Such an annoying response. Personality is not on the menu. You get tits or you get ass, make your choice.
It’s like playing a game of fuck/marry/kill with a list of celebrities and someone says “well obviously I’m going to marry my wife Charlene”. That’s not the damn game!
Fr. Is anyone attracted to a personality that has no middle ground when it comes to mood? Every emotion is cranked to 11? And not just when they're happy?
Yeah it's really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It's so beautiful when someone can't shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn't clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We've been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they'll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they're insomniac and haven't slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn't mean I don't love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It's not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
They're autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I'm ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they're telling me multiple times (and I can see they're becoming annoyed) because my brain just won't process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that's not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
It's a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying "Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn't a common stance to have."
Sure, but perhaps if you didn't just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It's almost like i knew this when i made my original comment... 🤔
Yeah it's really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It's so beautiful when someone can't shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn't clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).
47 Comments
GeeDubHayduke@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 80 pts · 188d
"Tits or ass?"
YES.
rumba@lemmy.zip · 10 pts · 187d
First one, then the other, the order is really superficial
Malfeasant@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 186d
Date a contortionist, order is not a concern.
Findus_Falke@feddit.org · 45 pts · 188d
Well, some of us have no tiddies either, so we'll have to find some common, inclusive ground. Anyoune got a problem with ass being the answer?
grue@lemmy.world · 50 pts · 188d
poke@sh.itjust.works · 36 pts · 188d
All tiddies are awesome, don't discount what you've got.
vinushkah@europe.pub · 15 pts · 188d
Truer words have never been spoken
Slovene@feddit.nl · 3 pts · 187d
If you're a big fat man, I'm a tiddy fan and I'd love to see yours too.
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=pFVsbnXW4ns
GreenShimada@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 188d
It's sort of like the "pick 2" option. Maybe only 1, but that's fine, too.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 187d
No word of a lie, I love a small chested woman.
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 187d
it's that proverb. which weighs more, a dollar of pennies or a dollar of dimes? which weight is worth more?
usernamefactory@lemmy.ca · 42 pts · 187d
Such an annoying response. Personality is not on the menu. You get tits or you get ass, make your choice.
It’s like playing a game of fuck/marry/kill with a list of celebrities and someone says “well obviously I’m going to marry my wife Charlene”. That’s not the damn game!
pancakes@sh.itjust.works · 32 pts · 187d
Yeah, you pick kill for your wife like the baby boomers taught us
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world · 23 pts · 187d
NECK
rumba@lemmy.zip · 14 pts · 187d
This meme came with a telepathic sound clip.
reelhoomanbeen@lemmy.today · 15 pts · 188d
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 188d
I've made this mistake before, I'm going to stick with personality and tits, with the latter being far more optional.
mycodesucks@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 188d
Way ahead of you.
Kolanaki@pawb.social · 11 pts · 187d
Fr. Is anyone attracted to a personality that has no middle ground when it comes to mood? Every emotion is cranked to 11? And not just when they're happy?
I'm no sweet dream, but I'm a helluva night.
rumba@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 187d
Yeah that def goes both ways. everybody needs some middle ground
abbadon420@sh.itjust.works · 9 pts · 188d
Tits or destiny?
mycodesucks@lemmy.world · 10 pts · 188d
Read this in the Soul Calibur narrator's voice.
abbadon420@sh.itjust.works · 6 pts · 188d
It's meant to be Jack Black's voice
NotSteve_@piefed.ca · 8 pts · 188d
Well, I'm not a huge fan of shooters anymore so I'll go with tits or Vintage Story
Una@europe.pub · 9 pts · 188d
No, I prefer personality, you having personality disorder just makes you even better even hotter and more beautiful.
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · 35 pts · 188d
Yeah it's really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It's so beautiful when someone can't shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn't clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don't fetishize mental disability.
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 187d
You literally described a lot of what my partner deals with every day. We've been married for over 8 years and they still feel uncertainty that I will leave them, or they'll go weeks without showering because that requires too many spoons and they're insomniac and haven't slept in 5 days and just eating a teacup amount of food when I make dinner for us.
Doesn't mean I don't love them any less. Can it be frustrating? Of course. Can it be annoying? Of course. But I married this person because I love the person, disabilities and all.
It's not fetishizing anything. Their disabilities make them 1 of 1. I married an incredibly unique individual and I love them wholeheartedly. And all the positives I get out of the relationship greatly outweigh the negative quirks.
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · -3 pts · 187d
edit: I mistook you for evil kitty
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 187d
Love how you not only assumed the reasons I love my partner but also misgendered them at the same time.
Maybe you should sit down and think about how you view others before judging them.
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · 1 pts · 187d
Sorry for the misgendering, I don't know how I messed that up.
I thought I was paraphrasing what you said. So if you still have the patience to help me out, could you explain how the things I said were wrong?
PhoenixDog@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 187d
They're autistic. Their disabilities are them. They literally make them who they are as a human. All the negatives and all the positives and all the difficulties and everything, they are who they are because of it. And I love them as a person, not despite or thanks to anything. I'm ADHD with a couple other neurospicy crap and I struggle with a lot of things. One of them is misinterpreting language on top of being dyslexic. They sometimes need to repeat or rephrase something they're telling me multiple times (and I can see they're becoming annoyed) because my brain just won't process the words correctly. But when it clicks not only do I understand but they feel proud they found the right words for me.
Mental disorders are literally part of the person. They make the person that I/You love.
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · 1 pts · 187d
edit: mistaken identity
kungen@feddit.nu · -1 pts · 187d
My keyboard psychologist also says that person has some kind of codependency issues... but if they're truly happy, all's good and I wish them well.
ILikeBoobies@lemmy.ca · 7 pts · 188d
I can fix her.
rumba@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 187d
umm this is still a Wendy's, can i take your order?
tabarnaski@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 188d
Don't kink shame them /s
Mac@mander.xyz · 1 pts · 187d
I personally would consider psychological disorders or mental illnesses to be completely different to a personality disorder, but that's not a common stance to have. Regardless, i hear you.
zarkanian@sh.itjust.works · 2 pts · 187d
This is what a personality disorder is. It includes stuff like paranoia, schizophrenia, depression, and bipolar disorder.
Mac@mander.xyz · 0 pts · 187d
Read my comment again.
zarkanian@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 187d
It's a rather silly comment. Experts get to decide how these things are defined. It would be like me saying "Personally, I consider a tree to be a type of rock, but I realize that isn't a common stance to have."
Mac@mander.xyz · 0 pts · 187d
Sure, but perhaps if you didn't just search and then copypaste a link that agreed with you, purely in an attempt at being an argumentative ass, you would see that many experts are in disagreement about the categorization of mental illnesses.
It's almost like i knew this when i made my original comment... 🤔
Also: petrified wood. LOL
Greddan@feddit.org · 20 pts · 188d
Scubus@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 187d
Only when my age overflows
Tiresia@slrpnk.net · 0 pts · 188d
Yeah it's really hot when someone distrusts you no matter how many ways you help them find to get out safely if things were to go wrong. It's so beautiful when someone can't shower for a month because there was a spider in there once and the shower still isn't clean and they smell worse than rotten milk.
Please don't fetishize mental disability.
zarkanian@sh.itjust.works · 3 pts · 187d
Yes, I dated somebody who had cluster B (antisocial, borderline, histrionic, narcissistic) which made her abusive. It was not hot and it was not cute, and it ruined our relationship (which was sad).
MarriedCavelady50@lemmy.ml · 3 pts · 188d
Failed to answer the question. 0%