Pregnancy. I know a lot of cis women like having kids the organic way and a lot of transfems wish they could get pregnant (gods bless the t4t sapphics who try anyway), but I'm glad I don't have a uterus. I don't wanna get pregnant, I don't wanna give birth, and I always thought the idea of wanting kids who share your DNA is kinda eugenicsy. I'm very happy with My adopted kids. I didn't have to change any nappies, I got to skip to the fun stuff. And the world has enough babies already!
I used to really dislike the color pink because I associated it with “air heads.” Then I grew up and realized it’s totally ok to like pink, and liking a color does not make you dumb. Judging people based on their color choice is kind dumb though.
I know this doesn’t really answer your question, but it felt relevant.
I hate pink because my mother made me have everything pink when I was a kid. Now I've come to appreciate certain shades of pink, but in flowers. Not in clothes.
Yeah I've had a similar aversion for the longest time to pink and super floral designs (hard to explain but there's a particular style of mega feminine girly floral I'm thinking of). I'm working on it but it was something I thought was always a step too far for me to wear.
Make-up, I guess. Look, I make everyone who wears it look amazing in my insistence on not putting that distracting stuff on my face. I bring the average down!
I HATED (kinda still am) using make up for as long as I remember. I use it now, but very minimally. Other than sunscreen, only one makeup stuff I always use when I go out to avoid unnecessary comments. The others are optional.
I struggle to get myself to wear sunscreen, and that keeps me from pain and death! No makeup for me, lol. When I had some interest in makeup, I eventually got used to it, but the interest is gone.
It sucks you have to wear makeup to avoid comments. IMO, it should be an entirely neutral choice and other people can mind their own business.
Anyway, I have very prominent dark circles because of genetic and people either comment because they're concerned (thinking I am sick/don't have enough sleep) or make a light joke about it. I'm not overly sensitive about it, but it just gets annoying sometimes hah
I think the amount of money some women spend on makeup/manicures/hair is obscene. I know women at work who spend hundreds of dollars a month on that stuff and then complain that they're poor. I just see it as waste.
Weddings and such. I like a relaxed and casual atmosphere and feel out of place at formal and performative events.
Romance novels and films: I find them dull.
I actually love personal styling like hair, makeup, nails, and jewelry but I do these things infrequently and by myself because I can’t be arsed with the time and maintenance costs that go into getting them done professionally, and they usually get in the way of the things I do daily.
Yeah same. I seem to have little tolerance for romance as a genre. All the tropes and common plot lines, and relying on it for the central plot just aren't engaging to me. Plus so much of that media glamorizes abuse, and harmful or problematic relationship dynamics. That's not my idea of fantasy. I would rather read a reference guide to ferns.
the period. i am lucky enough that it does not hinder me and does mostly not really hurt (i just have to be conscious about switching tampons on time)
but i also dont like hearing about the experiences of woman who have horrible periods. not because that the topic is bad but that often they dont get proper care (had a friend where the doctor told she should take the pill without pause which was horrible)
Its like a source for horror stories
When its ok for a female to do things 'as a joke' to guys and they have to take it bcos its cute and endearing, but when guys do to females, it gets called out as mean or abusive.
Look, I agree with your sentiment, but I don't know if you subconsciously use the words 'female' and 'guys' as if they are equivalent or if it is a deliberate choice.
Still rude either way, though if it is the former, I hope you can understand why. Female, male, woman, man, you get the idea.
This definitely shows how the world takes women's actions a lot less seriously a lot of the time, but that language really makes it seem like it's coming from a biased place. It's almost counterproductive framing women in such a dehumanizing way while talking about how women aren't taken seriously.
You should really read the rules of this community before posting. This is a space for women and woman-aligned nonbinary folks. It is not a space for men or their shitty hot takes.
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Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 41 pts · 136d
Pregnancy. I know a lot of cis women like having kids the organic way and a lot of transfems wish they could get pregnant (gods bless the t4t sapphics who try anyway), but I'm glad I don't have a uterus. I don't wanna get pregnant, I don't wanna give birth, and I always thought the idea of wanting kids who share your DNA is kinda eugenicsy. I'm very happy with My adopted kids. I didn't have to change any nappies, I got to skip to the fun stuff. And the world has enough babies already!
Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 135d
I do have a uterus, and I agree with you so much that I spent a fair bit of money and pain, and a LOT of effort on making sure I won't get pregnant.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 135d
ickplant@lemmy.world · 33 pts · 136d
I used to really dislike the color pink because I associated it with “air heads.” Then I grew up and realized it’s totally ok to like pink, and liking a color does not make you dumb. Judging people based on their color choice is kind dumb though.
I know this doesn’t really answer your question, but it felt relevant.
Amuletta@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 134d
I hate pink because my mother made me have everything pink when I was a kid. Now I've come to appreciate certain shades of pink, but in flowers. Not in clothes.
Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 133d
Yeah I've had a similar aversion for the longest time to pink and super floral designs (hard to explain but there's a particular style of mega feminine girly floral I'm thinking of). I'm working on it but it was something I thought was always a step too far for me to wear.
celeste@kbin.earth · 22 pts · 136d
Make-up, I guess. Look, I make everyone who wears it look amazing in my insistence on not putting that distracting stuff on my face. I bring the average down!
Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 8 pts · 136d
u_u@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 6 pts · 135d
I HATED (kinda still am) using make up for as long as I remember. I use it now, but very minimally. Other than sunscreen, only one makeup stuff I always use when I go out to avoid unnecessary comments. The others are optional.
celeste@kbin.earth · 3 pts · 135d
I struggle to get myself to wear sunscreen, and that keeps me from pain and death! No makeup for me, lol. When I had some interest in makeup, I eventually got used to it, but the interest is gone.
It sucks you have to wear makeup to avoid comments. IMO, it should be an entirely neutral choice and other people can mind their own business.
fedikitty@piefed.social · 1 pts · 126d
The whitecast on some even untinted mineral sunscreens is almost like foundation.
mangobanana@discuss.online · 1 pts · 135d
Where do you live? I've never ever had comments and I've not with make up in 20 plus years. I'm in Tucson Arizona
u_u@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 2 pts · 134d
Place where mangoes and bananas are abundant 😄
Anyway, I have very prominent dark circles because of genetic and people either comment because they're concerned (thinking I am sick/don't have enough sleep) or make a light joke about it. I'm not overly sensitive about it, but it just gets annoying sometimes hah
mangobanana@discuss.online · 2 pts · 134d
WOW people are such assholes. I'm so sorry that happened to you
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 2 pts · 134d
In an average year I might use very, very, very basic make-up, like, twice. I otherwise refuse to use it.
werty@sh.itjust.works · 14 pts · 135d
I think the amount of money some women spend on makeup/manicures/hair is obscene. I know women at work who spend hundreds of dollars a month on that stuff and then complain that they're poor. I just see it as waste.
lasta@piefed.world · 11 pts · 135d
Weddings and such. I like a relaxed and casual atmosphere and feel out of place at formal and performative events.
Romance novels and films: I find them dull.
I actually love personal styling like hair, makeup, nails, and jewelry but I do these things infrequently and by myself because I can’t be arsed with the time and maintenance costs that go into getting them done professionally, and they usually get in the way of the things I do daily.
Nefara@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 135d
Yeah same. I seem to have little tolerance for romance as a genre. All the tropes and common plot lines, and relying on it for the central plot just aren't engaging to me. Plus so much of that media glamorizes abuse, and harmful or problematic relationship dynamics. That's not my idea of fantasy. I would rather read a reference guide to ferns.
Little8Lost@lemmy.world · 7 pts · 135d
the period. i am lucky enough that it does not hinder me and does mostly not really hurt (i just have to be conscious about switching tampons on time)
but i also dont like hearing about the experiences of woman who have horrible periods. not because that the topic is bad but that often they dont get proper care (had a friend where the doctor told she should take the pill without pause which was horrible)
Its like a source for horror stories
JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 136d
When its ok for a female to do things 'as a joke' to guys and they have to take it bcos its cute and endearing, but when guys do to females, it gets called out as mean or abusive.
u_u@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 18 pts · 135d
Look, I agree with your sentiment, but I don't know if you subconsciously use the words 'female' and 'guys' as if they are equivalent or if it is a deliberate choice.
Still rude either way, though if it is the former, I hope you can understand why. Female, male, woman, man, you get the idea.
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 18 pts · 135d
fedikitty@piefed.social · 1 pts · 126d
This definitely shows how the world takes women's actions a lot less seriously a lot of the time, but that language really makes it seem like it's coming from a biased place. It's almost counterproductive framing women in such a dehumanizing way while talking about how women aren't taken seriously.
Filetternavn@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 17 pts · 135d
You should really read the rules of this community before posting. This is a space for women and woman-aligned nonbinary folks. It is not a space for men or their shitty hot takes.
And no, I'm not assuming. I made sure I checked beforehand as to not misgender you
Grail@multiverse.soulism.net · 12 pts · 136d
Are you a woman or a nonbinary person?
Tunawithshoes@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 135d