopuli.xyz · 6 pts · 2y
My yes right
rotopenguin@infosec.pub · -3 pts · 2y
mriormro@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 2y
This is a meme about milquetoast christian dudes...
There's no mention of soulmates anywhere. Why is this relevant?
OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca · 15 pts · 2y
Tim Minchin - If I Didn't Have You
idunnololz@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 2y
Communication is critical but it's kind of related to honesty. You can definitely imagine a relationship where there is honesty but not enough communication or there is honesty but there is miscommunication without the issue ever being addressed.
Wilibus@lemmy.world · 0 pts · 2y
Her skills in toaster operation seem pretty important given the context.
Saneless@lemmy.world · 77 pts · 2y
It's also amazing that they're "perfectly compatible" with the first teenage boy their parents let her talk to for more than 4 minutes alone
the_third@feddit.de · 19 pts · 2y
gmtom@lemmy.world · 57 pts · 2y
And then 2 months later, she says the same thing about her new boyfriend Tristan, who is the exact same person.
sillypuddy@mander.xyz · 43 pts · 2y
I quite like my Honda Accord.
craftyindividual@lemm.ee · 9 pts · 2y
The old classic
TheOakTree@lemm.ee · 40 pts · 2y
They could have picked a less reliable car for the comparison... or one that's more easily stolen lmao
sheogorath@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 2y
Yea, Accord is good. Altima is much better to be used as a metaphor.
Default_Defect@midwest.social · 27 pts · 2y
I see you've met my sister.
CheeseToastie@lemmy.world · 22 pts · 2y
Some of us wish to be a Connor, these days I feel like the equivalent of a ford pinto
Damage@slrpnk.net · 21 pts · 2y
I'd like to buy Connor a beer
lorez@lemm.ee · 19 pts · 2y
Sometimes taking off your bra and sliding your underwear to a side is all the foreplay you need. So I applaud Connor.
MrBusiness@lemmy.zip · 4 pts · 2y
That just sounds like standard procedure.
newIdentity@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 2y
So is foreplay
jerkface@lemmy.ca · -2 pts · 2y
You applaud the guy with one move, that only works (in your words) "sometimes". Okay, whatever.
lorez@lemm.ee · 2 pts · 2y
Wasn't meant to be taken seriously. Chill.
traches@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 2y
Why you gotta pick on Connor and his girl? Let people love each other don’t be a dick
TheRedSpade@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 2y
Hey guys, I found Connor!
i_pee_through_that@unilem.org · 14 pts · 2y
But toast is so good tho
Cfrolich@lemmy.world · -6 pts · 2y
G6MOD@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 2y
Who is Connor? I'm confused.
RedditWanderer@lemmy.world · -5 pts · 2y
I think he'd meant to be a chad? Getting incel vibes from this meme
G6MOD@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 2y
Nasty