I relate, but I don't know if my particular brand of queer has a name. I want to be agender in the sense that no one knows what my sex is when they look at me. But I also wish I could be like sexfluid.
Yeah this is me, I'm aroace and agender, I like hugs but that's pretty much the limit.
My agender experience is that of a trans non-binary though, I'm on hormones and it's amazing. A big part of that is that my libido now fits my sexuality.
Well, for us it was a lot of introspection and surrounding ourselves with people who wouldn't be upset with us for being ourself. Also, hrt. HRT is magic (and I felt a lot better once I started injections rather than pills).
If you're allowing yourself to be yourself and not suppressing your emotions, then all you really need is time.
As for how to tell them apart, well, I am less jealous of others now that I like the way I look more, and if I want to dress or act a certain way I just do that. So i'm projecting onto others less, so I have less opportunities to get those feelings confused.
Thank you! I have thought about HRT a lot and my therapist actually specializes in that so I should probably talk to them about it more. I am doing a lot better at being myself but still struggle (also doubting myself when I am myself because am I doing this because it is who I am or because it is who I want to be, and does that even make sense?)
Impostor syndrome is common. Honestly, don't overthink it: whatever you are drawn to is part of who you are, and if it's something you want and would make you happy then why not?
Its so true, its tough feeling like this and not knowing why. With me i couldnt figure out what the meaning of what i felt was.
Ive had a few "crushes" that felt weird to me because i never thought about being intimate with them, i just wanted to be around them ALL THE TIME. Later figured out this is why lmao
I had this thought for a long time. What made me realise is that even though I like gals, I also want stuff for myself. Wanting to have the right parts, for example.
23 Comments
gegil@sopuli.xyz · 21 pts · 163d
I think im bisexual genderfluid. I like both, boys and girls, and i like being both, boy and girl.
trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 11 pts · 163d
I'm ace and toying with agender. I want to bone none and don't like being any.
At this point maybe the only thing I like is the letter A.
riwo@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 163d
Ⓐ? >;3
uberfreeza@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 163d
I relate, but I don't know if my particular brand of queer has a name. I want to be agender in the sense that no one knows what my sex is when they look at me. But I also wish I could be like sexfluid.
Neuropain@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 163d
Yeah this is me, I'm aroace and agender, I like hugs but that's pretty much the limit. My agender experience is that of a trans non-binary though, I'm on hormones and it's amazing. A big part of that is that my libido now fits my sexuality.
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 6 pts · 163d
It's a wild ride. Especially if you end up with another genderfluid person and you're wlw one day, "straight" the next, mlm the next, etc
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 18 pts · 163d
Easier to tease them apart once you start liking yourself more.
captainlezbian@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 163d
And eventually you realize that your style and your type are the same…
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 5 pts · 163d
Yeah mine definitely are. I like lean toned horny people with an alternative aesthetic, and that's exactly what I'm going for.
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 163d
Well mine definitely isn't but also i'm bi so... 🤷♀️
Although there is absolutely a lot of overlap
romanticremedy@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 163d
Or after ur egg is cracked
trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 163d
How to pls?
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 1 pts · 163d
How to tell them apart or how to like yourself more?
trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 163d
Yes
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 163d
Well, for us it was a lot of introspection and surrounding ourselves with people who wouldn't be upset with us for being ourself. Also, hrt. HRT is magic (and I felt a lot better once I started injections rather than pills).
If you're allowing yourself to be yourself and not suppressing your emotions, then all you really need is time.
As for how to tell them apart, well, I am less jealous of others now that I like the way I look more, and if I want to dress or act a certain way I just do that. So i'm projecting onto others less, so I have less opportunities to get those feelings confused.
trashcroissant@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 163d
Thank you! I have thought about HRT a lot and my therapist actually specializes in that so I should probably talk to them about it more. I am doing a lot better at being myself but still struggle (also doubting myself when I am myself because am I doing this because it is who I am or because it is who I want to be, and does that even make sense?)
SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 2 pts · 163d
Impostor syndrome is common. Honestly, don't overthink it: whatever you are drawn to is part of who you are, and if it's something you want and would make you happy then why not?
brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 163d
Its so true, its tough feeling like this and not knowing why. With me i couldnt figure out what the meaning of what i felt was.
Ive had a few "crushes" that felt weird to me because i never thought about being intimate with them, i just wanted to be around them ALL THE TIME. Later figured out this is why lmao
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 163d
I had this thought for a long time. What made me realise is that even though I like gals, I also want stuff for myself. Wanting to have the right parts, for example.
Instigate@aussie.zone · 4 pts · 163d
The illusion… YOU’RE QUEER AS FUCK Do I want to be her, or be with her? …of free choice.
Mk23simp@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 4 pts · 163d
Both? Both is good.
EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 3 pts · 163d
Both. Definitely both.
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 163d
I feel oddly targeted 😅