Going to work in the morning, being forced to function off natural biorhythm, not being able to eat or sleep or potty at normal times: all of these contribute to ADHD burnout and not wanting to executive function at home afterwards despite feeling energetic.
Two years ago I sought therapy for my endless cycle of depression, described almost verbatim as above. It was affecting my work performance, my marriage, and I had some pretty compelling thoughts about climbing a tree and taking the nylon-braided express.
Wasn't my first time seeking therapy. I'd been dealing with depression since middle school. Been on and off anti-depressants. Nothing worked for long, spent most of my time white-knuckling my way through life.
Then, this therapist tells me I don't have depression. I have ADHD and thats causing consistent depressed states in a neverending cycle of executive disfunction and shame. Or, put another way, "yeah you're depressed but that ain't the root cause."
Since then I've learned a lot of ADHD coping skills, I got on low dose stimulant meds, and I've learned a lot about how my nervous system works and how to listen to it. Living my best life now.
I wonder how many people are out there thinking they're depressed and that nothing has helped or will help, but are actually just under- or improperly diagnosed? Getting the totally wrong kind of help? Its kinda chilling.
It's a consequence of difficulties arising from all kinds of diverse situations. There is no disorder that "owns" this specific life problem. You may even feel this way without a specific diagnosis.
Not everything has to neatly fit into a disorder description for it to be valid.
what i feel has helped is to take ANY opportunity to do something, and then focus as much as you can on the fact that you haven't just been completely passive.
Take a 5-minute walk, do a single push-up, look out the window just to remind yourself that the world exists. It's at least better than doing nothing, and especially exercise works well for me because it's 100% legitimately productive.
17 Comments
HeyJoe@lemmy.world · 39 pts · 103d
This has been me for months now... im pretty sure it's more depression than ADHD.
gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works · 15 pts · 103d
Feddinat0r@feddit.org · 29 pts · 103d
That sounds more like depression
eleitl@lemmy.zip · 30 pts · 103d
ADHD frequently leads to depression, due to own awareness of underperforming.
Chozo@fedia.io · 14 pts · 103d
I feel like there's probably a very common comorbidity there.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 103d
In my case it's more chronic pain making me want to leave my torso in one spot. Like a wee baby fat old man.
NihilsineNefas@slrpnk.net · 10 pts · 103d
You mean this isn't supposed to be how every day feels?
Auster@thebrainbin.org · 10 pts · 103d
I try to use the frustation as fuel to do things done. It burns quick so I have to be quicker, but better than sulking in a corner.
GreenBeanMachine@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 103d
titter@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 102d
Going to work in the morning, being forced to function off natural biorhythm, not being able to eat or sleep or potty at normal times: all of these contribute to ADHD burnout and not wanting to executive function at home afterwards despite feeling energetic.
Laundry, Dishes, Floors.
Never ending chores
Why am i bored?
Why can't i do more?
A D H D
Colalextrast@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 102d
Two years ago I sought therapy for my endless cycle of depression, described almost verbatim as above. It was affecting my work performance, my marriage, and I had some pretty compelling thoughts about climbing a tree and taking the nylon-braided express.
Wasn't my first time seeking therapy. I'd been dealing with depression since middle school. Been on and off anti-depressants. Nothing worked for long, spent most of my time white-knuckling my way through life.
Then, this therapist tells me I don't have depression. I have ADHD and thats causing consistent depressed states in a neverending cycle of executive disfunction and shame. Or, put another way, "yeah you're depressed but that ain't the root cause."
Since then I've learned a lot of ADHD coping skills, I got on low dose stimulant meds, and I've learned a lot about how my nervous system works and how to listen to it. Living my best life now.
I wonder how many people are out there thinking they're depressed and that nothing has helped or will help, but are actually just under- or improperly diagnosed? Getting the totally wrong kind of help? Its kinda chilling.
Jeffool@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 102d
... My therapist doesn't know this yet? But our meeting tomorrow just changed. Thanks for sharing.
Focal@pawb.social · 6 pts · 103d
All the fucking time. Isn't this more of a burnout/depression thing though?
Or is it an overlapping of mental health issues?
caradenada@feddit.cl · 9 pts · 103d
It's a consequence of difficulties arising from all kinds of diverse situations. There is no disorder that "owns" this specific life problem. You may even feel this way without a specific diagnosis.
Not everything has to neatly fit into a disorder description for it to be valid.
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 103d
That's pretty common for me.
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 102d
I am literaly like this every day, but I don't have the ability to write an article about it here, so consider it +1 vote.
Nemo@slrpnk.net · 2 pts · 103d
Thank God my depression doesn't come with a side serving of guilt. The self-blame is bad enough.
Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de · 1 pts · 79d
what i feel has helped is to take ANY opportunity to do something, and then focus as much as you can on the fact that you haven't just been completely passive.
Take a 5-minute walk, do a single push-up, look out the window just to remind yourself that the world exists. It's at least better than doing nothing, and especially exercise works well for me because it's 100% legitimately productive.