While what you seen is definitely real, it may not be as bad as what you see as you work in the field of youth crisis. You see it so often as that is your job and it can skew your findings to be more to the negative side as people that are not having those issues likely aren't going to a youth crisis center and therefore are not around you. Again, it is very much a thing, but you do have some unintended bias as that is what you do for a living.
I don't see that happening until you can consistently get future generations to think about and continue enforcing a fair society. A good habit built by their parents may get passed on to their kids, but then the kids need to keep passing it on. Easier said than done on a person to person level. Even harder on a societal level.
Good people don't tend to push back until you push them too far.
It does make you wonder who the next companies will be trying to hide their participation in current other atrocities that have yet to be aknowledged as such?
Look, I understand your point and I shouldn't consider any woman being nice to me as flirting.... But in this particular case, she just asked me for my phone number yesterday so she could quote " get to know me better and continue the conversation over the weekend." We have odd work weeks and this is the start of our weekend.
I don't think there is any mystery about that part anymore. I had asked if she was seeing John and she said no, they are just friends.
As for John, he was denied for the role he really wanted to apply to for very dumb reasons and I am very upset for him. There is nothing I can personally do about improving his situation as the things he hates about our company are not within my or even my superior's control. He has told me he can't leave either as he can't find a job elsewhere.
I want to be supportive of John, but I am even trying to push it in this direction, its just going there on its own and I am currently not stopping it as she is an awesome person I would like to get to know better.
You are right though, there is no option where "I get the girl" and not burn bridges and not torch themental health of my coworker. Even if I said no, he will still be hurt as she is clearly not interested in him. Just to a lesser degree.
I never thought I would be in one of these types of posts either. It has gotten spicier. Out of curiosity, I had ended up asking her if there was anything going on between them to which she stated that they are just friends and he asked for her number. She does not want to lead him on according to her. Yesterday she asked for my number and I said sure.
Lady is moving this faster than I had planned for.
"or just plainly told him to fuck off." I don't know man, I feel like that would get me in more trouble. lol
Ultimately, whatever gets the job done with the least amount of feelings hurt is usually the best solution. Sometimes you have to try the carrot before you try the stick. I have gotten pretty far with that alone, but I think the bullshit we deal with is getting to him a bit too much and the rest of it is self inflicted.
I don't need to be close with any of my staff, but it helps.
"He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action." Agreed, he overshares way too much and it is going to bite him on the ass at some point.
My closeness with my team is unavoidable and is better I lean into it. We work long shifts and I must interact with them constantly. Managing the children as a kindergarten teacher becomes a lot easier when they like you personally.
"But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks." I don't that will fly sadly. He has mentioned it twice now.
"Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move." You just want to know how this nonsense plays out, don't you? lol
It is a Sergal and a Protogen. The fact I know without any hesitation for thought is bizarre. lol He is not a bad looking guy, so I am sure he would be fine. Doesn't make the emotional pain sting any less though.
"He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he’s romantically interested in a coworker who’s been hitting on you. You probably shouldn’t know he’s a furry either." I was aware he was a furry on his first day with me, he does not hide it whatsoever. It is an open part of his personality that I have just come to accept as it is harmless if not a bit odd. He tends to overshare things so you might be right.
He has taken a strong liking to me for reasons I don't fully follow other than some of our interests align. I wouldn't say I discourage it though as I have a discord channel just for our team where people also post memes and things on our off days. I am MUCH friendlier to my staff than your average boss, but I have a strict rule that I will not hang out with any of my coworkers where they cannot all be involved if they wish and I cannot show favoritism. I have only been taken up on that once. I won't blame him for wanting to trust me with that information, I have been told I look trustworthy or something.
As far as I have seen, she and him are perfectly friendly with each other, now recently working as a team to cause harmless, minor havoc in my life for fun. lol I don't know the full extent. I do know that they have known each other for a while too and they like to send memes to each other. I just don't know if the romantic interest is there though. Kind of like having a good friend that is also into you but you don't share it. I don't know.
Apparently yes... And super Mario 64 and beat saber.
https://www.cnet.com/tech/gaming/simulated-fruit-fly-brain-plays-doom/
You're just jealous that our kids receive free, real combat training and yours don't! We spare no expense on making them prepared! /s
While what you seen is definitely real, it may not be as bad as what you see as you work in the field of youth crisis. You see it so often as that is your job and it can skew your findings to be more to the negative side as people that are not having those issues likely aren't going to a youth crisis center and therefore are not around you. Again, it is very much a thing, but you do have some unintended bias as that is what you do for a living.
Hey now, I know what it is and I am only..... Oh god....
I don't see that happening until you can consistently get future generations to think about and continue enforcing a fair society. A good habit built by their parents may get passed on to their kids, but then the kids need to keep passing it on. Easier said than done on a person to person level. Even harder on a societal level.
Good people don't tend to push back until you push them too far.
The sign says 7 eleven so I am going to gamble on it being there.
I thought the manager was going to yell at them for doing something nice. This however was much worse. Lol
Does a god need to have consciousness? I don't believe that is a requirement and what an unsettling thought that it.
It does make you wonder who the next companies will be trying to hide their participation in current other atrocities that have yet to be aknowledged as such?
I know, such a breath of fresh air!
Look, I understand your point and I shouldn't consider any woman being nice to me as flirting.... But in this particular case, she just asked me for my phone number yesterday so she could quote " get to know me better and continue the conversation over the weekend." We have odd work weeks and this is the start of our weekend.
I don't think there is any mystery about that part anymore. I had asked if she was seeing John and she said no, they are just friends.
As for John, he was denied for the role he really wanted to apply to for very dumb reasons and I am very upset for him. There is nothing I can personally do about improving his situation as the things he hates about our company are not within my or even my superior's control. He has told me he can't leave either as he can't find a job elsewhere.
I want to be supportive of John, but I am even trying to push it in this direction, its just going there on its own and I am currently not stopping it as she is an awesome person I would like to get to know better.
You are right though, there is no option where "I get the girl" and not burn bridges and not torch themental health of my coworker. Even if I said no, he will still be hurt as she is clearly not interested in him. Just to a lesser degree.
Finally! Now someone is asking the big questions that we need answers to.
I never thought I would be in one of these types of posts either. It has gotten spicier. Out of curiosity, I had ended up asking her if there was anything going on between them to which she stated that they are just friends and he asked for her number. She does not want to lead him on according to her. Yesterday she asked for my number and I said sure.
Lady is moving this faster than I had planned for.
It is the only reasonable decision.
If it makes you feel better, I appreciated your opinion.
Well all the pieces are there. However, for me at least, I don't like sharing. Lol
"or just plainly told him to fuck off." I don't know man, I feel like that would get me in more trouble. lol
Ultimately, whatever gets the job done with the least amount of feelings hurt is usually the best solution. Sometimes you have to try the carrot before you try the stick. I have gotten pretty far with that alone, but I think the bullshit we deal with is getting to him a bit too much and the rest of it is self inflicted.
I don't need to be close with any of my staff, but it helps.
"He needs to learn to find a level of sharing that can keep him safe, because elsewhere in the thread you mention he’s on the verge of disciplinary action." Agreed, he overshares way too much and it is going to bite him on the ass at some point.
My closeness with my team is unavoidable and is better I lean into it. We work long shifts and I must interact with them constantly. Managing the children as a kindergarten teacher becomes a lot easier when they like you personally.
"But fr, act like he didn’t tell you about Jane and pretend you forgot. It’s probably the only winning move here even if it sucks." I don't that will fly sadly. He has mentioned it twice now.
"Posting follow ups as things continue is the ultimate winning move." You just want to know how this nonsense plays out, don't you? lol
It is a Sergal and a Protogen. The fact I know without any hesitation for thought is bizarre. lol He is not a bad looking guy, so I am sure he would be fine. Doesn't make the emotional pain sting any less though.
"He put you in an uncomfortable situation by telling you he’s romantically interested in a coworker who’s been hitting on you. You probably shouldn’t know he’s a furry either." I was aware he was a furry on his first day with me, he does not hide it whatsoever. It is an open part of his personality that I have just come to accept as it is harmless if not a bit odd. He tends to overshare things so you might be right.
He has taken a strong liking to me for reasons I don't fully follow other than some of our interests align. I wouldn't say I discourage it though as I have a discord channel just for our team where people also post memes and things on our off days. I am MUCH friendlier to my staff than your average boss, but I have a strict rule that I will not hang out with any of my coworkers where they cannot all be involved if they wish and I cannot show favoritism. I have only been taken up on that once. I won't blame him for wanting to trust me with that information, I have been told I look trustworthy or something.
As far as I have seen, she and him are perfectly friendly with each other, now recently working as a team to cause harmless, minor havoc in my life for fun. lol I don't know the full extent. I do know that they have known each other for a while too and they like to send memes to each other. I just don't know if the romantic interest is there though. Kind of like having a good friend that is also into you but you don't share it. I don't know.