Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.
Really? Maybe I'm just weird about intimacy or something but my shortest relationship that wasn't a literal joke was like 3 years, most being 4. If people are frequently under that then I wonder why they're diving into relationships they don't have high confidence in... Do people count grindr hookups as relationship?.. I guess I've never been one for dating so...
No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.
My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.
I may technically be using the term sting innacurately, but it generally refers to a particular short melody or short riff, that is used as a kind of specific evocative musical 'phrase' in a movie, or a whole soundtrack, or even in a videogame.
Often the simple sting itself can become iconic, and/or be repeated in different variations throughout a larger composition or longer set of scenes.
43 Comments
als@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 74 pts · 177d
grindr is not the place to find a long term relationship
lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 73 pts · 177d
Neither is the hospital
Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 49 pts · 177d
It could last the rest of your life
Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 36 pts · 177d
You’d be surprised… I currently have two LTRs that started as Grindr hookups…
eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 176d
Same here! Found a couple really great people on Grindr I'm happily still with a few years later. Met a bandmate there too, lol
Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 176d
Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.
Derpenheim@lemmy.zip · -12 pts · 177d
How old are you? Or is your definition of an "LTR" like 3 years?
nylo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 70 pts · 177d
i think most people would agree that 3 years is a long term relationship
ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com · -14 pts · 177d
Really? Maybe I'm just weird about intimacy or something but my shortest relationship that wasn't a literal joke was like 3 years, most being 4. If people are frequently under that then I wonder why they're diving into relationships they don't have high confidence in... Do people count grindr hookups as relationship?.. I guess I've never been one for dating so...
teegus@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 177d
I was married for 3 years. Felt like a thousand tho. How is a grind hookup equivalent in any way to a 3y relationship?
Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 176d
No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.
Melissa@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 176d
My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.
JoMiran@lemmy.ml · 16 pts · 177d
Not with that attitude. Take it till you make it!
Denjin@feddit.uk · 15 pts · 177d
What about the guy who shat in that dudes mouth? Dreams can come true...
guynamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip · 8 pts · 177d
I was looking for that post the other day cause I was curious if he went through with it, and it looks like it got deleted.
Denjin@feddit.uk · 19 pts · 177d
Yeah, mods are a bunch of anti scat-fetish prudes.
He did go though with it, both were very happy.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 5 pts · 176d
You could say the same thing about Tinder, and I've been married for over 8 years because of it.
ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com · 51 pts · 177d
So... How long term are we talking? "Til death do us part" like, two hours?
D_C@sh.itjust.works · 24 pts · 177d
You gotta shoot your shot though.
ImgurRefugee114@reddthat.com · 24 pts · 177d
Someone did
Natanael@infosec.pub · 1 pts · 176d
Heartbreak
mohammed_alibi@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 177d
He's hurt and at the hospital... could last for two hours...
morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de · 40 pts · 177d
i met my husband on grindr, 14y together, it's possible, keep believing <3
deacon@lemmy.world · 25 pts · 177d
Grindr has been around 14 years? Weird way to feel old.
morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de · 19 pts · 177d
founded 16 years ago:3
tempest@lemmy.ca · 11 pts · 177d
Tinder (do the kids even use this anymore) is from around the early 2010s
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 177d
"online dating" for me still makes me primarily think of match.com and okcupid, lol
tempest@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 176d
You're in luck then because I'm pretty sure match (or the entity that owns it) owns all these dating apps.
So your still right in a sense.
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 176d
oh, wow - I didn't know that, thanks!
oatscoop@midwest.social · 15 pts · 177d
Huh, my experience has been mostly unsolicited dick picks from sentient thumbs that appear to be other peoples' husbands.
girst@feddit.org · 3 pts · 175d
I also met this guy's husband on grindr.
morgunkorn@discuss.tchncs.de · 3 pts · 174d
xD
hope you had fun, he's hung! :3
KokusnussRitter@discuss.tchncs.de · 24 pts · 177d
If that isn't an icebreaker I don't know what is
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 21 pts · 177d
SHOT THROUGH THE HEART!
... and you're to blame...
Darling, you give love...
A BAD NAME!
guitar sting
morphballganon@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 177d
It's a riff, probably involves multiple strings
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 4 pts · 177d
I may technically be using the term sting innacurately, but it generally refers to a particular short melody or short riff, that is used as a kind of specific evocative musical 'phrase' in a movie, or a whole soundtrack, or even in a videogame.
Often the simple sting itself can become iconic, and/or be repeated in different variations throughout a larger composition or longer set of scenes.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sting_(musical_phrase)
But yes, generally a guitar sting involves more than one string.
... I guess unless its that ramshackle slide guitar Jack White assembled in about a minute, that one time.
morphballganon@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 177d
Oh I thought you said string lol
sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 1 pts · 177d
All good lol
einlander@lemmy.world · 20 pts · 177d
Trying to get on someone's insurance plan.
deacon@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 177d
This is light years beyond the level of multitasking I aspire to on my best days, so I really have to give my respect.
diffaldo@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 7 pts · 177d
Priorities 👍
germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 177d
Can’t argue with that
zerosouls@infosec.pub · 3 pts · 176d
All i see is LCARS theme for a messanger app