Was gonna say this, too. I've known some people who assume what I'm saying before I'm done, and then go on to show they didn't actually listen and didn't grasp the point at all.
Don't guess what people are trying to say. Listen to them. They're telling you. You don't have to guess. 😅
My issue is a lot of people explain their reason before they get to the point, but their reasoning is based on incorrect assumptions or misinformation they have taken as truth.
So you have to sit there and try to remember their argument and why it's wrong while they are continuing on with faulty logic that you already know is misinformed. It should be entirely acceptable to break someone's chain of thought to correct someone on something they are misunderstanding.
More like me wanting to add something but they are taking way too long to make their point and I don't want my squirrel brain to forget what I wanted to add.
Other people waiting to ask ADHDers what point they were originally trying to make before they interrupted themselves to ramble for five minutes about a dozen other things…
This happens with my mom (who also has adhd), I'll understand what she's saying but then she keeps going and going and I don't want to interrupt because it's rude but it drives me a little crazy (I love her dearly)
The best part is that some people will try to change what they are going to say to prove you wrong and in doing so will say something stupid. That is the point you tell them they had it right to start with and changing what they were going to say only made them wrong. Their butthurt is a balm for my executive dysfunction.
19 Comments
TropicalDingdong@lemmy.world · 53 pts · 314d
ftfy.
Paradachshund@lemmy.today · 30 pts · 314d
Was gonna say this, too. I've known some people who assume what I'm saying before I'm done, and then go on to show they didn't actually listen and didn't grasp the point at all.
Don't guess what people are trying to say. Listen to them. They're telling you. You don't have to guess. 😅
fascicle@leminal.space · 4 pts · 314d
My brother is like that a lot I see it in his face fighting to not start talking as he's not listening to anything I'm saying
tdawg@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 314d
Yesnt. There's definitely a role for interpretation. But you shouldn't be interrupting people
Doc_Crankenstein@slrpnk.net · 1 pts · 313d
My issue is a lot of people explain their reason before they get to the point, but their reasoning is based on incorrect assumptions or misinformation they have taken as truth.
So you have to sit there and try to remember their argument and why it's wrong while they are continuing on with faulty logic that you already know is misinformed. It should be entirely acceptable to break someone's chain of thought to correct someone on something they are misunderstanding.
WhyIHateTheInternet@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 314d
Shut up, you're not my wife!
yakko@feddit.uk · 5 pts · 314d
Your kid has it too huh
Pika@sh.itjust.works · 30 pts · 314d
More like me wanting to add something but they are taking way too long to make their point and I don't want my squirrel brain to forget what I wanted to add.
tehmics@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 314d
Or guessing it wrong, but now my train of thought is derailed and I forgot where I was going so now nobody gets to know
MelonYellow@lemmy.ca · 21 pts · 314d
Counterpoint: Other people waiting for ADHDers to finish rambling bc they got your point like 5 mins ago.
No hate as I am part of this comm, my SO lovingly brought this up. 😂
BambiDiego@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 314d
Yes, they understood our point, but did they understand it in the way we need them to understand?
4grams@awful.systems · 6 pts · 314d
Why does someone always post my own thoughts before me in this community?
lka1988@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 5 pts · 314d
"No, you need the context"
usernamefactory@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 314d
Other people waiting to ask ADHDers what point they were originally trying to make before they interrupted themselves to ramble for five minutes about a dozen other things…
And knowing they won’t remember.
slazer2au@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 314d
Randy Feltface has seen some shit.
FilthyShrooms@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 314d
This happens with my mom (who also has adhd), I'll understand what she's saying but then she keeps going and going and I don't want to interrupt because it's rude but it drives me a little crazy (I love her dearly)
sundray@lemmus.org · 3 pts · 314d
Vigorous nodding "Uh-huh, uh-huh, uh-huh, right, right, right, uh-huh..." (repeats louder each time)
Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 314d
The best part is that some people will try to change what they are going to say to prove you wrong and in doing so will say something stupid. That is the point you tell them they had it right to start with and changing what they were going to say only made them wrong. Their butthurt is a balm for my executive dysfunction.
ThatGuy46475@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 313d
On the other hand people will think they know what you’re going to say and keep interrupting to change the subject.