didn't a lot of women end up leaving tinder because it's gained reputation as exclusively a hook-up app, leaving mostly bots? Is this meme just a v old repost? I believe Hinge is the app de jour, but I might be out of date.
A combo of Hinge and Bumble, apparently. Seems to be working for my buddy anyway (to the absolute fury of the people he complains to re: the number of matches/dates he gets because they don't meet his marriage standard, which is high)
Absolutely, I don't fault him for that. It's just kind of hard for other folks to relate, when he's getting up to 10 matches a week (real figures, saw it in action myself) and the guy he's complaining to got like 1 in a month
Real talk, I find it hard to believe the kind of woman he's looking for is on a dating app. But who knows?
I suggest to just talk with people online using social media and social networks, try to not use tinder because it's based on the look and IMO ot's a toxic thing.
For example i know a lot of funny people from discord
There should be a compass button to search communities or you can use a website like disboard/discadia and such (i usually use those websites)
Or do it in the hard way: look up online communties in various socialmedia or streamer/youtuber and see if they have a discord server
Try if you must, but as a guy after 10 years on and off these dating sites I just completely gave up. It's like a constant attack on your self worth and for me I just ended up feeling absolutely pathetic and worthless. I'm still lonely but I feel better than getting ignored constantly and literally only getting likes/messages from bots that want to scam you.
In that 10 year span I went on maybe 6 dates total...
Pro tip: don't. It'll make you feel worse than if you just isolated yourself.
The incentive structure of dating apps is completely twisted and makes you feel like every part of yourself is getting commodified and ranked.
Find some social groups or clubs and go hang out there. You'll have a much better time. Many people don't mind if you aren't comfortable with communicating, just being present is a positive in their book.
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djsoren19@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 30 pts · 284d
didn't a lot of women end up leaving tinder because it's gained reputation as exclusively a hook-up app, leaving mostly bots? Is this meme just a v old repost? I believe Hinge is the app de jour, but I might be out of date.
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 283d
A combo of Hinge and Bumble, apparently. Seems to be working for my buddy anyway (to the absolute fury of the people he complains to re: the number of matches/dates he gets because they don't meet his marriage standard, which is high)
GreenKnight23@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 283d
it's important to be with who you want, don't settle for whoever comes first.
Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 283d
Absolutely, I don't fault him for that. It's just kind of hard for other folks to relate, when he's getting up to 10 matches a week (real figures, saw it in action myself) and the guy he's complaining to got like 1 in a month
Real talk, I find it hard to believe the kind of woman he's looking for is on a dating app. But who knows?
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 21 pts · 284d
Only 1?
MycelialMass@lemmy.world · 27 pts · 284d
Not greedy
zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev · 18 pts · 284d
The poly peeps are on different apps.
rumschlumpel@feddit.org · 8 pts · 284d
The monogamous girlfriends are (apparently) also on different apps.
AntiBullyRanger@ani.social · 0 pts · 284d
Can confirm🤣.
To this day, only one person joined my simpleX, and that's because of /c/privacy
Smash@lemmy.self-hosted.site · 17 pts · 283d
A bot is all you can get
Emi@ani.social · 10 pts · 284d
Planning on making an account too because I have no idea how to interact with people outside. Hope to find at least someone I understand with.
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 18 pts · 284d
I suggest to just talk with people online using social media and social networks, try to not use tinder because it's based on the look and IMO ot's a toxic thing. For example i know a lot of funny people from discord
kayzeekayzee@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 284d
The problem with discord is that it's also filled with a lot of very weird children
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 7 pts · 284d
Stay away from communities that allow childrens then, there are plenty that are adults only, for example a friend of mine run one
Emi@ani.social · 5 pts · 284d
Ten problém is on discord they usually live on other side of the world.
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 1 pts · 283d
Search local communities
SaberKazd@sopuli.xyz · 1 pts · 283d
You had my curiosity, but now you have my attention. I'm not well versed in discord, how exactly does one look for local communities?
Axolotl_cpp@feddit.it · 1 pts · 283d
There should be a compass button to search communities or you can use a website like disboard/discadia and such (i usually use those websites) Or do it in the hard way: look up online communties in various socialmedia or streamer/youtuber and see if they have a discord server
Asafum@feddit.nl · 9 pts · 284d
Try if you must, but as a guy after 10 years on and off these dating sites I just completely gave up. It's like a constant attack on your self worth and for me I just ended up feeling absolutely pathetic and worthless. I'm still lonely but I feel better than getting ignored constantly and literally only getting likes/messages from bots that want to scam you.
In that 10 year span I went on maybe 6 dates total...
Verdorrterpunkt@feddit.org · 8 pts · 283d
Have you ever applied for jobs? I think dating apps are somehwat comparably demotivating. Just be sure you can handle it.
Contramuffin@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 283d
Pro tip: don't. It'll make you feel worse than if you just isolated yourself.
The incentive structure of dating apps is completely twisted and makes you feel like every part of yourself is getting commodified and ranked.
Find some social groups or clubs and go hang out there. You'll have a much better time. Many people don't mind if you aren't comfortable with communicating, just being present is a positive in their book.
sundaymidnight@ani.social · 4 pts · 284d
absolutelly all