deviantfemboi

u/deviantfemboi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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hi friend! i am also a hard gainer and i go to the gym all the time. i eat an obscene amount of protein and fat to gain weight. yogurt, cheese, butter, milk, some meat, salad dressing, sweets more than i enjoy like ice cream or doughnuts. tuna, oysters for snack protein.

more small meals through the day rather than one or two large meals helps.

i went from 155 to now 185 in a year. i also started working out about twice a week, sometimes more sometimes less. would love to talk your head off if you have questions

on Work rule · c/onehundredninetysix · 3 pts · 34d

can confirm i "dont have enough drive" because i show up 10 minutes early and leave 10 minutes after shift end as a manager :3

just enough to herd my flock in and out, send EOD report and im out. working a few hours over (couple times a week, for a couple months on and off) got me nothing from the company, no mention in annual review, and it made my home life worse. they can keep all the extra hours, it wont be me.

on Work rule · c/onehundredninetysix · 1 pts · 34d

can confirm i "dont have enough drive" because i show up 10 minutes early and leave 10 minutes after shift end as a manager :3

just enough to herd my flock in and out, send EOD report and im out. working a few hours over got me nothing from the company, no mention in annual review, and it made my home life worse. they can keep all the extra hours, it wont be me.

we have changed over time, removing TV from our lives over the past 7 years. I did notice that it is easier to not watch TV when i have a lot of free things to do nearby, outside. like gardening and landscaping. we have one tv in the living room just to be able to watch a movie sometimes, it is awesome. bedroom is completely built to be aesthetic, cozy and for SLEEPING or whatever. nothing more, nothing less so we get out of there when we are done.

Hey friend! I also slowly did this. I dont regret taking the years to figure it out and try things. From like 19 to 24 I just thought i liked femme stuff sometimes. met my wife, who affirmed my feelings for the first time ever, but she wanted a bf so we dated cishet for 2 years. then i became a femboy ((egg)) and there were signs before that for her. she was always supportive without outwardly telling me, i never thought to ask. i thought i was just doing my regular atrange femme guy stuff. WRONG. dysphoria started hitting like a train around 28 to 30 then i just started HRT with zero inout from her because i was scared. i didnt know she supported me already. she sometimes aligned with TERFs and i thought it would end the marriage.

our marriage only got better, went poly, both rather happy because we enjoy each other fully. she likes how i gained a lot of emotion and we express feelings a lot more together. another poster said "living with a teenage girl" yeah.. HRT did that to me too lol

my wife was cis het, but now ids as queer. she still only prefers men, but we still have a great relationship 😉 i get to be an exception.

about 1 year in, estradiol valerate 0.2 mL im weekly, Spironalactone 2x daily, started progesterone about 9 months in.

it wasn't long before i felt tenderness in my breasts, maybe 6 weeks. grew to B cups then progesterone has really made them fill out more and still gaining, on the light side of C currently. i decided to weight cycle using cheese (i love cheese) and that worked out pretty well, i gained about 30 lbs permanently (in all my favorite places).

i also decided to really try to eat healthy other than being a cheese monster, went mostly vegetarian and worked out about 2x or 3x weekly just legs and core.

I started a bit later in life, at 31 but I identify as NB so its fine. I do still get a lot of confusion though I like being able to tone it up or down with clothes as a determining factor.

People treat me differently now, in good ways and bad ways. I am about 1000% more emotional, for better and for worse. I personally love that i get upset enough that i can cry over dumb stuff like missing someone or being TOO HAPPY. The crying got much worse with progesterone, but it isn't a lasting sadness, it's acute. to the point that I'll be crying and logically know that there's nothing to feel that strongly about, but the physical reaction happens anyways. my wife thinks it's been really therapeutic for me, probably euphoria related mostly.

uhhh what else, idk but it was a great choice. take your time, hang out with people that actually care about you and don't waste time on anyone that brings you down.