The one where the confident, attracted woman initiates and enjoys sex.
Add safe, and I've actually seen it happen!
Honestly I have a very hard time watching mainstream porn precisely because the actors seldom can convey attraction or feeling safe, and surprisingly often they don't seem to enjoy the sex they're doing either.
Sometimes I think my kinks/niches are just about finding the right production to include all three of those...
Around here kids today have penetrative sex from 12-13 years of age, would you rather they do in school bathrooms, back alleys, bushes, or somewhere clean and safe where they can also get help from a trusted adult if something goes wrong?
Thank you for your comment, and the thought and care behind your words <3
I'm not at all struggling with neither relationship nor my sexuality in it. And I agree completely with your comments on relationships and us becoming and enjoying different things in different relationships. It's been an unexpected, but pleasant and unproblematic discovery of something that has never before caught my interest.
My exploration is from a place of abundance, where I in my unexpected gain of perspective thought of all the other perspectives I could have blinded myself to, and thought it might be a good project to clear out old and stale ideas across the sexual board.
From a sexpositive rando: the number doesn't matter. You having a good time, good relationships, and good life is the only thing that matters. Sex and a healthy sexuality is an important part of all of those, number of partners is not.
And conversely, don't let your good life be limited by poorly fitting partners or norms. Some compromise might be justified, but will never be sustainable. Find where and how you thrive and get as much of it as possible in your life. Regardless if it's an orgy a week, regular emotionally intimate sex with a domestic partner, moresomes, self sex or whatever else that rocks your boat.
I decided to stop counting when I hit the national average, that was a while back.
I didn't think to give much of a fuck about history of sexual experiences until recently, but having met a partner with significantly less experience it's become obvious that sex gets better with practice and reflection.
In BDSM you can make sex homework sexy and hot, good thing too, as remedial sex is... let's say predictable.
I'm not old enough to get the full connotations of wanker. But my understanding of gooner is a brainrot version of obsessive escapist self pleasurer.
Masturbating to numb yourself, enjoying the process, don't cum (as it would give pause), just goon, give in to the hunt for pleasure, let it consume you, let everything else go, just goon, be the gooner... etc.
The way I encounter it there's also a tint of self destructive dissonance to it, where the gooner is aware that gooning is self destructive and should be doing it harder to escape those thoughts. Sometimes there's also a humiliation or power play on that same theme, although mostly in already related settings (femdom, sissyfication, humiliation typically)
Can be a fun edge to explore in bdsm play tbh, many layers to pick apart with a lot of emotional stress in between, and easily sexualised. Ripe for release!
And you as well <3
Gorgeous!
Now if only I could unsee the labia folds on the wall...
Huge! (If true)
Wow, consent is so hot!
The one where the confident, attracted woman initiates and enjoys sex. Add safe, and I've actually seen it happen!
Honestly I have a very hard time watching mainstream porn precisely because the actors seldom can convey attraction or feeling safe, and surprisingly often they don't seem to enjoy the sex they're doing either.
Sometimes I think my kinks/niches are just about finding the right production to include all three of those...
Cismale here. It varies wildly with mood and available energy.
Happy, horny and ready for release: I can be done and cleaned in 20 minutes.
Cognitive block and need it for the dopamine: prolly 40-60 minutes.
Tired but happy after a weekend hiking or similar: 90-240 minutes.
Depressed: 2-6 hrs.
Indulging myself for full satisfaction: 2-4 hours. Maybe with another one, 20-90 minutes, depending on mood.
Now that's hot!
This is so weird to me, but sure, customs differ.
Around here kids today have penetrative sex from 12-13 years of age, would you rather they do in school bathrooms, back alleys, bushes, or somewhere clean and safe where they can also get help from a trusted adult if something goes wrong?
How did it go?
Thank you for your comment, and the thought and care behind your words <3
I'm not at all struggling with neither relationship nor my sexuality in it. And I agree completely with your comments on relationships and us becoming and enjoying different things in different relationships. It's been an unexpected, but pleasant and unproblematic discovery of something that has never before caught my interest.
My exploration is from a place of abundance, where I in my unexpected gain of perspective thought of all the other perspectives I could have blinded myself to, and thought it might be a good project to clear out old and stale ideas across the sexual board.
From a sexpositive rando: the number doesn't matter. You having a good time, good relationships, and good life is the only thing that matters. Sex and a healthy sexuality is an important part of all of those, number of partners is not.
And conversely, don't let your good life be limited by poorly fitting partners or norms. Some compromise might be justified, but will never be sustainable. Find where and how you thrive and get as much of it as possible in your life. Regardless if it's an orgy a week, regular emotionally intimate sex with a domestic partner, moresomes, self sex or whatever else that rocks your boat.
Heat is controlled with distance of drip, but you do your yum your way ;)
Thank you!
Good toys are hard to come by, and rapeseed wax sounds interesting, could be a lot more sustainable than soy.
Fun!
And such lovely full coloring of the wax! Where did you get them?
I decided to stop counting when I hit the national average, that was a while back.
I didn't think to give much of a fuck about history of sexual experiences until recently, but having met a partner with significantly less experience it's become obvious that sex gets better with practice and reflection.
In BDSM you can make sex homework sexy and hot, good thing too, as remedial sex is... let's say predictable.
I'm not old enough to get the full connotations of wanker. But my understanding of gooner is a brainrot version of obsessive escapist self pleasurer.
Masturbating to numb yourself, enjoying the process, don't cum (as it would give pause), just goon, give in to the hunt for pleasure, let it consume you, let everything else go, just goon, be the gooner... etc.
The way I encounter it there's also a tint of self destructive dissonance to it, where the gooner is aware that gooning is self destructive and should be doing it harder to escape those thoughts. Sometimes there's also a humiliation or power play on that same theme, although mostly in already related settings (femdom, sissyfication, humiliation typically)
Can be a fun edge to explore in bdsm play tbh, many layers to pick apart with a lot of emotional stress in between, and easily sexualised. Ripe for release!
I was always fond of "Pony"