The bigots use the language to conflate trans women and cis men, to suggest that they're really the same. They use that language to shape the understanding of people who don't know any better. And those people absolutely impact your life, because it's those people voting for transphobia to "keep women safe" because they see you and I as being just as dangerous as cis men, because language like that shapes their understanding.
These questions, which you say are irrelevant, are what the census use to determine how many trans people exist.
It won't do that, because it conflates intersex people and trans people.
If they wanted to do it in a useful way, they would also ask my actual legal/medical sex, not just information that is decades out of date. They could also explicitly ask if people are trans or gender diverse, instead of trying to infer it in a way that conflates two distinct groups
Your relationship with that socialisation was very different to mine. We both experienced similar pressures and expectations, and we both received similar privileges based on the way people perceived us, but our lived experience of that was very different.
An analogy is a closeted gay man that has to marry a woman and have kids due to social pressure. He receives many of the privileges of being straight, but it comes at the cost of himself. Calling that straight privilege erases that cost to him, and the price he had to pay by faking a role that wasn't his.
Nuance is important, and some privileges are real. But being forced to be perceived as someone that you aren't is not a privilege, and that shouldn't be ignored.
I don't see that as some permanent Mark of Cain upon my soul.
The bigots do. It's literally how they use the term, and why they deliberately erase any nuance from discussions on the subject, and it's also why you should be careful to not do the same
"Sex assigned at birth", like that has any fucking relevance to my life. It's not the sex on my birth certificate. It's not the sex that aligns with my lived experience, my medical needs, the way the world perceives me etc. It's irrelevant, and like many trans people, I will just be lying on that question, because my lived experience today is more relevant than out of date information.
Meh, it fucks over trans people and doesn't acknowledge the existence of non binary or intersex folk.
I live in a blended family household, in a poly relationship with a trans woman and an enby. Between us, we have two non binary adult children in the house.
The census won't have the first clue what to do with this household...
Neopronoun folk don't need to be told the excuses. They live it every day. A thread where someone asking for support dealing with lack of acceptance from other folk, is not the place for those very folk to come in and list the reasons why that acceptance is just too hard for them.
I've been seeing something similar. Will see what we can do, but we're currently in the "loading the moving truck" stage of moving house, so please bear with us if it takes a bit to get to the bottom of it
A remote user that is banned from this instance will also be banned from the communities on this instance, and those community bans federate, so they can't interact with remote versions of the community.
They can still see the content in the community though. I think there is a gap around communities that they had never interacted with. They can't subscribe to those communities because of the instance ban, but I think in theory they can still post to them, but that content will only be visible on their remote instance. I'm not certain of the details of this particular edge case though...
Could I make a feature request that would make my life as an admin much easier? Would it be possible to add links to the local URL, the canonical URL and a lemmy redirector like lemmyverse.link in the share button for posts and comments?
When trying to deal with spammers etc and sharing content with other admins, it's currently quite difficult to expose a URL that the remote admin can use
In that case, I'll take "reborn with current knowledge intact" thank you!
Even though magic sounds tempting, if I can't remember my previous stint, my reborn persona may as well be a completely different person!
Unless the magic comes with sex and gender fuckery spells, neither. I'm not really keen on doing a whole lifetime without access to trans health care
If they wanted to deal with the bots, they'd stop using reddit.
You're not ceding language by acknowledging differences.
The bigots use the language to conflate trans women and cis men, to suggest that they're really the same. They use that language to shape the understanding of people who don't know any better. And those people absolutely impact your life, because it's those people voting for transphobia to "keep women safe" because they see you and I as being just as dangerous as cis men, because language like that shapes their understanding.
It won't do that, because it conflates intersex people and trans people.
If they wanted to do it in a useful way, they would also ask my actual legal/medical sex, not just information that is decades out of date. They could also explicitly ask if people are trans or gender diverse, instead of trying to infer it in a way that conflates two distinct groups
Your relationship with that socialisation was very different to mine. We both experienced similar pressures and expectations, and we both received similar privileges based on the way people perceived us, but our lived experience of that was very different.
An analogy is a closeted gay man that has to marry a woman and have kids due to social pressure. He receives many of the privileges of being straight, but it comes at the cost of himself. Calling that straight privilege erases that cost to him, and the price he had to pay by faking a role that wasn't his.
Nuance is important, and some privileges are real. But being forced to be perceived as someone that you aren't is not a privilege, and that shouldn't be ignored.
The bigots do. It's literally how they use the term, and why they deliberately erase any nuance from discussions on the subject, and it's also why you should be careful to not do the same
The problem is now, they can't tell trans and intersex folk apart with these questions, and non binary folk are completely invisible.
Their numbers are useless no matter what trans people answer
"Sex assigned at birth", like that has any fucking relevance to my life. It's not the sex on my birth certificate. It's not the sex that aligns with my lived experience, my medical needs, the way the world perceives me etc. It's irrelevant, and like many trans people, I will just be lying on that question, because my lived experience today is more relevant than out of date information.
Meh, it fucks over trans people and doesn't acknowledge the existence of non binary or intersex folk.
I live in a blended family household, in a poly relationship with a trans woman and an enby. Between us, we have two non binary adult children in the house.
The census won't have the first clue what to do with this household...
Neopronoun folk don't need to be told the excuses. They live it every day. A thread where someone asking for support dealing with lack of acceptance from other folk, is not the place for those very folk to come in and list the reasons why that acceptance is just too hard for them.
This is a trans community where a trans person asked other trans people about an issue that impacts trans people.
It's not the thread for an ally to come in and tell trans people they'll just need to live with it, even if they do so politely.
I've been seeing something similar. Will see what we can do, but we're currently in the "loading the moving truck" stage of moving house, so please bear with us if it takes a bit to get to the bottom of it
A remote user that is banned from this instance will also be banned from the communities on this instance, and those community bans federate, so they can't interact with remote versions of the community.
They can still see the content in the community though. I think there is a gap around communities that they had never interacted with. They can't subscribe to those communities because of the instance ban, but I think in theory they can still post to them, but that content will only be visible on their remote instance. I'm not certain of the details of this particular edge case though...
Could I make a feature request that would make my life as an admin much easier? Would it be possible to add links to the local URL, the canonical URL and a lemmy redirector like lemmyverse.link in the share button for posts and comments?
When trying to deal with spammers etc and sharing content with other admins, it's currently quite difficult to expose a URL that the remote admin can use
Wait, am I meant to announce my departure when I'm at an airport? I haven't been doing that...
As in pushing back and making noise when people post stuff that helps keep her relevant.
If I have a tool for decreasing the amount of harm she does, this is it.
Will it make much difference? No, but if a single person hesitates before posting potter stuff in the future, then it helped a little
This is what aiming at her looks like.
tfw I'm on an instance without downvotes!