You are not a terrible person for having these thoughts. Talk about them with people you trust, be open with professionals. You can feel better about this.
As a dominant sadist, I faced similar feelings myself. Is what I do morally ok? Done with care and a consenting partner, it absolutely is.
Because many of us don't view ourselves as having ever been the other gender. I was never male, but I was strongly encouraged by society to present and act as though I was so I did. It’s not “painful” it’s incorrect and a frustrating assumption.
It makes it sound like I either chose to switch, or something happened that switched me. Neither are true. I have ALWAYS been female, I just didn’t allow myself to show that to anyone outwardly until I transitioned.
Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.
No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.
My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.
That was pretty thoughtful and accurate feedback you could be using to improve, instead you reject and attack. That’s no way to grow.
We know…
We just don’t care.
You are not a terrible person for having these thoughts. Talk about them with people you trust, be open with professionals. You can feel better about this.
As a dominant sadist, I faced similar feelings myself. Is what I do morally ok? Done with care and a consenting partner, it absolutely is.
They can see our lifestyle is more fun, but they are too scared of change to let themselves enjoy it.
I still am not sure if that’s the root cause of mine, but it’s likely.
Album before HRT: Dogs and food Album after HRT: Me and girls
I’ll keep doing my part!
Aww! Thank you :) Outfits just kinda make sense now, could never figure out male fashion.
Thank you!
Good thing spreadsheets are one of my kinks then.
They do have a point though, the only person that can truly validate your identity is you.
I transitioned at 40. Easily the best decision I’ve ever made. It’s never too late. Happy to answer anything you might wonder.
Because many of us don't view ourselves as having ever been the other gender. I was never male, but I was strongly encouraged by society to present and act as though I was so I did. It’s not “painful” it’s incorrect and a frustrating assumption.
It makes it sound like I either chose to switch, or something happened that switched me. Neither are true. I have ALWAYS been female, I just didn’t allow myself to show that to anyone outwardly until I transitioned.
That’s the neat think, they don’t.
Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.
You know horses aren’t native to North America and were brought over by the Europeans right? Horses are only a brief part of their history.
No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.
My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.
You’d be surprised… I currently have two LTRs that started as Grindr hookups…
Someone can’t get catgirls to pay attention to them… I feel sorry for you.