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Yeah I do that too. When I get really enthusiastic about something, I can talk about it for hours. So, it exists.

I was told it is apparently an ADHD thing. Because some people I used to meet, did the same thing, about their favorite topic each. So, it's an ADHD thing, apparently.

But I'm glad you can bring up the mental energy to talk about a topic for a long time! That means you're healthy :-) (imo)

The most important ones that come to my mind:

  • Maps (like Google Maps, just FOSS) ideally with transportation routing for every country. This could be a lot of work and is definitely not a "small project".

  • Browser (like Firefox). Like 50% of everything I do happens through the browser.

  • File Explorer, PDF viewer, ...

maybe some puzzle games to play when bored. I don't really use much else.

Oh and a Youtube alternative would be nice, but not necessary. You can already visit some through the browser.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asexual · 7 pts · 1y

First of all, don't feel bad for not having sex. The right to a self-determined life is important, be it sex or no sex.

I'm very sorry for your story. If you'd live in a society with better social welfare, I'm sure you'd do much better. Unfortunately, I don't really have good advice for what to do in your situation.

May I suggest something?

In some countries (like Germany) they have special hotels which are essentially free or low-cost, which have the sole purpose of helping women or people in a difficult, abusive relationship gather some distance from their abusive partner. In German they're called "Frauenhäuser" (women's houses). Maybe such a thing exists where you live, too?

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 2 pts · 1y

Experiences: Why did you do it, how did you feel afterwards, did you regret it, did anything change in you afterwards?

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 4 pts · 1y

I wanted to add that i really really really did not want to hurt her. I'm just that dense (even if you can't imagine it) and my gut feeling told me that would be a fine thing to do.

on *Permanently Deleted* · c/asklemmy · 11 pts · 1y

I'll go first:

Yes, but not in bad faith. I really liked a girl in school and at some day after school (we were sitting together to do some exercises) I awkwardly approached her and tried to kiss her. To my defense: My autism is strong and doesn't tell me when things are awkward. She pulled back and I realized how shocked she must be, so I awkwardly apologized. She said "yeah yeah it's fine". and i left. The next day, however, she avoided me and we didn't talk afterwards.

I'm guessing that it was in fact not fine, and I'm sorry for making her feel bad. I'm not sure what to do, I never saw her again because my parents moved away so I changed school afterwards. I'm thinking about reaching out to her and apologizing again, but I'm not sure whether that's such a good idea (it happened more than a year ago and I'd have to count on chance to figure out a way to contact her.)

Call me a nutcase but this story is true. Save yourself all the "ooh you're such a bad person, you shouldn't have done that". Can anybody relate to this experience? Has anybody direct experiences being on the other side of this? I'd like to hear them. Thanks.

Yes. I've once ghosted a close friend of mine, because I had difficult health conditions and needed a break from school (that's where we met). I didn't want any human contact, so I just isolated myself and changed my phone number. It was unfair towards her, because she was a really likable person, but I just couldn't handle any human contact at the time. I regret not telling her.