"I've been vaccinated so many times I've lost count. Yeah, I'm such a dirty slut for the vax. Pfizer, Moderna, they've all been inside me. Sometimes I don't even know their names - if it's mRNA I let them put it in."
My state has a framework for at-home daycare operations, but good luck finding one that's not already at capacity. I've heard of other states scrapping their programs or not creating one to begin with, citing imagined "potential for abuse".
It's always easier to just sit on your hands instead of improving things, and "think of the children" does an insane amount of heavy lifting while managing to hurt the very children and families it claims to protect.
My workplace is like this too! There have been a couple times employees have been disciplined, even fired for a pattern of using the wrong pronouns or deadnames. And not just once. Once is a mistake, these people were doubling and tripling down. Idk where they got those people, but it's always a pleasure when the trash takes itself out!
HR software, though, especially Microsoft products, are fucking terrible at managing name changes and pronouns.
A few months ago I had to work one-on-one with a colleague in another department who I hadn't met yet. I ended up (unknowingly) addressing them by their deadname because that's what was showing for me in MS Teams. I was absolutely mortified, and apologized profusely as soon as I realized my mistake. My co-worker was very understanding but sadly this was mostly because it had happened to them multiple times already.
Turns out a bunch of us had (and continue to have) this "display" issue where a wrong name or image is shown, and the only "solutions" are to have all employees simultaneously delete hidden local caches and hope for the best, which is absolutely ridiculous, or just wait indefinitely, do nothing, and the data will magically sort itself out somehow. MS, true to form, claim that their perfect software, sculpted by the hand of God himself, is "working as designed" and that these things are not a big deal.
It took months to get the person's name change fully propagated everywhere. Somehow, their deadname STILL randomly pops up from time to time, like it's being pulled from some unknown stale DB copy that didn't get the changes, or stale cached data is flowing back into a DB somehow? Either way, a database containing employee data which is supposedly an authoritative store of truth, and mostly a collection of short strings, is not supposed to work like that, right? Since it's Microsoft, though, they can just ignore the issue, gaslight us, and continue getting away with causing humiliation. ADP as well is not far behind when it comes to data handling competence.
It has come back very hard - because it's on the way out. It's a last-ditch effort. The last gasp and death-rattle of the old ways. These dreadful people are lashing out like cornered animals because they know they're facing extinction.
I sincerely believe that if we unrelentingly hold ground right now, a post-gender society is right around the corner.
You can be visibly (and otherwise) "of" the binary, and still reject it. I have put down "they/them" in the past, not because I have a preference for "they/them", but because I literally couldn't care less about what gendered words other people use for me. I personally live as a man, dress like a man, etc. because it's the path of least resistance. I was born with a penis, socialized to be a boy. With few exceptions, men's clothes are just better, easier to shop for, have pockets, etc. (Sorry ladies.) It's just easier to live as a man in this place, and I won a biological coin toss.
I don't care one iota about "being a man" or defending an idealized version of masculinity. I don't spend any energy whatsoever on making sure that I'm "man enough for the man club". I just try to do things which bring me joy, wear the clothes I like, and try to take good care of myself and others. If some of those things happen to cross some imaginary line and invalidate my "man card" (blegh), so be it - I'll hand it in voluntarily every time, it's toxic as hell.
I do things like letting my daughter paint my nails because it brings her joy, and you better believe I'm wearing those painted nails around the office the next day. If someone has something to say about that, great! Depending on what was said, they've either identified themselves as a lovely person, or as someone who can be discarded for their opinions, and that doesn't cost me shit! If my nails or hair, or the way I speak breaks some "macho man" broseph's brain and causes them to piss their pants, even better!
I know that it's a privilege to be able to even have this attitude, but I try to make sure it doesn't go to waste.
On the flip side, there are those who care very much about their gender, for whom it is very real, and I respect that, as one does. I love all my trans, enby, queer, etc. homies very, very much, regardless of how they choose to present, and I try to make sure they know that. I wouldn't spend so much cognitive energy on worrying about getting the words wrong. If you do make a mistake with it, admit your mistake and apologize. Just show that you do care. Don't just brush it off, and definitely don't double down. In my experience, a reasonable person, regardless where they fall, will forgive you and move on from it fairly quickly.
Labor is often the biggest expense, but it's far and away not the only one. Any business might pay extractive rent, property upkeep costs, property taxes, business tax, administrative costs like bookkeeping and legal advisory, and insurance. (Any business involving the safety and well-being of more than a couple kids has to have unbelievable premiums just for liability.)
I wouldn't be so quick to point fingers at the people running a fucking daycare ffs. If they run a tight ship, the owners are making at best a very basic, decent salary. they're not fleecing parents. Even if they wanted to, they literally can't.
Look instead at all those auxiliary industries which are required for legal compliance - especially the "consultant class" - legal, tax/accounting, and insurance. They have leeches attached all the way up the chain, starting with individual workers.
True facts. The "missing" money in the equation is all the boring expensive stuff, and those who benefit from those expenses love how obscure they are. Rent, utilities, property upkeep, property taxes, legal, administration (bookkeeping, compliance), insurance (child safety/liability is a convenient excuse for sky-high premiums).
I've noticed a distinct trend of high-quality incel-bait in this comm, and I'm here for it.
It's not just funny as fuck to see their hands get slapped because they just can't resist spewing that garbage... the new tags next to their usernames are also worth their weight in pure gold!
The true distribution of autism in women and men is thought to be about equal. Women and girls with autism are chronically under-diagnosed because diagnostic criteria were originally designed to fit a stereotypical male presentation of autistic traits at the surface level, and the current diagnostic process still hasn't shed that bias.
When women are diagnosed, it is later in life, on average. The "female presentation" of autism (if you can forgive me for not finding a better way to frame that) tends to be less "disruptive" and easier to overlook or explain away or otherwise mask in childhood. Diagnostic methods are already biased and tailored toward children - it is much harder to get diagnosed as an adult. So there's a bunch of pressures against getting diagnosed if you don't fit the mold of the stereotypical (white) male trope of the autistic boy that we all know.
What is known as "autism" is an array of inherent, physical differences in neurology, some of which are still poorly understood, if at all. But we do know enough to know that it's a series of physical dimorphisms that look pretty much the same across the population. Autistic people are born with these differences, and their neurology is defined by them throughout life. Diagnostics always lags behind current science, though. There is no blood test/genetic test that can definitely say "yes, you are autistic". At least nothing practical to deploy at scale. We could theoretically use very expensive imaging, but that obviously would not scale to everyone.
So that's why we see differences not just between genders, but also socioeconomic status, ethnic backgrounds, and other demographic groupings. I haven't even touched on non-binary folks - that's a whole separate ball of wax, and something of a "chicken/egg" situation because autistic people are more likely than the general population to be transgender, agender, or otherwise outside the binary, and vice versa. The point is anyone outside of that stereotypical young white male person born to a middle or upper-class family will have similar challenges with diagnosis, and lower rates of diagnosis in general, just to different degrees, depending on how the traits defining who they are intersect with the diagnostic biases.
"I've been vaccinated so many times I've lost count. Yeah, I'm such a dirty slut for the vax. Pfizer, Moderna, they've all been inside me. Sometimes I don't even know their names - if it's mRNA I let them put it in."
My state has a framework for at-home daycare operations, but good luck finding one that's not already at capacity. I've heard of other states scrapping their programs or not creating one to begin with, citing imagined "potential for abuse".
It's always easier to just sit on your hands instead of improving things, and "think of the children" does an insane amount of heavy lifting while managing to hurt the very children and families it claims to protect.
My workplace is like this too! There have been a couple times employees have been disciplined, even fired for a pattern of using the wrong pronouns or deadnames. And not just once. Once is a mistake, these people were doubling and tripling down. Idk where they got those people, but it's always a pleasure when the trash takes itself out!
HR software, though, especially Microsoft products, are fucking terrible at managing name changes and pronouns.
A few months ago I had to work one-on-one with a colleague in another department who I hadn't met yet. I ended up (unknowingly) addressing them by their deadname because that's what was showing for me in MS Teams. I was absolutely mortified, and apologized profusely as soon as I realized my mistake. My co-worker was very understanding but sadly this was mostly because it had happened to them multiple times already.
Turns out a bunch of us had (and continue to have) this "display" issue where a wrong name or image is shown, and the only "solutions" are to have all employees simultaneously delete hidden local caches and hope for the best, which is absolutely ridiculous, or just wait indefinitely, do nothing, and the data will magically sort itself out somehow. MS, true to form, claim that their perfect software, sculpted by the hand of God himself, is "working as designed" and that these things are not a big deal.
It took months to get the person's name change fully propagated everywhere. Somehow, their deadname STILL randomly pops up from time to time, like it's being pulled from some unknown stale DB copy that didn't get the changes, or stale cached data is flowing back into a DB somehow? Either way, a database containing employee data which is supposedly an authoritative store of truth, and mostly a collection of short strings, is not supposed to work like that, right? Since it's Microsoft, though, they can just ignore the issue, gaslight us, and continue getting away with causing humiliation. ADP as well is not far behind when it comes to data handling competence.
It has come back very hard - because it's on the way out. It's a last-ditch effort. The last gasp and death-rattle of the old ways. These dreadful people are lashing out like cornered animals because they know they're facing extinction.
I sincerely believe that if we unrelentingly hold ground right now, a post-gender society is right around the corner.
You can be visibly (and otherwise) "of" the binary, and still reject it. I have put down "they/them" in the past, not because I have a preference for "they/them", but because I literally couldn't care less about what gendered words other people use for me. I personally live as a man, dress like a man, etc. because it's the path of least resistance. I was born with a penis, socialized to be a boy. With few exceptions, men's clothes are just better, easier to shop for, have pockets, etc. (Sorry ladies.) It's just easier to live as a man in this place, and I won a biological coin toss.
I don't care one iota about "being a man" or defending an idealized version of masculinity. I don't spend any energy whatsoever on making sure that I'm "man enough for the man club". I just try to do things which bring me joy, wear the clothes I like, and try to take good care of myself and others. If some of those things happen to cross some imaginary line and invalidate my "man card" (blegh), so be it - I'll hand it in voluntarily every time, it's toxic as hell.
I do things like letting my daughter paint my nails because it brings her joy, and you better believe I'm wearing those painted nails around the office the next day. If someone has something to say about that, great! Depending on what was said, they've either identified themselves as a lovely person, or as someone who can be discarded for their opinions, and that doesn't cost me shit! If my nails or hair, or the way I speak breaks some "macho man" broseph's brain and causes them to piss their pants, even better!
I know that it's a privilege to be able to even have this attitude, but I try to make sure it doesn't go to waste.
On the flip side, there are those who care very much about their gender, for whom it is very real, and I respect that, as one does. I love all my trans, enby, queer, etc. homies very, very much, regardless of how they choose to present, and I try to make sure they know that. I wouldn't spend so much cognitive energy on worrying about getting the words wrong. If you do make a mistake with it, admit your mistake and apologize. Just show that you do care. Don't just brush it off, and definitely don't double down. In my experience, a reasonable person, regardless where they fall, will forgive you and move on from it fairly quickly.
Labor is often the biggest expense, but it's far and away not the only one. Any business might pay extractive rent, property upkeep costs, property taxes, business tax, administrative costs like bookkeeping and legal advisory, and insurance. (Any business involving the safety and well-being of more than a couple kids has to have unbelievable premiums just for liability.)
I wouldn't be so quick to point fingers at the people running a fucking daycare ffs. If they run a tight ship, the owners are making at best a very basic, decent salary. they're not fleecing parents. Even if they wanted to, they literally can't.
Look instead at all those auxiliary industries which are required for legal compliance - especially the "consultant class" - legal, tax/accounting, and insurance. They have leeches attached all the way up the chain, starting with individual workers.
True facts. The "missing" money in the equation is all the boring expensive stuff, and those who benefit from those expenses love how obscure they are. Rent, utilities, property upkeep, property taxes, legal, administration (bookkeeping, compliance), insurance (child safety/liability is a convenient excuse for sky-high premiums).
Dessine-moi un mouton?
I did get kind of carried away creating so many LXCs and VMs in Proxmox between then and now...
Momentous occasions can bring joy, but also added stress.
I've noticed a distinct trend of high-quality incel-bait in this comm, and I'm here for it.
It's not just funny as fuck to see their hands get slapped because they just can't resist spewing that garbage... the new tags next to their usernames are also worth their weight in pure gold!
You can take the friend out of the fuck, but you can't pull the fuck out of the friend.. or something
Hmm.. maybe all those women you dated have something in common
It's a gnu+Linux OS with a default desktop environment. It's intended to be installed on bare metal where it's accessed directly by the user.
It's not for server use. (At least not primarily or by default.)
So I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that it's not desktop Linux.
And for everything else, there's Mastercard®️
Once you join the realm of the undead, the biggest problem is what to do with all those extra caskets you don't need, so I feel for them
The true distribution of autism in women and men is thought to be about equal. Women and girls with autism are chronically under-diagnosed because diagnostic criteria were originally designed to fit a stereotypical male presentation of autistic traits at the surface level, and the current diagnostic process still hasn't shed that bias.
When women are diagnosed, it is later in life, on average. The "female presentation" of autism (if you can forgive me for not finding a better way to frame that) tends to be less "disruptive" and easier to overlook or explain away or otherwise mask in childhood. Diagnostic methods are already biased and tailored toward children - it is much harder to get diagnosed as an adult. So there's a bunch of pressures against getting diagnosed if you don't fit the mold of the stereotypical (white) male trope of the autistic boy that we all know.
What is known as "autism" is an array of inherent, physical differences in neurology, some of which are still poorly understood, if at all. But we do know enough to know that it's a series of physical dimorphisms that look pretty much the same across the population. Autistic people are born with these differences, and their neurology is defined by them throughout life. Diagnostics always lags behind current science, though. There is no blood test/genetic test that can definitely say "yes, you are autistic". At least nothing practical to deploy at scale. We could theoretically use very expensive imaging, but that obviously would not scale to everyone.
So that's why we see differences not just between genders, but also socioeconomic status, ethnic backgrounds, and other demographic groupings. I haven't even touched on non-binary folks - that's a whole separate ball of wax, and something of a "chicken/egg" situation because autistic people are more likely than the general population to be transgender, agender, or otherwise outside the binary, and vice versa. The point is anyone outside of that stereotypical young white male person born to a middle or upper-class family will have similar challenges with diagnosis, and lower rates of diagnosis in general, just to different degrees, depending on how the traits defining who they are intersect with the diagnostic biases.
*führer
It depends. SAR in my state is coordinated by our Fish & Wildlife Department and staffed with volunteers.
They will bill you if they determine you willfully caused the situation leading to you having to be extracted.