Random question but how the hell do people choose a name. If it were me, not sure that I'd be able to choose. Too many options. Good ones, even. Choosing just one feels like it'd be hard. Deciding on a final answer
Write down 5 of your major personality descriptors, at least two positive and at least one negative. Go on a writer's forum and ask for help coming up with names for your "character". Do it like three times with different genres of writers. Choose the one you liked the best, or the most common one across all tests. Ez pz. I've had one acquaintance that swears by this method and she pushes it on anyone she knows thinking of transitioning. Good luck.
I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of "meh!"
Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn't have to be great. It just doesn't have to hurt.
Friend 1 chose a name, but later switched to a variation of her middle name.
Friend 2 chose a masc name when they were first experimenting with their new identity. Switched between they/he/they over about 6 mo. Finally seems to have settled on a gender neutral name and pronouns.
Friend 3 chose a variation of their given name and then eventually a different name entirely.
Friend 4 I didn't know until after he was already comfortable in his identity. He uses a variation of his given name.
Coworker 1 uses a word that isnt traditionally a name.
All that to say, from what I've seen there's a lot of options, and none of them are wrong. You might find that your initial choice doesn't fit quite right, and it's okay to experiment.
Having someone or something refer to you with it helped me. I legit used Codsworth from fallout 4 to test out names, although that only works for pre programmed names. I'm sure a chatbot can be used in a similar way.
Also, you don't want to have the name of someone you already know. If you do a job that's client-facing you don't want a name similar to someone else who does the same job in the area.
Disclaimer: I am an actual cis man (seriously, not like the character in the op), but I have a 2 month old child and picking a name for them was one of the most difficult things we ever did.
I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of "meh!"
Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn't have to be great. It just doesn't have to hurt.
https://astrovials.com/ (it's only for E and it took a friend like 2 weeks before it arrived from France). Or I could spend 2 years with a psychologist but nah
This used to be me but it genuinely ended up just being a phase in my case. Wouldn't wanna miss it though, I learned a lot about myself and the community.
Having access to the culture allowed me to actually explore the possibility without stigma. Might not be fem afterall but i do enjoy it on the random day here and there. More importantly, realizing i don't have to be masc helped me develop body euphoria, engage with my own emotions, and I'm developing a personal style for the first time in my life!
Being forcibly feminized by some outside force. Think being magically changed or medically transitioned against ones will. Many transfem eggs have such kinks because it allows them to fantasize about what they really desire without the responsibility of needing to do it to themselves.
::: spoiler It's a similar motivation behind...
many rape kinks. They get to fantasize about having rough, casual sex without needing the responsibility of them voluntarily seeking it out. It gets done to you without you having a say, so you don't need to tackle the fact that you really want the sex.
:::
Having the kink does not mean a person actually wants it; in fact that's rarely the case.
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MarriedCavelady50@lemmy.ml · 35 pts · 356d
lemmyknow@lemmy.today · 26 pts · 356d
Random question but how the hell do people choose a name. If it were me, not sure that I'd be able to choose. Too many options. Good ones, even. Choosing just one feels like it'd be hard. Deciding on a final answer
L0rdMathias@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 356d
Write down 5 of your major personality descriptors, at least two positive and at least one negative. Go on a writer's forum and ask for help coming up with names for your "character". Do it like three times with different genres of writers. Choose the one you liked the best, or the most common one across all tests. Ez pz. I've had one acquaintance that swears by this method and she pushes it on anyone she knows thinking of transitioning. Good luck.
DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca · 16 pts · 356d
I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of "meh!"
Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn't have to be great. It just doesn't have to hurt.
Drewmeister@lemmy.world · 13 pts · 356d
Disclaimer, I am cis.
Friend 1 chose a name, but later switched to a variation of her middle name.
Friend 2 chose a masc name when they were first experimenting with their new identity. Switched between they/he/they over about 6 mo. Finally seems to have settled on a gender neutral name and pronouns.
Friend 3 chose a variation of their given name and then eventually a different name entirely.
Friend 4 I didn't know until after he was already comfortable in his identity. He uses a variation of his given name.
Coworker 1 uses a word that isnt traditionally a name.
All that to say, from what I've seen there's a lot of options, and none of them are wrong. You might find that your initial choice doesn't fit quite right, and it's okay to experiment.
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 10 pts · 356d
Having someone or something refer to you with it helped me. I legit used Codsworth from fallout 4 to test out names, although that only works for pre programmed names. I'm sure a chatbot can be used in a similar way.
Justas@sh.itjust.works · 8 pts · 356d
Also, you don't want to have the name of someone you already know. If you do a job that's client-facing you don't want a name similar to someone else who does the same job in the area.
Disclaimer: I am an actual cis man (seriously, not like the character in the op), but I have a 2 month old child and picking a name for them was one of the most difficult things we ever did.
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 356d
Honestly though choosing a single name is only for legal purposes. Outside of that you can call yourself whatever the heck you like.
We still make up names for ourselves and people call us them.
DrivebyHaiku@lemmy.ca · 3 pts · 356d
I spent months at a deadlock with a temp name that was just kind of fine. Asked a few cis people how they felt about their name and got a resounding set of "meh!"
Went with my temporary placeholder name. It doesn't have to be great. It just doesn't have to hurt.
oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 356d
Look up name meanings 😉
psud@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 353d
My mum told me what name she had chosen in case I was born the other sex. Were I trans is use that name
bjoern_tantau@swg-empire.de · 1 pts · 356d
Just choosing a name in games is hard enough.
KernelTale@programming.dev · 19 pts · 356d
I just bought some HRT, still cis tho.
trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world · 11 pts · 356d
Im not saying cis men cannot take hrt but the hrt femboy to Alice pipeline is real
jumping_redditor@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 355d
It's not real if I don't acknowledge it
trashgirlfriend@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 354d
Haha yeah buddy :)
ChaoticNeutralCzech@feddit.org · 1 pts · 347d
Where do you get HRT in Czechia? I suppose one can cook it...
KernelTale@programming.dev · 2 pts · 347d
https://astrovials.com/ (it's only for E and it took a friend like 2 weeks before it arrived from France). Or I could spend 2 years with a psychologist but nah
trinket@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 356d
How do you know someone is trans?
SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 356d
My excuse is I'm just too lazy
Venus_Ziegenfalle@feddit.org · 9 pts · 356d
This used to be me but it genuinely ended up just being a phase in my case. Wouldn't wanna miss it though, I learned a lot about myself and the community.
untorquer@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 355d
Having access to the culture allowed me to actually explore the possibility without stigma. Might not be fem afterall but i do enjoy it on the random day here and there. More importantly, realizing i don't have to be masc helped me develop body euphoria, engage with my own emotions, and I'm developing a personal style for the first time in my life!
Jankatarch@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 355d
"I am not trans I just like the aesthetic"
maya@piefed.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 356d
If that list was a checklist, I would be ticking basically every box :3.
untorquer@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 355d
Only half trans 😭
kamills@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 356d
This is a moment of chasing them with a frying pan until they transition
Valmond@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 356d
Do I dare ask what forcefem fetish is?
TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 13 pts · 356d
Being forcibly feminized by some outside force. Think being magically changed or medically transitioned against ones will. Many transfem eggs have such kinks because it allows them to fantasize about what they really desire without the responsibility of needing to do it to themselves.
::: spoiler It's a similar motivation behind... many rape kinks. They get to fantasize about having rough, casual sex without needing the responsibility of them voluntarily seeking it out. It gets done to you without you having a say, so you don't need to tackle the fact that you really want the sex. :::
Having the kink does not mean a person actually wants it; in fact that's rarely the case.
Valmond@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 356d
Thanks, you're spot on as always 💖!