I was recommended California Club when I asked a friend in the industry on behalf of another friend who is approaching 40yo virgin territory. CaliClub apparently treats their staff well. Asking for the deluxe rather than basic was the other important advice I received. Basic being more of a smash n dash service.
Persons who choose to work in said industry (rather than feeling they have no other option) tend to be a caring sort. It's not at all unusual to pay for just a chat. I'm more concerned you chose this option so quickly rather than talking to your own brain.
I have severe *AuADHD, and to explain that I means instant gratification is always the right option. I deeply want to and consciously are trying to change that. But in an emergency crisis, gotta do what I know will help me. You get me?
I'm overly open to change, more than any person you know, and so will genuinely will try anything.What you you do? I have psychologists, I have 2 GPs, I have a lawyer, but hearing from just a random other person feels kind and I respect that
Having rooftop cocktails with some friends for my bday. The AO evening ground passes were sold out by the time I went to buy them and kinda turned out for that best as the weather went crappy. There’s a nice view of Parliament House from here. It’s been a fun day.
I just found out they have a new carrot line which I'm gonna be all over - got a very tall tank that's patched about a foot below the roof line right next to the overflow downspout so it was a bit complex working out how to patch everything in. No diversion chamber = problem sooooolved
I am undiagnosed but peer reviewed for autism. A bunch of my exs are, three cousins are, half of my regular mates are. I just met an autistic lass who picked me out of a crowd of 80 people at an event. I just don't feel / have the diagnosis money. Maybe your tour guide has a touch of the tism themselves.
I don't see myself buying a house. The new gf has been married once and had to deal with that financial entanglement during the split. We're not looking to combine finances or buy a place together, but are happy to support each other where able. I'm an only child, I think I'll always need my own sanctuary.
Loving your family doesn't mean not getting away from them to explore the world and working out who you are.
Hinge et al. Holidays can easily be about quick romance. So much of the dating pressure is gone when you'll only know each other for a few weeks. I dated a lovely Polish kickboxer for three weeks while doing bjj in Thailand years ago.
I'm interested in these self compassion exercises, I only seem to know Irish-catholic Buddhism where it's all basically my fault for desiring anything.
We should have a daily thread meet up when you get back. I'm sure you'll find some connections with people in this group. You're younger than many of us, we would've loved to have a trusted group of middle age adults to talk ideas with when your age.
If one can handle Shinjuku, they can handle anything.
This deserves to be a wall plaque.
Love to hear that you've been bitten by the travel bug and that you're getting great things out of this trip and being present. It can be so personally challenging and it sounds like you're handling it really well, sickness and blocked ear aside. I also really love that you're so self aware about why you perhaps had a crush on the tour guide.
Have an excellent snow adventure tomorrow, I bet it'll be stunning!
If you happen to spot Royce chocolate in the airport, their chocolate covered chips are an absolute fuckin' banger.
I just wanna point out that it wouldn't be "quitting" uni for a year, but taking an extended break or a late gap year. A year of self discovery and growth.
Benefits of working out more: being comfortable enough squatting on the ground for about 5 minutes to give pats to a gorgeous little old puppy named Stella ❤️
I woke up feeling icky and migrainey today. 🙁 Not a good day for it, as I have a rental inspection today and will need to wrangle Mr Woof who will be very irate at the home invasion. I'd really rather just go back to bed.
I'm feeling a lot better after some tablets at least. I'd rather get the inspection over with anyway, waiting around for someone to come and poke around your house is worse than the actual inspection anyway. Mr Woof is lucky he doesn't know in advance it's happening!
Fortunately I do get a reasonable timeframe, a two hour window. But my brain can't seem to settle into doing anything else when I know I have something coming up at a particular time, so just knowing it is happening really throws my day out until it is over.
So I've been watching all these yts on people who get cosmetic surgery/maga face
and it finally clicked, all the people hysterical that ozempic ruined their face were people who had fillers put in from their tummy ...lol. When a person loses or gains weight the fat cells from tummy are the first to change. It's really obvious on people in the public eye
I was veggo for like a decade and there are some good substitutes out there. Just watch the salt/processed ingredients..sing out for recipes if you need ifeas
when I was in nyc my doctors had a LOT of experience with victims of terrorism, maybe someone with experience with ptsd and first responders would be fine
Hugs. I have no specific advice or recommendations. Probably a bit like you I have built a repository of stuff from psychs and yoga and various other modalities. I can link you some decent breathing/grounding stuff. If you are stuck just yell and I will give you some things to try.
(If a gp would help I recommend M3 health in spotto - DM if you want a bit more info about my doc)
Ordered parts last week to build an ESP bluetooth proxy for brew monitoring, Auspost are doing their damnedest to ensure they don't arrive until after the long weekend. Pricks.
Got an insurance update which has had me on the phone and chasing documents and getting absolutely no actual work done this afternoon and my care factor is zero. This is even after I was 45 minutes late this morning. Just don't have anything to give work this week.
Considering starting a local computer club. Had a really good experience running a one-off installfest and thinking there should be IRL options for like-minded geeks to meet up on the regular.
I'm not sure who's benefitting most. I guess the pools hoping to get some memberships? Just in general to remind people that swimming is fucking awesome?
not sure how I feel about that. I mean I'm all for instances asking for their individual needs, but the devs spamming the whole lemmy network feels...skeezy for some reason
Sigh… trying to chill out but single player Minecraft gets a bit boring in its lack of structure. However multiplayer games seem way too toxic. (Also my hard drive is full)
I managed to get a ticket to Fit For An Autopsy for tomorrow night off the ticket reselling platform Tixel. I don't like how these ticketing platforms get you coming and going.
You either have to pay like $8 for bullshit insurance if you can't go to a show, or you can sell it and they can scrape even more off the top.
Because I got caught up in the whole reason this platform exists, you'd rather go to the show than miss out so you're gonna attend however you can
89 Comments
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 14 pts · 216d
Thanks for the well wishes, Melbcat made it and is home!
Taleya@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Huzzah! gifts bags of freeze dried duck
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Yess! Sending all the love to Melbcat and you
Catfish@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Hooray, many treats when she gets out of the drunk woozy bit!
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
She’s staggering around like a sailor on land! I’m so happy it’s done now
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I was just checking in to see how you both are.
many gentle hugs 😘
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
She’s doing okay, kind of wobbling around and munching her biscuits!
I saw your other comments, I hope you’re doing alright
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Thanks. I should be alright.
some cbt is probably the way to go,
Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Yay 😊 go melbcat u powerful
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 12 pts · 216d
Melbcat has just gone in for her procedure
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Hoping for kitty's quick recovery.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
so many hugs , sending you both special healing vibes
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Sending you and Melbcat SO SO SO much love and safe thoughts!!
Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
She's going to be fine ☺️
indisin@aussie.zone · 10 pts · 216d
So turns out a brothel is significantly cheaper than seeing a psychologist and they also offer mental health support.
Highly recommend.
Lol.
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 216d
I was recommended California Club when I asked a friend in the industry on behalf of another friend who is approaching 40yo virgin territory. CaliClub apparently treats their staff well. Asking for the deluxe rather than basic was the other important advice I received. Basic being more of a smash n dash service.
indisin@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Thanks for your recommendation, I went to Scarlett and genuinely focused on hugs. Will check them out though ❤️
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Hug therapy is a thing. I knew a hug therapist. No intercourse or sexuality, just hugging.
indisin@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
Do you have a link / referral?
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
She moved to QLD.
Catfish@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 216d
Persons who choose to work in said industry (rather than feeling they have no other option) tend to be a caring sort. It's not at all unusual to pay for just a chat. I'm more concerned you chose this option so quickly rather than talking to your own brain.
indisin@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
I have severe *AuADHD, and to explain that I means instant gratification is always the right option. I deeply want to and consciously are trying to change that. But in an emergency crisis, gotta do what I know will help me. You get me?
Catfish@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
In the sense I have the same thing yes, your way of dealing with it NO
indisin@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
I'm overly open to change, more than any person you know, and so will genuinely will try anything.What you you do? I have psychologists, I have 2 GPs, I have a lawyer, but hearing from just a random other person feels kind and I respect that
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 216d
Im on the edge of a migraine. Gibson knows.
tone212_@aussie.zone · 9 pts · 216d
Having rooftop cocktails with some friends for my bday. The AO evening ground passes were sold out by the time I went to buy them and kinda turned out for that best as the weather went crappy. There’s a nice view of Parliament House from here. It’s been a fun day.
::: spoiler gloomy view
:::
TheWitchofThornbury2@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Happy Birdday!
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Happy birthday!!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Happy b'day!
Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Happy birthday 🎈🎂
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Happy Birthday 🎂🍾🎁
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Happy birthday mate :)
_miss_cellophane_@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
H.B!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 8 pts · 216d
Hooray tank is filling up.
Crisis averted.
Saved a few dollarydoos there.
Turns out one of the downpipes was solid full of shit (seriously worse than the worst AGB) which for some reason when cleared everything worked.
Makes no sense but I'll take it.
Taleya@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
time to install some of them first flushers!
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Ooh TIL. Will be looking at those. big thank :)
Taleya@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I just found out they have a new carrot line which I'm gonna be all over - got a very tall tank that's patched about a foot below the roof line right next to the overflow downspout so it was a bit complex working out how to patch everything in. No diversion chamber = problem sooooolved
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 216d
new phone is being activated
so many music files to rescue 🤞
3000 songs being transferred 🤞
Transfer successfully completed. No fails. phew
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 216d
yay, inspection over! Mr Woof was very concerned and told the real estate agent so, very loudly. Miss Meow is still in hiding somewhere.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 217d
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 217d
::: spoiler spoiler
I am undiagnosed but peer reviewed for autism. A bunch of my exs are, three cousins are, half of my regular mates are. I just met an autistic lass who picked me out of a crowd of 80 people at an event. I just don't feel / have the diagnosis money. Maybe your tour guide has a touch of the tism themselves.
I don't see myself buying a house. The new gf has been married once and had to deal with that financial entanglement during the split. We're not looking to combine finances or buy a place together, but are happy to support each other where able. I'm an only child, I think I'll always need my own sanctuary.
Loving your family doesn't mean not getting away from them to explore the world and working out who you are.
Hinge et al. Holidays can easily be about quick romance. So much of the dating pressure is gone when you'll only know each other for a few weeks. I dated a lovely Polish kickboxer for three weeks while doing bjj in Thailand years ago.
I'm interested in these self compassion exercises, I only seem to know Irish-catholic Buddhism where it's all basically my fault for desiring anything.
We should have a daily thread meet up when you get back. I'm sure you'll find some connections with people in this group. You're younger than many of us, we would've loved to have a trusted group of middle age adults to talk ideas with when your age.
Hugs as I think it's international hug day. :::
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
I could have used that when I was younger. Hell, I still need it
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 214d
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
This deserves to be a wall plaque.
Love to hear that you've been bitten by the travel bug and that you're getting great things out of this trip and being present. It can be so personally challenging and it sounds like you're handling it really well, sickness and blocked ear aside. I also really love that you're so self aware about why you perhaps had a crush on the tour guide.
Have an excellent snow adventure tomorrow, I bet it'll be stunning!
If you happen to spot Royce chocolate in the airport, their chocolate covered chips are an absolute fuckin' banger.
I just wanna point out that it wouldn't be "quitting" uni for a year, but taking an extended break or a late gap year. A year of self discovery and growth.
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 214d
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
so many hugs, you're fine
keep having a good time 😘
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 216d
MARGE!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
at last
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 216d
Benefits of working out more: being comfortable enough squatting on the ground for about 5 minutes to give pats to a gorgeous little old puppy named Stella ❤️
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
I woke up feeling icky and migrainey today. 🙁 Not a good day for it, as I have a rental inspection today and will need to wrangle Mr Woof who will be very irate at the home invasion. I'd really rather just go back to bed.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
so delay it
and hugs, have cups of tea, toast and stay in bed
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I'm feeling a lot better after some tablets at least. I'd rather get the inspection over with anyway, waiting around for someone to come and poke around your house is worse than the actual inspection anyway. Mr Woof is lucky he doesn't know in advance it's happening!
Catfish@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
Yes, the waiting! Give a reasonable timeframe not an all day date. Dicks.
RustyRaven@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Fortunately I do get a reasonable timeframe, a two hour window. But my brain can't seem to settle into doing anything else when I know I have something coming up at a particular time, so just knowing it is happening really throws my day out until it is over.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
So I've been watching all these yts on people who get cosmetic surgery/maga face
and it finally clicked, all the people hysterical that ozempic ruined their face were people who had fillers put in from their tummy ...lol. When a person loses or gains weight the fat cells from tummy are the first to change. It's really obvious on people in the public eye
so no, ozempic won't ruin a normal face
StudChud@aussie.zone · 7 pts · 216d
Also buccal fat removal will make the face look super gaunt
SaneMartigan@aussie.zone · 6 pts · 216d
I reckon buccal fat removal is gonna be the over plucked eyebrows of this generation.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
that too
bacon@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 217d
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Force_majeure1234@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
For me: orange juice and bacon and eggs on toast.
For StudSpud: large coffee, brekky wrap, and a power-pose
bacon@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
🍊🥤🥓🍳🍳
🍞
☕️
🥓🍳🧀🌯💪
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
off to the city for some browsing 😸
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Day 12
The fake chicken breast fillets I bought today were pretty damn good and really filling.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I was veggo for like a decade and there are some good substitutes out there. Just watch the salt/processed ingredients..sing out for recipes if you need ifeas
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 1 pts · 215d
I would absolutely love some recipe ideas.
I'm way out of my element lol
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 214d
Haha. Cool. I will pull together some of my go to ideas and kick off a thread over in the cooking sub after work
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 214d
Thank you so much!
Pretty sure I'm eating the junk food equivalent of vegetarian lol
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
First on-site client visit.
Yeeha!
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Get 'em!!!
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
ugh, looking for counselling is not easy
when I was in nyc my doctors had a LOT of experience with victims of terrorism, maybe someone with experience with ptsd and first responders would be fine
I'm teary and shaky
Eagle@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Do you have access to an EAP? Converge has specialised first responders and critical event counsellors. Highly recommend Amanda Mitchell.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Thanks. 🥹
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Also defence force and police - services might be limited to them, but they might know of a good counsellor outside of their particular field.
imoldgreeeg@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Hugs. I have no specific advice or recommendations. Probably a bit like you I have built a repository of stuff from psychs and yoga and various other modalities. I can link you some decent breathing/grounding stuff. If you are stuck just yell and I will give you some things to try.
(If a gp would help I recommend M3 health in spotto - DM if you want a bit more info about my doc)
LowExperience2368@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 217d
Taleya@aussie.zone · 5 pts · 216d
Ordered parts last week to build an ESP bluetooth proxy for brew monitoring, Auspost are doing their damnedest to ensure they don't arrive until after the long weekend. Pricks.
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Got an insurance update which has had me on the phone and chasing documents and getting absolutely no actual work done this afternoon and my care factor is zero. This is even after I was 45 minutes late this morning. Just don't have anything to give work this week.
duncan_bayne@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 216d
Considering starting a local computer club. Had a really good experience running a one-off installfest and thinking there should be IRL options for like-minded geeks to meet up on the regular.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I would gladly attend
tombruzzo@aussie.zone · 2 pts · 216d
I've wanted to try get something like Linux install parties going so this does sound interesting
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
FYI: if anyone feels like going for a swim today, there are pools around the city that are accepting a banana instead of buying an entry.
https://www.bananaswimpass.com/
Pilk@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
I guess you get to keep the banana. Or a lot of lifeguards are planning on a big banana bread bake off?
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
An excellent post swim snack!
Catfish@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
What a curious concept. I like it, but loath bananas 😵💫
SpinMeAround@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I'm not sure who's benefitting most. I guess the pools hoping to get some memberships? Just in general to remind people that swimming is fucking awesome?
Nbard@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Is anyone else getting a giant donate to the lemmy devs now when they view local?
Taleya@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
not sure how I feel about that. I mean I'm all for instances asking for their individual needs, but the devs spamming the whole lemmy network feels...skeezy for some reason
useless_modern_god@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Yes
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
Back on the roof today. Somefing has gone wrong. Tank not being fed :(
Not that it matters atm because there's f all rain on the horizon.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 216d
good night everyone, sweet dreams 😘
tombruzzo@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
If you missed out on tickets to Geese you can watch them do a DJ set at 170 Russell apparently
melbaboutown@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
Sigh… trying to chill out but single player Minecraft gets a bit boring in its lack of structure. However multiplayer games seem way too toxic. (Also my hard drive is full)
tombruzzo@aussie.zone · 3 pts · 216d
I managed to get a ticket to Fit For An Autopsy for tomorrow night off the ticket reselling platform Tixel. I don't like how these ticketing platforms get you coming and going.
You either have to pay like $8 for bullshit insurance if you can't go to a show, or you can sell it and they can scrape even more off the top.
Because I got caught up in the whole reason this platform exists, you'd rather go to the show than miss out so you're gonna attend however you can