I definitely don't have that much, thats really impressive, but I'm definitely increasing my numbers bit by bit! I know some people have their forever go-tos but I do love to use them to express myself so I don't really see myself sticking to any particular one forever so I imagine I'll end up with a good variety at some point.
I think the hair stuff works because its generally a bit more subtle unless you go overboard, and its a much lighter fragrance. I do also really like the papaya one but the banana one is better for my hair.
The place I get my dupes from is Eden Perfumes, they have a location in London and one in Brighton but they also do their stuff online, including refills.
What you say about the perfume being different in summer is interesting, I never thought about it being the season itself with different humidity and temperatures that might influence how it smells. I guess in winter too it clings to all the extra clothes you wear vs summer.
I never get the chance to talk about this! I'm gonna go a bit mad with detail I'm afraid...
I love perfumes, its kind of another form of self expression for me which I vary depending on season and mood/vibe. I do have to admit I cheat a little, there is a sustainable (and vegan) brand of perfume near me that make copies of perfumes (and their own originals) and sell them in refillable bottles so that you can get a discount on refill. This just makes it a lot more accessible to try out new perfumes and not feel guilty, even if it might not be as long lasting or as powerful (for example its something like £18 (£15 for refill) for 30ml vs £70 for the original, but they do copies of far more expensive ones too).
My absolute favourite this summer has been (the copy of) Mugler Alien Goddess, its very vanilla, coconut and jasmine, super light and summery and just... yeah I absolutely love it.
On that theme I do like the original Mugler Alien as well, much more powerful and heavy, lots of jasmine again but has that "amber" note that makes it much more rich. Love to wear that one on a night out.
Last winter I did really like a Dior Ambre Nuit copy. Having smelled it again just now to remind myself I'm a bit... eh? Maybe just not into the mood or maybe my taste changed a bit or just the season but right now I really don't wanna wear it. Its very amber and heavy, smells super fancy and elegant and posh. Maybe I'll warm to it again later.
I also really like a perfume I got from Lush, its their Turmeric Latte, again this is a very late autumnal/winter kinda vibe. Its very vanilla, sweet and spicy - almost more chai latte than turmeric, but it smells so warm and cozy. I loved wearing this as my every day fragrance last autumn.
As for most reviled, any of those damn Impulse body sprays that bring to mind girls in the mid 2000s basically bathing themselves in. I'm also not too keen on perfumes or body sprays that smell solely of fruit, like cherry or strawberry, again its very reminiscent of those cheap body sprays.
Deodorant I do use a scented one but its very subtle and mostly just smells a bit like the fabric conditioner I use when I wash my clothes so its not like its overpowering.
I also do like having a bit of smell in my hair, I've had so many people comment on me smelling nice when I've used a tiny bit of banana scented hair mask/conditioner just to help combat some frizzy bits (Garnier Banana Hair Food).
As for non-body smells. I do like bubble baths with nice smells and I love having candles on in the evening or in the bath too. I also make a sugar scrub for exfoliating from sugar, coconut oil and a few drops of a nice smelling essential oil blend - my current one smells a lot like some kind of orange sweet.
I do like scented soaps too, particularly from Lush, although I do find that some are amazing and some are absolutely awful. They did a watermelon one recently with some profits going to medical services in Gaza. I loved the message but I thought the soap itself smelt awful... Lush do some really amazing scents but I rarely buy much from them as I don't really have much need for their actual products annoyingly.
One scented thing I have which was kind of unexpected was is my Nyx buttermelt blush. None of the rest of my makeup really smells of anything but that one smells really sweet and fruity and its a really nice little moment when I'm getting ready.
I also have reed diffusers around the house, current one is a rhubarb and elderflower one which smells amazing.
So yeah, love fragrances, I don't really know exactly what I don't like, mostly what I do. Florals, jasmine, coconut, banana, fruit (so long as its not the only note), amber, sandalwood, bergamot. Not really smelt anything with leather, musk or tobacco notes, the fact that none of my stuff ever features them must mean I don't ever pick it out...
I want to get more, a proper head knife and some fancier skiving knives. Problem is I want to make little sheaths or covers for all of them but its becoming apparent how much time it will take just to make a ton of those vs doing anything else...
Technically its is all these knives. And out of those it is the 5 skiving knives at the bottom that I'm most respectful of. Not only are they razor sharp but when skiving you aren't cutting directly down to the work surface and I've caught myself putting my hand in really silly places before. Yet, never injured myself even once with any of them... yet.
But in reality the only things I've properly injured myself with have been a stitching chisel and a belt/strap cutter pictured below. The chisel I was using, stupidly, to go through that super thick part of the pouch its resting on. Thats a whole centimetre of layers of thick, resin backed leather. And I didn't have a pull board thing yet. It refused to come out and when I eventually freed it, I scraped it against the web of my left thumb making a big scratch up my hand that bled profusely and took forever to heal.
The belt cutter was the worst cut. I tried to change the blade... you lift that little red cap but the blade is actually secured within it. It is incredibly stiff and when I pulled it the whole thing gave way and I sliced my thumb open on it. That took a really long time to heal and even longer to stop being sensitive, so even when healed I couldn't do anything because it hurt to much to use a needle.
I have to admit I'm not entirely outside though, I do have ADHD and, well, that has been an exercise of learning in its own right but in different ways and learning to understand myself and others.
I think when I first got my ADHD diagnosis I kind of rejected the umbrella term of neurodiverse because it lumped things like this, which are often autism related traits, with ADHD which I assumed to be purely around executive dysfunction. That is to say I didn't like to be perceived as being socially different, my issues were related to more easily identified things around task management and nothing to do with how I think or behave or act.
But I'm recently learning that it doesn't really seem to be true at all. I didn't realise how many of my "personality quirks" are actually common to other people with ADHD or actually how there can be significant crossovers of traits with those that are autistic (either mostly alone or AuDHD). For example RSD seems to be something that I experience rather acutely and understanding it as something other than a flaw in my personality has been really healthy. Same with the way that I talk to people or understanding that talking about shared experiences can be perceived by others as making the conversation all about me...
So whilst I score low on autism spectrum tests, I am learning more and more about how neurodiverse is a not a term to shy away from or reject as there really is a lot more in common than I previously admitted to myself. And to that end, how could I possibly reject, fail to understand or learn to accommodate somebody else's issues just because they are different to my own?
Weirdly, I am actually in the medical field, -ish. I'm more in one of those background healthcare support type roles (biomedical scientist) but have worked in and have a good understanding of the medical field as a whole and sometimes I've managed to use that knowledge to try to help some of my friends who do have some of these struggles to help them understand the best way to actually navigate healthcare and "how to play the game". (Not that playing the game should be required but we are talking short term healthcare here rather than long term change).
Examples I can think of was when I was talking to a friend looking for help with a non-specific chronic pain problem and things like explaining or understanding pain from the Mankoski Pain Scale compared to the typical 1-10 "how much does it hurt" scale - because the former relates the pain to life and how it affects you, not just an arbitrary "ouchy" scale.
Similarly I had to recommend that she not try to over explain everything. Some doctors have egos or can be very dismissive of certain patients so was helping her understand that she should just be purely descriptive - "this hurts when I do this", "it hurts most in the morning", "it stops me doing x, y or z" rather than trying to use any researched terminology or any self diagnosis "I think I have fibromyalgia". Let the doctor come to the conclusion based on what you tell them.
Now, to be clear to anyone reading this, that does absolutely not mean that you just accept whatever they say or that you cannot challenge them. In a perfect would you could tell them whatever you want and they will listen and come to, hopefully, the correct answer. However we know that doctors, particularly GPs, can often be stressed, overworked, dismissive, wary of hypochondriacs, people seeking drugs that can be abused or even just having their egos bruised. The advice I try to give is really just around not setting off those alarm bells - and for some who do think a little more literally and don't speak in the way that the original post talks about - because that leads to missed diagnoses, frustrations with the system and worse outcomes, just because the two people don't quite understand each other. It is a genuine problem in healthcare and we need to be better at training doctors to deal with it but if in the short term I can help some people out in not being dismissed then I consider it worth it.
Sorry this got waaaaay too long before I even noticed.... so, errrr, thank you for coming to my TED talk?
It has genuinely been something I've had to understand the other way and be really aware of now that I interact with more neurodiverse people, because to me it absolutely is clear and natural to know and it is intuitive because that is how I was brought up with people, media etc. And being British we almost seem to take it to another level at times... it genuinely was hard for me to understand that there are people that struggle with it which almost doesnt seem possible when you are so used to it. And I still do it, its a very hard habit to unlearn but as soon as i notice any confusion im quick to clarify or correct myself. Some people are just pricks though and will argue it out...
Totally agree on the sari, was at a friend's wedding and the bridesmaids were all wearing them, many of them white but the bride was Indian. Was so jealous that they had the opportunity to wear them, and not just wear but get fully dressed up for the event.
Yeah, I too personally never really cared for them. Like, they were OK, I read the first 3 books and yeah, it was a story but I never really got into this "world of wonder and whimsy" stuff. I read the rest of the books as they got released just to finish the story and I don't think I saw any in the cinema.
But that was me, one of my closer friends at school though was utterly obsessed. They purchased all the merchandise, watched all the films in the cinema, multiple times, read all the fanfiction (and the naughty fanfiction......), played the games etc. etc.
So yeah, I agree that for me I, never really cared about it, it meant nothing more to me than any one of the number of kids books I read. But for others it did form so much of their childhood, it was important. From writing their own fanfiction to drawing art or programming games, I'm sure a lot of people have had it influence their adult life really heavily and, especially those who don't quite understand the level of harm she is doing and maybe don't even know anyone personally who is being harmed, this could seem like a real attack on their childhood, we should be able to recognise that and treat that with compassion rather than say the books are crap and you are an evil person for still liking them, which will only serve to harden them.
I have a ton of abandoned or occasional hobbies but the main one I have atm is leatherwork.
Honestly I don't fully understand what lead me to it but I saw some videos and it was like, not only do I want to do this but I want to do it properly.
So I didn't do my normal thing of buying a ton of equipment, getting in way over my head and abandoning to the pile of failed hobbies. I booked a beginner course at a place near me and the rest is history. Been slowly building up my skills and techniques and getting really good feedback from people. Some of my recent items even have people saying that if I was to open a shop then they would be interested in buying or commissioning...
If you want to see my stuff then just have look at my post history, I should really just make a site or something at this point... Most of my stuff is small goods, accessories etc. but be warned I've just created a new community to have somewhere for the darker side of crafts (mildly NSFW) - but if anyone is interested in the spicier side of crafting then come join me there!
Casual related dropping of a new community I just made - particularly the only post I've put in there so far as it is more than a little appropriate to this post. Was gonna get more content in there before I started dropping links but people have already found the post I made apparently 😅.
Technically an NSFW community but very soft NSFW, its more the topic than the content...
I loved my OnePlus 3 so much, only stopped using it in like, 2021 because the screen started to lift in one corner. Replaced it with an Oppo brand that was kinda crap from day 1. Only bought it because it was one of the few phones with a headphone jack.
Yeah, my foundation colour is 'sickly victorian child with cholera' or 'ghost with consumption' and tanning is all but impossible. That pale yellow is an absolute no-go. Its bad enough that a few weeks back after I asked my mother for her opinion on a dress I was planning on wearing to an event she literally just sent me a link to gradual tanning lotion to put on my fluorescent white and blue legs... at least might help reduce the effect of them looking like freshly plucked poultry...
Its much the same here, honestly in context it would be fairly clear what is meant. I mostly say dinner rather than tea myself. But yeah, the social thing to come and sit with a hot drink, regardless of tea or coffee, is generally to offer it as tea before asking if they want tea or coffee.
Is it pedantry if it isn't true though? Or am I being woooooshed?
I definitely don't have that much, thats really impressive, but I'm definitely increasing my numbers bit by bit! I know some people have their forever go-tos but I do love to use them to express myself so I don't really see myself sticking to any particular one forever so I imagine I'll end up with a good variety at some point.
I think the hair stuff works because its generally a bit more subtle unless you go overboard, and its a much lighter fragrance. I do also really like the papaya one but the banana one is better for my hair.
The place I get my dupes from is Eden Perfumes, they have a location in London and one in Brighton but they also do their stuff online, including refills.
What you say about the perfume being different in summer is interesting, I never thought about it being the season itself with different humidity and temperatures that might influence how it smells. I guess in winter too it clings to all the extra clothes you wear vs summer.
I never get the chance to talk about this! I'm gonna go a bit mad with detail I'm afraid...
I love perfumes, its kind of another form of self expression for me which I vary depending on season and mood/vibe. I do have to admit I cheat a little, there is a sustainable (and vegan) brand of perfume near me that make copies of perfumes (and their own originals) and sell them in refillable bottles so that you can get a discount on refill. This just makes it a lot more accessible to try out new perfumes and not feel guilty, even if it might not be as long lasting or as powerful (for example its something like £18 (£15 for refill) for 30ml vs £70 for the original, but they do copies of far more expensive ones too).
My absolute favourite this summer has been (the copy of) Mugler Alien Goddess, its very vanilla, coconut and jasmine, super light and summery and just... yeah I absolutely love it.
On that theme I do like the original Mugler Alien as well, much more powerful and heavy, lots of jasmine again but has that "amber" note that makes it much more rich. Love to wear that one on a night out.
Last winter I did really like a Dior Ambre Nuit copy. Having smelled it again just now to remind myself I'm a bit... eh? Maybe just not into the mood or maybe my taste changed a bit or just the season but right now I really don't wanna wear it. Its very amber and heavy, smells super fancy and elegant and posh. Maybe I'll warm to it again later.
I also really like a perfume I got from Lush, its their Turmeric Latte, again this is a very late autumnal/winter kinda vibe. Its very vanilla, sweet and spicy - almost more chai latte than turmeric, but it smells so warm and cozy. I loved wearing this as my every day fragrance last autumn.
As for most reviled, any of those damn Impulse body sprays that bring to mind girls in the mid 2000s basically bathing themselves in. I'm also not too keen on perfumes or body sprays that smell solely of fruit, like cherry or strawberry, again its very reminiscent of those cheap body sprays.
Deodorant I do use a scented one but its very subtle and mostly just smells a bit like the fabric conditioner I use when I wash my clothes so its not like its overpowering.
I also do like having a bit of smell in my hair, I've had so many people comment on me smelling nice when I've used a tiny bit of banana scented hair mask/conditioner just to help combat some frizzy bits (Garnier Banana Hair Food).
As for non-body smells. I do like bubble baths with nice smells and I love having candles on in the evening or in the bath too. I also make a sugar scrub for exfoliating from sugar, coconut oil and a few drops of a nice smelling essential oil blend - my current one smells a lot like some kind of orange sweet.
I do like scented soaps too, particularly from Lush, although I do find that some are amazing and some are absolutely awful. They did a watermelon one recently with some profits going to medical services in Gaza. I loved the message but I thought the soap itself smelt awful... Lush do some really amazing scents but I rarely buy much from them as I don't really have much need for their actual products annoyingly.
One scented thing I have which was kind of unexpected was is my Nyx buttermelt blush. None of the rest of my makeup really smells of anything but that one smells really sweet and fruity and its a really nice little moment when I'm getting ready.
I also have reed diffusers around the house, current one is a rhubarb and elderflower one which smells amazing.
So yeah, love fragrances, I don't really know exactly what I don't like, mostly what I do. Florals, jasmine, coconut, banana, fruit (so long as its not the only note), amber, sandalwood, bergamot. Not really smelt anything with leather, musk or tobacco notes, the fact that none of my stuff ever features them must mean I don't ever pick it out...
I want to get more, a proper head knife and some fancier skiving knives. Problem is I want to make little sheaths or covers for all of them but its becoming apparent how much time it will take just to make a ton of those vs doing anything else...
Christ, just looked up the safety sheet for that black patina, you aren't joking:
Technically its is all these knives. And out of those it is the 5 skiving knives at the bottom that I'm most respectful of. Not only are they razor sharp but when skiving you aren't cutting directly down to the work surface and I've caught myself putting my hand in really silly places before. Yet, never injured myself even once with any of them... yet.
But in reality the only things I've properly injured myself with have been a stitching chisel and a belt/strap cutter pictured below. The chisel I was using, stupidly, to go through that super thick part of the pouch its resting on. Thats a whole centimetre of layers of thick, resin backed leather. And I didn't have a pull board thing yet. It refused to come out and when I eventually freed it, I scraped it against the web of my left thumb making a big scratch up my hand that bled profusely and took forever to heal.
The belt cutter was the worst cut. I tried to change the blade... you lift that little red cap but the blade is actually secured within it. It is incredibly stiff and when I pulled it the whole thing gave way and I sliced my thumb open on it. That took a really long time to heal and even longer to stop being sensitive, so even when healed I couldn't do anything because it hurt to much to use a needle.
I have to admit I'm not entirely outside though, I do have ADHD and, well, that has been an exercise of learning in its own right but in different ways and learning to understand myself and others.
I think when I first got my ADHD diagnosis I kind of rejected the umbrella term of neurodiverse because it lumped things like this, which are often autism related traits, with ADHD which I assumed to be purely around executive dysfunction. That is to say I didn't like to be perceived as being socially different, my issues were related to more easily identified things around task management and nothing to do with how I think or behave or act.
But I'm recently learning that it doesn't really seem to be true at all. I didn't realise how many of my "personality quirks" are actually common to other people with ADHD or actually how there can be significant crossovers of traits with those that are autistic (either mostly alone or AuDHD). For example RSD seems to be something that I experience rather acutely and understanding it as something other than a flaw in my personality has been really healthy. Same with the way that I talk to people or understanding that talking about shared experiences can be perceived by others as making the conversation all about me...
So whilst I score low on autism spectrum tests, I am learning more and more about how neurodiverse is a not a term to shy away from or reject as there really is a lot more in common than I previously admitted to myself. And to that end, how could I possibly reject, fail to understand or learn to accommodate somebody else's issues just because they are different to my own?
Weirdly, I am actually in the medical field, -ish. I'm more in one of those background healthcare support type roles (biomedical scientist) but have worked in and have a good understanding of the medical field as a whole and sometimes I've managed to use that knowledge to try to help some of my friends who do have some of these struggles to help them understand the best way to actually navigate healthcare and "how to play the game". (Not that playing the game should be required but we are talking short term healthcare here rather than long term change).
Examples I can think of was when I was talking to a friend looking for help with a non-specific chronic pain problem and things like explaining or understanding pain from the Mankoski Pain Scale compared to the typical 1-10 "how much does it hurt" scale - because the former relates the pain to life and how it affects you, not just an arbitrary "ouchy" scale.
Similarly I had to recommend that she not try to over explain everything. Some doctors have egos or can be very dismissive of certain patients so was helping her understand that she should just be purely descriptive - "this hurts when I do this", "it hurts most in the morning", "it stops me doing x, y or z" rather than trying to use any researched terminology or any self diagnosis "I think I have fibromyalgia". Let the doctor come to the conclusion based on what you tell them.
Now, to be clear to anyone reading this, that does absolutely not mean that you just accept whatever they say or that you cannot challenge them. In a perfect would you could tell them whatever you want and they will listen and come to, hopefully, the correct answer. However we know that doctors, particularly GPs, can often be stressed, overworked, dismissive, wary of hypochondriacs, people seeking drugs that can be abused or even just having their egos bruised. The advice I try to give is really just around not setting off those alarm bells - and for some who do think a little more literally and don't speak in the way that the original post talks about - because that leads to missed diagnoses, frustrations with the system and worse outcomes, just because the two people don't quite understand each other. It is a genuine problem in healthcare and we need to be better at training doctors to deal with it but if in the short term I can help some people out in not being dismissed then I consider it worth it.
Sorry this got waaaaay too long before I even noticed.... so, errrr, thank you for coming to my TED talk?
It has genuinely been something I've had to understand the other way and be really aware of now that I interact with more neurodiverse people, because to me it absolutely is clear and natural to know and it is intuitive because that is how I was brought up with people, media etc. And being British we almost seem to take it to another level at times... it genuinely was hard for me to understand that there are people that struggle with it which almost doesnt seem possible when you are so used to it. And I still do it, its a very hard habit to unlearn but as soon as i notice any confusion im quick to clarify or correct myself. Some people are just pricks though and will argue it out...
Totally agree on the sari, was at a friend's wedding and the bridesmaids were all wearing them, many of them white but the bride was Indian. Was so jealous that they had the opportunity to wear them, and not just wear but get fully dressed up for the event.
Yeah, I too personally never really cared for them. Like, they were OK, I read the first 3 books and yeah, it was a story but I never really got into this "world of wonder and whimsy" stuff. I read the rest of the books as they got released just to finish the story and I don't think I saw any in the cinema.
But that was me, one of my closer friends at school though was utterly obsessed. They purchased all the merchandise, watched all the films in the cinema, multiple times, read all the fanfiction (and the naughty fanfiction......), played the games etc. etc.
So yeah, I agree that for me I, never really cared about it, it meant nothing more to me than any one of the number of kids books I read. But for others it did form so much of their childhood, it was important. From writing their own fanfiction to drawing art or programming games, I'm sure a lot of people have had it influence their adult life really heavily and, especially those who don't quite understand the level of harm she is doing and maybe don't even know anyone personally who is being harmed, this could seem like a real attack on their childhood, we should be able to recognise that and treat that with compassion rather than say the books are crap and you are an evil person for still liking them, which will only serve to harden them.
Wash their hands after going to the toilet.
Sit down to wee if using a normal home type toilet.
I have a ton of abandoned or occasional hobbies but the main one I have atm is leatherwork.
Honestly I don't fully understand what lead me to it but I saw some videos and it was like, not only do I want to do this but I want to do it properly.
So I didn't do my normal thing of buying a ton of equipment, getting in way over my head and abandoning to the pile of failed hobbies. I booked a beginner course at a place near me and the rest is history. Been slowly building up my skills and techniques and getting really good feedback from people. Some of my recent items even have people saying that if I was to open a shop then they would be interested in buying or commissioning...
If you want to see my stuff then just have look at my post history, I should really just make a site or something at this point... Most of my stuff is small goods, accessories etc. but be warned I've just created a new community to have somewhere for the darker side of crafts (mildly NSFW) - but if anyone is interested in the spicier side of crafting then come join me there!
Casual related dropping of a new community I just made - particularly the only post I've put in there so far as it is more than a little appropriate to this post. Was gonna get more content in there before I started dropping links but people have already found the post I made apparently 😅.
Technically an NSFW community but very soft NSFW, its more the topic than the content...
!kinkykrafters@lemmy.blahaj.zone https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/45497420
Doesn't quite fit the requirements perfectly but I love Ella Red's soft cover of MCR's I'm not okay (I promise).
I loved my OnePlus 3 so much, only stopped using it in like, 2021 because the screen started to lift in one corner. Replaced it with an Oppo brand that was kinda crap from day 1. Only bought it because it was one of the few phones with a headphone jack.
Honestly I'm fine with it lol, I mostly just find the funny side of it. I am tempted to give a very light gradual tan a go however.
Yeah, my foundation colour is 'sickly victorian child with cholera' or 'ghost with consumption' and tanning is all but impossible. That pale yellow is an absolute no-go. Its bad enough that a few weeks back after I asked my mother for her opinion on a dress I was planning on wearing to an event she literally just sent me a link to gradual tanning lotion to put on my fluorescent white and blue legs... at least might help reduce the effect of them looking like freshly plucked poultry...
I've put the very occasional dart in something but thats about it.
Its much the same here, honestly in context it would be fairly clear what is meant. I mostly say dinner rather than tea myself. But yeah, the social thing to come and sit with a hot drink, regardless of tea or coffee, is generally to offer it as tea before asking if they want tea or coffee.