Go for it. The love of money may be the root of all evil, but not having enough of the stuff makes a lot of things seem a lot worse than they actually are. Pick packing is not fun, but could be a stepping stone to better things.
NO YOU AREN'T. Repeat after me - I haven't found the perfect apartment for all our needs yet - and keep repeating until they listen a bit more. And keep looking at other apartments.
::: spoiler rant
Because I think they're (collectively) going to keep trying to overrule your opinions and judgment in favour of their own. They've done this before if I remember correctly, so I think they will at least have a good go at it. With the very best of intentions of course. Trust your instincts (and previous behaviour patterns).
Second, if they've fixated on the separate door that can be locked, float the idea of a formal written agreement drawn up by a lawyer. If you are going to be locked out of 40% of your apartment, then I think it's only fair that they should pay 40% of the ongoing rates, taxes, utility bills, service charges for common areas in the building/lifts etc. And a payment to you as the live-in caretaker/cleaner. This needs to be in writing.
If they try the old standard crap that 'family doesn't need lawyers', well, I work in the legal profession in a branch that deals a fair bit with the aftermath of that statement. Very profitable for us but a source of immense family trouble/drama for the participants. If it's family, then you really really need a written agreement drawn up by a lawyer. Trust me. And they've already red flagged that their expectations may differ profoundly from yours.
Third, this is going to be principally YOUR lifespace (and Chook's). To be shared as and when required. If they want to make a contribution to make this possible, then what they get should be proportional to what they contribute. At the very least.
Fourth, they aren't being tactful about this. Or maybe the tact got lost when faced with the prospect of a private apartment in the city, with someone else doing most of the work needed to keep that apartment available to them on a moment's notice. And who will be paying the costs of keeping that apartment available? Perhaps a sit down session to clarify EXACTLY what they want and what their deal-breakers are. Because their expectations may well have changed once they got a better look at what might be available for the price point.
This weekend - basic survival shopping and try to recover enough from this lurgi to do some gardening. Dins tonight was ramen noodles with leftover veg & a couple of bacon rashers. Put some yoghurt in the soup and this actually elevated the whole thing quite a lot. Will try that again.
Oh I see now. Product placement has been a problem since the James Bond films and is now metastasizing through all culture. Civilisation is about to fall (for the umpteenth time).
You rest up and recover fully, you hear me?
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As our beloved Chef may still be unwell today, please help yourself. There's an honesty jar at the end to fund our Chef's recovery.
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Go for it. The love of money may be the root of all evil, but not having enough of the stuff makes a lot of things seem a lot worse than they actually are. Pick packing is not fun, but could be a stepping stone to better things.
Chef, we all hope you are feeling better soon. 💐💊⚕😷🐈
We have your back.
NO YOU AREN'T. Repeat after me - I haven't found the perfect apartment for all our needs yet - and keep repeating until they listen a bit more. And keep looking at other apartments.
::: spoiler rant Because I think they're (collectively) going to keep trying to overrule your opinions and judgment in favour of their own. They've done this before if I remember correctly, so I think they will at least have a good go at it. With the very best of intentions of course. Trust your instincts (and previous behaviour patterns).
Second, if they've fixated on the separate door that can be locked, float the idea of a formal written agreement drawn up by a lawyer. If you are going to be locked out of 40% of your apartment, then I think it's only fair that they should pay 40% of the ongoing rates, taxes, utility bills, service charges for common areas in the building/lifts etc. And a payment to you as the live-in caretaker/cleaner. This needs to be in writing.
If they try the old standard crap that 'family doesn't need lawyers', well, I work in the legal profession in a branch that deals a fair bit with the aftermath of that statement. Very profitable for us but a source of immense family trouble/drama for the participants. If it's family, then you really really need a written agreement drawn up by a lawyer. Trust me. And they've already red flagged that their expectations may differ profoundly from yours.
Third, this is going to be principally YOUR lifespace (and Chook's). To be shared as and when required. If they want to make a contribution to make this possible, then what they get should be proportional to what they contribute. At the very least.
Fourth, they aren't being tactful about this. Or maybe the tact got lost when faced with the prospect of a private apartment in the city, with someone else doing most of the work needed to keep that apartment available to them on a moment's notice. And who will be paying the costs of keeping that apartment available? Perhaps a sit down session to clarify EXACTLY what they want and what their deal-breakers are. Because their expectations may well have changed once they got a better look at what might be available for the price point.
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/rant over
yummmmmm
grinch vibes going on here
Seafood smoothie please chef
Is the mismatch between your own needs/wants/desires? Or a mismatch between your own wants/needs and what other people think you ought to want/need?
Thanks chef!
Pancakes & jam & tea please chef
This weekend - basic survival shopping and try to recover enough from this lurgi to do some gardening. Dins tonight was ramen noodles with leftover veg & a couple of bacon rashers. Put some yoghurt in the soup and this actually elevated the whole thing quite a lot. Will try that again.
Oysters Kilpatrick and champagne please chef.
It's beginning to feel that way.
Apple & rhubarb - pie, crumble, whatever.
Oh I see now. Product placement has been a problem since the James Bond films and is now metastasizing through all culture. Civilisation is about to fall (for the umpteenth time).
Leftover plum pudding fried in leftover brandy butter and served with a squirt of orange juice on Boxing Day. Puts hairs on your chest.
When I'm hungry.