ferrent22

u/ferrent22@midwest.social
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I work in software support. In my current company, the rank and file are close-ish to half male/half female, but management is almost all male, including all the way up to the 4 founders/heads of the company, and most customer teams are male-dominated. I often am on calls with the network teams at customers, and it's very common for those almost entirely male teams to ignore what I say because I'm female. I very often have to repeat myself many times, and even then it usually goes better if I bring a male on the call to say what I've been saying. However, I'm pretty lucky, because when I brought up that one call in particular got sexist, my male manager essentially said "That's not ok. Should I talk to their leadership?". I've never had a manager, even a female manager, respond that way. Previous managers always pretty much said to deal with it, which I've gotten pretty good at. Now, I will sometimes bring my male manager on calls so that when the team asks him a question, he can say I'm the expert and let me answer. It doesn't hurt that I do have a deeper knowledge of the technical areas, and my manager knows it.

on How's your week been? · c/trans · 4 pts · 1y

As an ally, I can't offer much in words of wisdom, but I am always happy to provide a hug over the internet. So, from one internet stranger to another, I hear you, and I'm here for you.

Also, I can confirm that crying can definitely feel like a cheat code sometimes. 😊

I don't have any additional advice to offer. There are lots of good comments already for that. But I did want to share that I also was afraid of taking meds for a long time because I'd heard horror stories (mostly on TV/in movies) of the meds making you almost catatonic, and that wasn't how I wanted to live my life. However, I've been taking anti-anxiety meds for over 10 years now, and I can confidently say that they are a huge help. I've changed doses several times, including recently adding an "as needed" med for times I know my stress/anxiety levels will rise. I recommend working with your doctor to figure out the best med/med combo for you, but for me personally, I've found a lot of success with Sertraline (generic Zoloft), although it does take about a month for dose changes to take effect, and Buspirone (generic Buspar) for my "as needed" extra.

Also, know that you are not alone, from one internet stranger to another.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/aww · 1 pts · 2y

I don't think cats realize how hilarious they are when they use their grumpy faces. ❤️

As a current ferret owner, I empathize with this comment so much. I do take mine out on leashes, one at a time, every now and then, and it takes a lot of patience and energy to do so. But it's always great when I get to show people pics or vids of my ferrets on leashes. It always gets a great reaction.

on Mental health is important · c/aww · 17 pts · 2y

Speaking as a ferret owner who every now and then tries to get them into a sweater or hat, I can 1000% agree with this statement.

Unfortunately, I don't have any help to offer, but I did want to let you know that it is possible to install on Android from Chrome. I'm replying from mine right now.

Clearing browsing history sounds like a good first step if you haven't tried that yet. Good luck getting it figured out!