Hey, well I haven't been much active lately.
To be honest mood has been a bitch. Up and down a lot with some bad thoughts and all. At least I'm not alone but gosh this is getting hard. I'm honestly feeling like I'm failing at life like what is the point.
I know this state is temporary but heck I can't seem to find the medical support I need.
On a side note, I started doing roller derby🛼. Gosh I'm really out of shape. But I know in the long run it's going to do good. It's a bit like life, I'm falling down, it's physically hard to keep up but I'm getting back up eventually.
It's hard to reach out. Even if I do what am I to say? I don't know what's wrong with me. What can they do? I'm at good E levels, T low. It is a mental health thing. But the more I try to understand my problems the more I feel like I'm going into a rabbit hole and left even more confused.
I feel like it's because I started digging a trauma I'm pretty sure is hidden in my memory. Because I know the impact it had on me not who or what. (But I have my guesses because I have a few triggers now I've learned to understand)
Anyway, another good note is that I feel more and more feminine. Dysphoria is now a bit less problematic but still having troubles with my own body.
Stay strong everybody. I'll try to be. I have been so far. I have made so much effort to be where I am today. I'm not going waste them. Sending love 💜 Lily
15 Comments
TheOtterInside@piefed.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 3d
Here's a hug girl (づ ◕‿◕ )づ
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 3d
Thank you ૮₍ ´ ꒳ `₎ა 🫂
AzuraTheSpellkissed@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 3d
I'm glad to have you here, Lily! You will find a way to manage your mental health, because you are strong enough to not give up looking. A good therapist should be able to help you even if you struggle to verbalize the exact issue; writing down your thoughts when they get somewhat clear and presenting them to a therapist is an option. I once read here and someone you wrote extensive Lemmy posts and then just showed them to their therapist, but I can't remember who that was.
Be sure to take breaks as needed, and to allow yourself not to be a work horse. Maybe also check if you're eating healthy and drinking+sleeping enough. Being sloppy with those things easily leads to physical discomfort / exhaustion.
💜💜
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 3d
Money is too tight for a therapist to be honest I had free ones I already used them this year. I could get a psychiatrist for free but the only one I know is trustworthy has a 2 year waitlist.
And I'm not going to just see anybody to be randomly drugged.
AzuraTheSpellkissed@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 3d
Fair.
TechieDamien@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 3d
Hey Lily, you are not alone in this. It is unfortunately very common to suffer from poor mental health even after transitioning as it isn't a magic switch that makes everything better (although it does help a lot). Sometimes you need to set aside some time to do something you enjoy and try to forget the problems you face for a bit. It can help your body kind of reset and reenergise you.
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 3d
I wish I could really find something again I could hyperfocus on. Problem is I'm trying just to find dopamine boosts. It's hard to do basic things sometimes and not just playing a game to keep my mind busy and sometimes I don't even feel like doing that when my lows are bad.
crowcore_explorer@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 3d
i feel this so much. i am at a point where there's not much i can do toward transitioning without a job. problem is, after months upon months of unemployment i'm struggling to apply for work. i don't know if it's executive dysfunction or depression or something else, but i feel absolutely stuck and it's so frustrating because i want to do the things. i want my life to move forward. i don't even do the things i enjoy doing anymore.
sorry to make this about me, i just want you to know that you're not alone. i absolutely empathize. so if it's okay, please have a hug from me.
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 3d
I still have a job though but I have been on sick leave. I'm going back tomorrow and somehow I know I'll be judged and honestly make me way too anxious. But I have to face it.
At some point, I'm pretty sure I'm gonna loose my job though. Moving out has been taxing to rebuy stuff for the apartment and to help my current gf.
Edit : no worries I get it. Giving you a hug too if you want one 🫂
crowcore_explorer@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 3d
i wish you the best going back to work. i can certainty understand your feeling anxious. i hope you and your gf are able to work together and support each other. thanks for the hug!
ada@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 3d
What's your derby name?!
I used to play before covid, but haven't gone back since. I still miss it, but I haven't gone back (yet?)
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 2d
I just started and I don't know what name nor number to pick yet.
ada@piefed.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 2d
I hope you keep us all updated! I can live vicariously through you! :)
gandalf_der_13te@feddit.org · 2 pts · 3d
I think it's the weather. I've been feeling a bit heavy the last week, probably because temperature has dropped from around 30°C (gosh i love the heat) to around 15°C and raining.
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 3d
I love the cold weather though :x