People are absurdly transactional, performative and superficial about relationships and also very anti social compared to basically anywhere else I've ever been in the US.
Maybe joke was the wrong wording, but you are really digging deep for a throw-away line on an internet thread. I will try to explain since you took the time to write the essay.
One person says a line to talk down about something. "Seattle seems unfriendly."
I say I agree, but I actually like the thing they don't like. "I knew I liked Seattle"
That's essentially it. I like the aspect of Seattle the other person didn't. At best, other people like minded to me would read it and blow some air out their nose in agreement.
Looks like Miami also does not have any specific vernacular for 'friend' on these maps, so... maybe if you just overlay all these maps and find all the deadzones, you've found the areas of antisociality?
Thanks! I think it would be a great rule of thumb for lemmy to always include sauce and especially the sidefacts about the data that relativize it. (See other replies)
I love that New England doesn't show a preference for any of the choices. My theory: Boston throws off the curve with "asshole" and "fucker" and the data scientists didn't want to cover cursing.
Bro is fairly commonly used as gender neutral word.
Man (as in my man) does not have an equivalent (my person does not havve the ring) - but originally, man was the gender neutral term for persons, and we user mer (as in mermaid) / were (as in werewolf) for males. that is how man was used. But that very well could also be due to bias in writing and archiving of stuff, I don not know much about this.
I'm old, but my even older inlaws refer to each other affectionately as "person."
People say "dude" is neutral, but you don't often see it used when all the dudes are women, and the existence of "dudette" also implies it's not.
"Friend" maybe but could sound sarcastic.
Come to think of it, all these terms are ripe for sarcastic use. In fact, I'd like to see the map of antibrotymology. Which of the above is used the way Wolverine uses "Bub"?
There's quite a few terms missing, bitch, homie & n - - - a are the ones that come to mind right away. I'd like to see the demographic distribution of the participants.
I mainly stick with Dude and Buddy (Buddy being my go to for strangers "Thanks Buddy")
In my office a few years back I started ironically calling people "Homie" and that overtime morphed into a gender neutral term of endearment we all used for each other.
In Florida I mainly hear the top 3.
Bottom 2 would probably get an odd look.
That's really interesting I never thought that something as simple as "bro" would be different in different states
Speaking as a Californian, I'm pretty sure the people leaving for Washington are the folks who ended up in the land of eight uninterrupted months of extroverts and cloudless blue skies by mistake and are self-sorting for a grimmer location. Can't blame them, I'd go too if I could; summers here just about make me lose my mind.
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FaceDeer@fedia.io · 102 pts · 1y
Alaskans and Hawaiians are incapable of forming bonds of friendship.
mosiacmango@lemm.ee · 34 pts · 1y
Washington and idaho as well apprently.
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip · 26 pts · 1y
I am from Seattle.
Anecdotally:
This is correct.
People are absurdly transactional, performative and superficial about relationships and also very anti social compared to basically anywhere else I've ever been in the US.
Gerudo@lemm.ee · 15 pts · 1y
I knew I liked Seattle for a reason.
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip · 6 pts · 1y
... either you enjoy having no friends...
... or you enjoy superficial performative 'relationships' that are all actually adversarial social status jockeying?
Gerudo@lemm.ee · 13 pts · 1y
It was a joke. I tend to be introverted, and I love the Seattle vibe.
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip · -1 pts · 1y
I do not understand how your joke works.
If you genuienly enjoy antisociality as a norm, because you tend to be introverted, then you just like Seattle because of that.
You would then not be joking, in the sense of sarcastically saying you enjoy something you don't actually enjoy.
'I knew I liked Seattle for a reason' is then just the same as saying 'Yup, I'm also anti social and I love it here'.
The 'joke' isn't that you actually don't like Seattle's social norms and were being sarcastic, because you just said you're introverted.
I honestly do not understand how this is a joke.
Is... just using the pithy/vague phrasing... in and of itself... the joke?
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 1y
Well if it wasn't funny before, it certainly is now after this dissertation...
I think you're over analyzing some random throwaway line. It was immediately apparent to me that the commenter was being facetious.
Gerudo@lemm.ee · 3 pts · 1y
Maybe joke was the wrong wording, but you are really digging deep for a throw-away line on an internet thread. I will try to explain since you took the time to write the essay.
One person says a line to talk down about something. "Seattle seems unfriendly."
I say I agree, but I actually like the thing they don't like. "I knew I liked Seattle"
That's essentially it. I like the aspect of Seattle the other person didn't. At best, other people like minded to me would read it and blow some air out their nose in agreement.
kokolowlander@lemm.ee · 3 pts · 1y
This sounds a lot like Miami.
sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip · 2 pts · 1y
Looks like Miami also does not have any specific vernacular for 'friend' on these maps, so... maybe if you just overlay all these maps and find all the deadzones, you've found the areas of antisociality?
FrChazzz@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 1y
Howzit, braddah?!
bilb@lem.monster · 1 pts · 1y
Same
kwomp2@sh.itjust.works · 52 pts · 1y
Interesting. Can we have have at least a tiny bit of info how this data came to be?
Not just this one, but all the infographs, maps etc. Always leave entirely open if someone just guessed the data for the lulz.
This makes me a litte sad sometimes
fossilesque@mander.xyz · 33 pts · 1y
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world · 31 pts · 1y
So the map is more accurately titled "How American Twitter users refer..."
kwomp2@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 1y
"White american male twitter users", according to the last paragraph
TheTechnician27@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 1y
I was wondering why a certain word wasn't showing up...
sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 1y
I could have not clicked that video. But I did. And I regret it.
OpenStars@piefed.social · 4 pts · 1y
Oh dear God...
I now need eye bleach, for my ears? š½
mosiacmango@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
kwomp2@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 1y
Thanks! I think it would be a great rule of thumb for lemmy to always include sauce and especially the sidefacts about the data that relativize it. (See other replies)
Less shiny maybe, but more real :)
fossilesque@mander.xyz · 3 pts · 1y
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 1y
So basically you're doing the "don't ask, just say something on the Internet to issue a challenge" method of learning stuff?
fossilesque@mander.xyz · 3 pts · 1y
kwomp2@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 1y
Sometimes its a fine line between infographs and memes. Sometimes it isn't
Opisek@lemmy.world · 39 pts · 1y
People in Washington don't refer to each others.
PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Exclusively as comrade (not pictured)
magic_lobster_party@fedia.io · 25 pts · 1y
I thought America was mostly NTSC
Sergio@slrpnk.net · 18 pts · 1y
nice maps, homes!
Litebit@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 1y
what happened to man... as in hey man.
sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 1y
Can't afford the ticket. . . . BACK TO SUFFRAGETTE CITY
OpenStars@piefed.social · 2 pts · 1y
Hey man (nice shot) - they are back, with their last album August 2023.
Dagwood222@lemm.ee · 2 pts · 1y
I don't know, my man.
Litebit@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
that is cool, maaan. you tha man ! oh maaaan did you see those protests in US ?
xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 16 pts · 1y
linux2647@lemmy.sdf.org · 13 pts · 1y
Bruh
Podunk@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
Touche
morrowind@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 1y
Doesn't seem to count genz online slang
Lunar_Voyager@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
crusa187@lemmy.ml · 16 pts · 1y
Seattle Freeze is REAL
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 1y
FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 1y
I dunno my guy.
WrenFeathers@lemmy.world · 15 pts · 1y
OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 1y
Iām not your bro, pal.
homesweethomeMrL@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 1y
Dude.
Adulated_Aspersion@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 1y
I'm not a dude, buddy.
Trex202@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
I'm not your buddy, fella
crawancon@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 1y
HI NOT YOUR BUDDY FELLA IM DAD
don@lemm.ee · 5 pts · 1y
HI DAD IāM HUNGRY
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 2 pts · 1y
sweet!
sga@lemmings.world · 2 pts · 1y
you broke my heart, man
match@pawb.social · 2 pts · 1y
somehow, south park CO has almost no color on any of these maps
doingthestuff@lemy.lol · 12 pts · 1y
Anybody use the word fucker as a term of endearment? "What's up, fucker?"
fossilesque@mander.xyz · 7 pts · 1y
easily3667@lemmus.org · 2 pts · 1y
doingthestuff@lemy.lol · 1 pts · 1y
I'm an anomaly. I've lived almost everywhere.
Brickhead92@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
We prefer "What's up fuckface?"
Agrivar@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 1y
I love that New England doesn't show a preference for any of the choices. My theory: Boston throws off the curve with "asshole" and "fucker" and the data scientists didn't want to cover cursing.
MedicPigBabySaver@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
Masshole.
Ashe@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 1y
New England always on top, in our own way; confusing to those who aren't from around here.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 1y
Northeast US left off because they just say "Yo asshole"
easily3667@lemmus.org · 1 pts · 1y
ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 1y
So there's PAL, where's NTSC, and SĆCAM?
MECHAGODZILLA2@midwest.social · 3 pts · 1y
angry analogue arrow up depress
BradleyUffner@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 1y
Eastern Pennsylvania apparently has no word for Bros.
fossilesque@mander.xyz · 9 pts · 1y
kiwifoxtrot@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
Youse guys
BradleyUffner@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
He speaks the shibboleth!
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 1y
"Jawn"
Eyedust@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 9 pts · 1y
Don't forget "guy" and "chief".
TonyTonyChopper@mander.xyz · 5 pts · 1y
they forgor š
ricecake@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 1y
Hypothesis: you can go to the Great lakes region and just make random noises and people will be like "hey, what's up?ā.
Stovetop@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 1y
don@lemm.ee · 9 pts · 1y
Further down the article this screenās taken from, they show the raw data they got for ādudeā, and its usage is pretty much everywhere.
OldManBOMBIN@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 1y
I was upset that Kentucky didn't have much coverage, but then I realized that "Hosscat" wasn't one of the choices.
SuiXi3D@fedia.io · 8 pts · 1y
Been ādudeā for me as long as Iāve been alive.
Chromebby@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 1y
West coast here. Thereās also āmanā and āguys.ā I use those way more than ādudeā lol
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 1 pts · 1y
ok broseph
sturlabragason@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 1y
The large amounts of no-bro-zones scares me.
loudWaterEnjoyer@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 1y
I'm not your pal, guy!
DoucheBagMcSwag@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 1y
I'm not your guy buddeh!
merc@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 1y
People in Georgia and Washington State apparently don't have friends.
tpyoman@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 1y
Liv3 WA, can confirm.
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 1y
Or Florida.
But actually it checks out for WA
merc@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 1y
Florida has a few bros.
Pandantic@midwest.social · 1 pts · 1y
I was thinking the north west was looking pretty bare too. Some in Montana, but thatās all.
Meshuggah333@fedia.io · 7 pts · 1y
I don't know why but "fella" sounds old fashioned to me.
Trollception@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 1y
Cause ya ain't from the south
Meshuggah333@fedia.io · 1 pts · 1y
I'm not from the US either, lol
AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 1y
Suggests that in Georgia, Americans don't refer to their friends
AstridWipenaugh@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 1y
Having male friends in Georgia is too homoerotic for their sensibilities.
stammi@feddit.org · 6 pts · 1y
You can call me Al.
giuseppe@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 1y
Anything goes in Michigan.
Ironfist79@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
The last two aren't really used here.
giuseppe@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
Guess I'm not your pal, fella.
Erasmus@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 1y
RebekahWSD@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
We do not. So that is accurate!
Dragonstaff@leminal.space · 5 pts · 1y
People really say "fella"? It seems centered around Louisiana?
Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee · 5 pts · 1y
Where is sexy-(square)pants? Man-in-tights? Curly-cock? Dick-broom?
Machinist@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
You have some strange buddies.
Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee · 3 pts · 1y
I never call them buddies, idk, that just sounds wrong.
Coldmoon@sh.itjust.works · 5 pts · 1y
Georgians have no friends.
ALostInquirer@lemm.ee · 5 pts · 1y
Speaking of brotymology, what's a gender neutral version of bro/man?
Sergio@slrpnk.net · 4 pts · 1y
I use "fam".
sga@lemmings.world · 3 pts · 1y
they are kinda a gender neutral.
Bro is fairly commonly used as gender neutral word.
Man (as in my man) does not have an equivalent (my person does not havve the ring) - but originally, man was the gender neutral term for persons, and we user mer (as in mermaid) / were (as in werewolf) for males. that is how man was used. But that very well could also be due to bias in writing and archiving of stuff, I don not know much about this.
Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 1y
I'm old, but my even older inlaws refer to each other affectionately as "person."
People say "dude" is neutral, but you don't often see it used when all the dudes are women, and the existence of "dudette" also implies it's not.
"Friend" maybe but could sound sarcastic.
Come to think of it, all these terms are ripe for sarcastic use. In fact, I'd like to see the map of antibrotymology. Which of the above is used the way Wolverine uses "Bub"?
BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
man is short for human
NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 1y
Hu-man from Earth
ouRKaoS@lemmy.today · 4 pts · 1y
There's quite a few terms missing, bitch, homie & n - - - a are the ones that come to mind right away. I'd like to see the demographic distribution of the participants.
HelixDab2@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 1y
What up, fucko?
cubism_pitta@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 1y
The top three are used in California.
I mainly stick with Dude and Buddy (Buddy being my go to for strangers "Thanks Buddy")
In my office a few years back I started ironically calling people "Homie" and that overtime morphed into a gender neutral term of endearment we all used for each other.
I really wonder where "Homie" fits into this
Mac@mander.xyz · 4 pts · 1y
Damn, no representation for "babe", "bbgrl", etc? I use those a lot.
SirSamuel@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
Chiefā¦
fubarx@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 1y
My buddy in Atlanta would like a word.
Dagwood222@lemm.ee · 4 pts · 1y
Which word?
"Stud?"
"My man?"
"Cuz?"
sem@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 1y
You know that I'm crazy 'bout dem cupcakes, cousin!
MeThisGuy@feddit.nl · 2 pts · 1y
let's go bowling
kokope11i@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
Not_mikey@slrpnk.net · 1 pts · 1y
They have a word, you just can't say it
Pulptastic@midwest.social · 3 pts · 1y
Michigan is all about it.
TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 1y
In Florida I mainly hear the top 3.
Bottom 2 would probably get an odd look.
That's really interesting I never thought that something as simple as "bro" would be different in different states
Dagwood222@lemm.ee · 2 pts · 1y
So, we're no longer using 'stud?'
WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 1y
Only for bros with benefits.
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
bruh
kitnaht@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
Breh.
Matriks404@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 1y
Good post, mate.
WamGams@lemmy.ca · 2 pts · 1y
The only thing this proves is that us here in the PNW truly do have less friends than the rest of our country men.
match@pawb.social · 2 pts · 1y
but it's made up for with the greater PNW polycule
potoo22@programming.dev · 1 pts · 1y
I'm surprised it hasn't shifted to dude with the Californians moving in.
conditional_soup@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
Speaking as a Californian, I'm pretty sure the people leaving for Washington are the folks who ended up in the land of eight uninterrupted months of extroverts and cloudless blue skies by mistake and are self-sorting for a grimmer location. Can't blame them, I'd go too if I could; summers here just about make me lose my mind.
ThePantser@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 1y
My Dude!
crzydreams0486@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
https://media.tenor.com/qZXJ8qoEJTcAAAAM/friends-joey.gif
ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
Colorado markedly absent as most people polled were likely from elsewhere and as such brought their own vernacular
Sibshops@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
Sunshine@lemmy.ca · 1 pts · 1y
Fella is now a warning word.
Comment105@lemm.ee · 1 pts · 1y
Well, you say that, but clearly the data shows a a significant buddy/pal overlap.
Diddlydee@feddit.uk · 1 pts · 1y
Fella 4 life
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 1y
I love that Ohio is purple in all of these