"Horniness is the suspension of disgust" is going in my quote book, fyi. It also explains some things about me and my near-constant horniness. And, I think in some ways, the stereotypical CIS male mindset in general. Thank you for this
For us both, really. Its caused a lot of strain on our relationship. I am more than happy to masturbate, but it doesn't scratch the same itch for me as sex with my wife - lack of intimacy, I guess, but also just I love pleasuring her and I miss that. My wife finds masturbation to be wholly unsatisfying and gets outwardly frustrated if she goes solo for a while.
We both work full time and are juggling taking care of the baby, so many days we just don't have the bandwidth to both have free time and privacy at the same time and thus initiate sex. Usually we're worn out by the time the baby is asleep, and even if one or both of us is in the mood we just don't have the energy. My wife has expressed that she feels rejected and unattractive because of it, and I find myself depressed and also a bit unattractive if I'm being honest.
But we are good communicators with each other, and we're working through it. Its just hard.
I just started looking throughthe thread, but the idea that once a week is fairly frequent is mind boggling for me. My wife and I started having sex only once a week post-baby, and its caused us to seek therapy...
We should. And in an ideologically pure society we would. I honestly think people try.
But you don't have to be a manipulative person to see the value of this argument, like the comic is suggesting. You simply need to look at the world you want to make through a defensive lens. The truth is, even if we built a society where it was not the norm to be manipulative and exploitative, there would still be manipulative and exploitative people - and in such a society they would quickly climb to the top of the social hierarchy and reclaim power. And the world would decline back to what it was.
This is not an argument for inaction, imo. Its an argument for vigilance. But it also means we cannot consider ourselves "above" or "beyond" the undesirable traits of humanity, because that would make us victims of the cruel and the selfish. It also means the acceptance of checks and balances on power, which sadly... don't always stick around.
Thank you! This plot hole business is always taken out of context, too. GRRM was in an interview talking about how Lord of the Rings inspired him to write A Song of Ice and Fire - and part of that inspiration was from these gaps he noticed. And that's fucking rad!
People always talk like if you love something you should never criticize it, but being critical about something is most often a sign of passion - about the property, the genre, the medium, whatever. And inspiration blooms at the intersection of criticism and passion.
Two years ago I sought therapy for my endless cycle of depression, described almost verbatim as above. It was affecting my work performance, my marriage, and I had some pretty compelling thoughts about climbing a tree and taking the nylon-braided express.
Wasn't my first time seeking therapy. I'd been dealing with depression since middle school. Been on and off anti-depressants. Nothing worked for long, spent most of my time white-knuckling my way through life.
Then, this therapist tells me I don't have depression. I have ADHD and thats causing consistent depressed states in a neverending cycle of executive disfunction and shame. Or, put another way, "yeah you're depressed but that ain't the root cause."
Since then I've learned a lot of ADHD coping skills, I got on low dose stimulant meds, and I've learned a lot about how my nervous system works and how to listen to it. Living my best life now.
I wonder how many people are out there thinking they're depressed and that nothing has helped or will help, but are actually just under- or improperly diagnosed? Getting the totally wrong kind of help? Its kinda chilling.
Man, I love random encounters. They feel like an intrinsic part of the genre for me. And I was mildly annoyed by the open-world encounter style in FFXV (latest one I played), partly because I felt consistently incentivized to avoid encounters but running around enemies. But maybe I'm just turning into an old man lol or I have too passive a playstyle
I've never understood this argument. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not spending another penny on this franchise for the foreseeable future, but... I'm still a fan of the books. I've read my copies so often most of them are held together with duct tape and chewing gum. I have my old dvds and I give them a watch here and there. Probably gonna watch them with my kid once he's old enough.
I'm a fan of Harry Potter. Its not about if a different series is better or worse. And the books aren't bad, but that was never the issue. No one who is really a fan of something is gonna transfer their love for that thing to a "better" version that easily.
What do those other series not have? They're not Harry Potter. They're a different thing. And it doesn't have to be nostalgia for you to like a thing. And if you can replace it that easily, you're not much of a fan. Which is fine! Everyone has their own tastes.. But think about something you actually are a fan of. There's no replacement for it.
Hope this didn't come off too strong, I'm not mad or anything, but its really an argument that I don't understand when people make. There are so many good arguments for voting with your wallet on this thing, but this doesn't seem to be one of them.
I was about to dispute this, but I think its essentially correct. I for sure fall into the second camp, and while I despise the minimap bloat of a lot of newer games, I do want something that is going to guide my actions a bit. I want to like No Man's Sky so much, but playing it feels like work. Endless tasks with no satisfaction except whatever personal pride you happen to glean from a job well done.
There's gotta be a sweet spot between "I dunno, do whatever" and "here's a map of everything interesting, do it all". I think Breath of the Wild had a okay balance, but still not great. Maybe something more like Morrowind's "here's verbal clues, now go figure it out" approach
A psychiatrist, actually. There's about an afternoon's worth of testing, and that generates a report on a few different vectors, saying if you have it and what kind
Got diagnosed near the end of last year, well into adulthood. I have inattentive type (what was once called ADD). I'm on non-stimulany meds for it, which helps. But the thing about ADHD is that it's mainly genetic and has to do with the structure of your brain. Its a holdover from when we were living on plains and spent most of our days eating berries and avoiding predators. There's no real symptom relief, only management.
That said, the tools you learn for management while in therapy for it are amazing. And once you understand how your brain works, you gain a deeper and better understanding of how and why you do things. I know that seems like a "duh", but in practice its a lot more profound and empowering than you think its going to be.
But ADHD has a lot of overlap with other things, so don't be too sure until you see a professional. I wasn't looking for an ADHD diagnosis when I got one - I thought I had depression. And I was miserable. Like, considering some unthinkable stuff. My diagnosis and treatment basically 180'd me completely. Find a good doctor, then listen to them
I don't think this is proving the point that the people who say this want it to make. If you're trying to champion what the movie is trying to be, then that's one thing. (i.e. Marvel movies want to be fun, fast paced, action packed, and humorous)
But championing what a movie is not trying to be doesn't really work. For example, saying that a movie isn't trying have the traits that make a movie good (pacing, plot, framing, blocking, cut speed, color grading, etc), especially when all those elements are present simply by virtue of the medium.
That's like saying a watch isn't broken just because it doesn't tell time. You can like a broken watch. It can be a fun fashion accessory. It can have a pleasing design or be comfortable on the wrist. But it still doesn't tell time. And thats not a dig on those who like it, it's just a true statement about the watch.
"Horniness is the suspension of disgust" is going in my quote book, fyi. It also explains some things about me and my near-constant horniness. And, I think in some ways, the stereotypical CIS male mindset in general. Thank you for this
For us both, really. Its caused a lot of strain on our relationship. I am more than happy to masturbate, but it doesn't scratch the same itch for me as sex with my wife - lack of intimacy, I guess, but also just I love pleasuring her and I miss that. My wife finds masturbation to be wholly unsatisfying and gets outwardly frustrated if she goes solo for a while.
We both work full time and are juggling taking care of the baby, so many days we just don't have the bandwidth to both have free time and privacy at the same time and thus initiate sex. Usually we're worn out by the time the baby is asleep, and even if one or both of us is in the mood we just don't have the energy. My wife has expressed that she feels rejected and unattractive because of it, and I find myself depressed and also a bit unattractive if I'm being honest.
But we are good communicators with each other, and we're working through it. Its just hard.
I think the stat is at least 21x per month. So more like 5-6x per week for prostate health benefits.
I just started looking throughthe thread, but the idea that once a week is fairly frequent is mind boggling for me. My wife and I started having sex only once a week post-baby, and its caused us to seek therapy...
We should. And in an ideologically pure society we would. I honestly think people try.
But you don't have to be a manipulative person to see the value of this argument, like the comic is suggesting. You simply need to look at the world you want to make through a defensive lens. The truth is, even if we built a society where it was not the norm to be manipulative and exploitative, there would still be manipulative and exploitative people - and in such a society they would quickly climb to the top of the social hierarchy and reclaim power. And the world would decline back to what it was.
This is not an argument for inaction, imo. Its an argument for vigilance. But it also means we cannot consider ourselves "above" or "beyond" the undesirable traits of humanity, because that would make us victims of the cruel and the selfish. It also means the acceptance of checks and balances on power, which sadly... don't always stick around.
Thank you! This plot hole business is always taken out of context, too. GRRM was in an interview talking about how Lord of the Rings inspired him to write A Song of Ice and Fire - and part of that inspiration was from these gaps he noticed. And that's fucking rad!
People always talk like if you love something you should never criticize it, but being critical about something is most often a sign of passion - about the property, the genre, the medium, whatever. And inspiration blooms at the intersection of criticism and passion.
Yeah, the bones are indestructible, so there's never a need to regenerate
But if we called it the Sample Line we'd confuse it with the lines at Costco, and we can't have that. The Sample Lines are too important.
Two years ago I sought therapy for my endless cycle of depression, described almost verbatim as above. It was affecting my work performance, my marriage, and I had some pretty compelling thoughts about climbing a tree and taking the nylon-braided express.
Wasn't my first time seeking therapy. I'd been dealing with depression since middle school. Been on and off anti-depressants. Nothing worked for long, spent most of my time white-knuckling my way through life.
Then, this therapist tells me I don't have depression. I have ADHD and thats causing consistent depressed states in a neverending cycle of executive disfunction and shame. Or, put another way, "yeah you're depressed but that ain't the root cause."
Since then I've learned a lot of ADHD coping skills, I got on low dose stimulant meds, and I've learned a lot about how my nervous system works and how to listen to it. Living my best life now.
I wonder how many people are out there thinking they're depressed and that nothing has helped or will help, but are actually just under- or improperly diagnosed? Getting the totally wrong kind of help? Its kinda chilling.
This post proved to me that AI art can have value.
A very small amount, when used vindictively to produce a single kek
This, but you can go ahead and skip Rogue One as well. Its a good movie, no doubt - but Andor retroactively sabotaged it a little.
I've done that. Fresh turkey slaps.
Holdup. Ate? As in cannibalism? That hasn't been in the news. What document was that in?
Man, I love random encounters. They feel like an intrinsic part of the genre for me. And I was mildly annoyed by the open-world encounter style in FFXV (latest one I played), partly because I felt consistently incentivized to avoid encounters but running around enemies. But maybe I'm just turning into an old man lol or I have too passive a playstyle
I've never understood this argument. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not spending another penny on this franchise for the foreseeable future, but... I'm still a fan of the books. I've read my copies so often most of them are held together with duct tape and chewing gum. I have my old dvds and I give them a watch here and there. Probably gonna watch them with my kid once he's old enough.
I'm a fan of Harry Potter. Its not about if a different series is better or worse. And the books aren't bad, but that was never the issue. No one who is really a fan of something is gonna transfer their love for that thing to a "better" version that easily.
What do those other series not have? They're not Harry Potter. They're a different thing. And it doesn't have to be nostalgia for you to like a thing. And if you can replace it that easily, you're not much of a fan. Which is fine! Everyone has their own tastes.. But think about something you actually are a fan of. There's no replacement for it.
Hope this didn't come off too strong, I'm not mad or anything, but its really an argument that I don't understand when people make. There are so many good arguments for voting with your wallet on this thing, but this doesn't seem to be one of them.
Bruh. The GameCube was practically retro in 2010
I was about to dispute this, but I think its essentially correct. I for sure fall into the second camp, and while I despise the minimap bloat of a lot of newer games, I do want something that is going to guide my actions a bit. I want to like No Man's Sky so much, but playing it feels like work. Endless tasks with no satisfaction except whatever personal pride you happen to glean from a job well done.
There's gotta be a sweet spot between "I dunno, do whatever" and "here's a map of everything interesting, do it all". I think Breath of the Wild had a okay balance, but still not great. Maybe something more like Morrowind's "here's verbal clues, now go figure it out" approach
A psychiatrist, actually. There's about an afternoon's worth of testing, and that generates a report on a few different vectors, saying if you have it and what kind
Got diagnosed near the end of last year, well into adulthood. I have inattentive type (what was once called ADD). I'm on non-stimulany meds for it, which helps. But the thing about ADHD is that it's mainly genetic and has to do with the structure of your brain. Its a holdover from when we were living on plains and spent most of our days eating berries and avoiding predators. There's no real symptom relief, only management.
That said, the tools you learn for management while in therapy for it are amazing. And once you understand how your brain works, you gain a deeper and better understanding of how and why you do things. I know that seems like a "duh", but in practice its a lot more profound and empowering than you think its going to be.
But ADHD has a lot of overlap with other things, so don't be too sure until you see a professional. I wasn't looking for an ADHD diagnosis when I got one - I thought I had depression. And I was miserable. Like, considering some unthinkable stuff. My diagnosis and treatment basically 180'd me completely. Find a good doctor, then listen to them
I don't think this is proving the point that the people who say this want it to make. If you're trying to champion what the movie is trying to be, then that's one thing. (i.e. Marvel movies want to be fun, fast paced, action packed, and humorous)
But championing what a movie is not trying to be doesn't really work. For example, saying that a movie isn't trying have the traits that make a movie good (pacing, plot, framing, blocking, cut speed, color grading, etc), especially when all those elements are present simply by virtue of the medium.
That's like saying a watch isn't broken just because it doesn't tell time. You can like a broken watch. It can be a fun fashion accessory. It can have a pleasing design or be comfortable on the wrist. But it still doesn't tell time. And thats not a dig on those who like it, it's just a true statement about the watch.