Remember that it is a disability. ADHD is disabling (at times) despite being a core part of people who have it.
You can't fault yourself for not being a better runner when your leg is broken, even if your partner so dearly wants someone to run with. You can try. You can train. You can get assistive devices. But it might still hurt some days. It may never be a thing you can do to someone elses standards.
Y'all should consider couples counseling. It's not a bad thing, or a defeat - but it sounds like theres a lot of pressure on you (which can be PLENTY counterproductive). Might be better to find ways to understand each other better and how to best support each other as partners.
HowToAdhd has a few videos about being in a relationship, too, that could be insightful for you or your partner.
https://m.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD/
I hear your struggle. I have been on both sides of this fence, recently. Obnoxious interview hoops to jump through and otherwise promising candidates reading verbatim from chatgpt mid interview :/
I would also feel really belittled by tracking software like that (but also probably try a VM, which I assume would get around their trackers anyway, lol).
I do agree with others, a company will get a small amount of hours from me for take home and no more. Be worth my time, earn my respect
I'm using Asahi on an M1 Air I got for like $400 recently. Is legit, super easy install. Don't have HDMI support, unfortunately, but that's not the worst thing.
I wish I liked more of the hardware of linux laptop manufacturers :(
I tried to support various ones a few times but they are all just "adequate-at-best" laptops in terms of battery, keyboard, audio, screen, etc
Pretending that invading a country, causing mass destruction and death, because America has bad public infrastructure and gas prices might rise is an evil and insane thing to say and a completely head-assed opinion.
This is absolutely not a "this happens, unfortunately" situation.
Depending on where you live, arrest or court records might be public - do consider though, an arrest doesn't mean someone did it. Frequently people are arrested incorrectly or the evidence is not found sufficient in court and society says they aren't guilty.
If they are found guilty and are arrested, theoretically they have done their time to repay the moral or ethical debt.
so im just there with him and remind him that i’m there even when he doesn’t feel like talking or we don’t have much to say.
That's a great thing to do! :) It's often hard to find people willing to do that, and willing to give space for being disabled/disordered.
A few ideas, from my lifelong struggle with depression, that you can think about as a partner:
Let them know it's okay to talk about feelings, that it's okay to bring stuff up with their friends/support circle, that it's okay to see a therapist. You can ask (maybe, when it's less of a down-period) if it'd ever be helpful to help set them up with a therapist, if that's a thing you think you could help contribute with.
Let them know that depression and stress happen, and it doesn't mean they are broken. Things might not always get better, but there will probably be another day sooner than later when it feels easy for their heart to smile
Let them know it's okay to be quiet or in the shit or less responsive. Give space for that and make sure you are attending to your own feelings and self and interests in those times. Do things for YOURSELF to help you feel okay and loved and supported by your support circle. If you think they are in the shit, you can do gentle things to help, like ask if you can bring over a snack or some small treat they like, or some other gesture, but also remind them that they are loved and you like to talk/spend time with them whenever they are ready, and they don't need to feel pressure to feel ready.
for THEM, though, the things they can think about:
Have that support circle. Do what you can to re-establish friends or family, even if you drift away when you're in the shit
Get help. Therapy is great. Hard, but great. If it's too expensive, think about it later when that's less of an issue. There's lots of workbooks that can be attempted for free, and different things work for different people. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can maybe be attempted alone (during less-down times), and works for some people. Dielectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) works for other folks. There's lots of free resources online for both. It's okay to just familiarize yourself with those concepts and frameworks, if nothing else.
Learn to think about how you're feeling. Learn to take time to stop and name your feelings. Remember that you are the driver, and you can interact with or influence those feelings to some extent.
Look at the things stressing you out in life or depressing you. Some can be solved. Some can be avoided. Some can be escaped - with distractions, with hobbies. Some things are there to stay, and we can only get better at living with them when they come around.
Remember hobbies, remember coping strategies, remember things that excite or make you happy. Write them down! Refer to that list, when things are going bad.
You aren't broken. Things will get better, sometimes. They will probably get worse again, too. And better again. It's worth it.
You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say "we are trying for a baby" to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.
yep! Since I got the phone I got, I have never logged in to Google. Just gotta hit 'Skip' on the device setup - and you can download a .apk of the aurora app store and use it anonymously, in addition to using f-droid (tho, caveat, folks have opinions about f-droid)
https://f-droid.org/packages/com.aurora.store/
There are open source / self-hosted giphy types of things. Not sure what federating would add, unless you wanted content discovery or something? A link to a picture is a link to a picture, no need to re-host it across instances.
DNS uses distributes hash tables, which is decentralized. Though, yes, there is centralization in terms of trusted entities able to issue domain names and top level domains, you can already host your own distributed and decentralized name servers
Remember that it is a disability. ADHD is disabling (at times) despite being a core part of people who have it.
You can't fault yourself for not being a better runner when your leg is broken, even if your partner so dearly wants someone to run with. You can try. You can train. You can get assistive devices. But it might still hurt some days. It may never be a thing you can do to someone elses standards.
Y'all should consider couples counseling. It's not a bad thing, or a defeat - but it sounds like theres a lot of pressure on you (which can be PLENTY counterproductive). Might be better to find ways to understand each other better and how to best support each other as partners.
HowToAdhd has a few videos about being in a relationship, too, that could be insightful for you or your partner. https://m.youtube.com/@HowtoADHD/
I hear your struggle. I have been on both sides of this fence, recently. Obnoxious interview hoops to jump through and otherwise promising candidates reading verbatim from chatgpt mid interview :/
I would also feel really belittled by tracking software like that (but also probably try a VM, which I assume would get around their trackers anyway, lol).
I do agree with others, a company will get a small amount of hours from me for take home and no more. Be worth my time, earn my respect
I'm using Asahi on an M1 Air I got for like $400 recently. Is legit, super easy install. Don't have HDMI support, unfortunately, but that's not the worst thing. I wish I liked more of the hardware of linux laptop manufacturers :( I tried to support various ones a few times but they are all just "adequate-at-best" laptops in terms of battery, keyboard, audio, screen, etc
Pretending that invading a country, causing mass destruction and death, because America has bad public infrastructure and gas prices might rise is an evil and insane thing to say and a completely head-assed opinion. This is absolutely not a "this happens, unfortunately" situation.
I my current GPU in my gaming PC I got on a big discount, around when folks couldn't really do bitcoin mining on consumer hardware anymore, so... yes?
great band
Oh! I had wanted to make something like this, awesome!
Depending on where you live, arrest or court records might be public - do consider though, an arrest doesn't mean someone did it. Frequently people are arrested incorrectly or the evidence is not found sufficient in court and society says they aren't guilty. If they are found guilty and are arrested, theoretically they have done their time to repay the moral or ethical debt.
That's a great thing to do! :) It's often hard to find people willing to do that, and willing to give space for being disabled/disordered.
A few ideas, from my lifelong struggle with depression, that you can think about as a partner:
for THEM, though, the things they can think about:
You are also able to use the euphemism. A queer couple can say "we are trying for a baby" to refer to the process of adopting or ivf or anything like that.
yep! Since I got the phone I got, I have never logged in to Google. Just gotta hit 'Skip' on the device setup - and you can download a .apk of the aurora app store and use it anonymously, in addition to using f-droid (tho, caveat, folks have opinions about f-droid) https://f-droid.org/packages/com.aurora.store/
Want help? Feel free to DM specifics and send the files
you can use android without being logged in to google. Especially using the Aurora app store
There are open source / self-hosted giphy types of things. Not sure what federating would add, unless you wanted content discovery or something? A link to a picture is a link to a picture, no need to re-host it across instances.
Can pvc cement the outside of pipes together so they are a unit then either glue or screw that whole thing to the box, maybe?
I can't tell who like ten of the people are
Generally, blockchain is really only helpful in very specific scenarios
DNS uses distributes hash tables, which is decentralized. Though, yes, there is centralization in terms of trusted entities able to issue domain names and top level domains, you can already host your own distributed and decentralized name servers
What specs? Remember your thermal paste 🤓
Wow! Is that a career? What's the coolest place or thing you've performed?