I'm of an age where i just don't GAF anymore. I'll be as polite as I'd expect someone to be with me, but go much beyond that & I'll be like "welp, I gotta go - TTYL."
Same here .... I think it's an age thing. I used to be intimidated by older people who talked too long .. not intimidated by aggression or anything, just intimidated out of respect ... I was taught to always give time to your Elders, give them space and let them talk because they give wisdom and knowledge. But of course, more than half the time, it's just old person either talking to amuse themselves, or just talking just to talk with no rhyme or reason.
But once you get past a certain age ... most of everyone around you is becoming younger than you and anyone older is talking less and if they are talking, they seldom want to talk to you. So anyone who does talk to you and especially if they want to talk too long or too much, you just don't give a shit anymore and there are no more cultural rules or taboos, so you can freely cut down the length of the interaction, be polite, say you gotta go and leave. And honestly, it feels great to leave those kinds of long winded empty conversations because it feels like you just gained an hour of your day back.
True. But a relative of mine will follow me around the house and try to restart the conversation (monologue) every time we invite the whole extended family over (twice a year). I cannot leave the house, but I try to find stuff todo, and engage in conversations with others. When he finally gets a hold of me I have to listen to all the "cool" shit he does at work. It's basically just bragging.
You'll sit there and listen to my entire rant about the arzhan 1 archaeological site's spectral cavalcade and how it backs up yet another bonkers unbelievable thing from herodotos' account of non-greeks, dammit!
And no, i'm not leaving out the context of how horse-pastoralism moved into the region!
Lean in and give them a hug. You will instantly be their best friend and it will shut them up. Stopping the feedback loop of negativity can be good for them too. Like, let people feel listened to and validated, but boundaries.
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WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today · 37 pts · 97d
I'm of an age where i just don't GAF anymore. I'll be as polite as I'd expect someone to be with me, but go much beyond that & I'll be like "welp, I gotta go - TTYL."
crank0271@lemmy.world · 30 pts · 97d
Man that's crazy
WhoIzDisIz@lemmy.today · 16 pts · 97d
Welp... Gotta go. See ya!
suxen_tsihcrana@anarchist.nexus · 3 pts · 97d
l8r
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca · 4 pts · 97d
Same here .... I think it's an age thing. I used to be intimidated by older people who talked too long .. not intimidated by aggression or anything, just intimidated out of respect ... I was taught to always give time to your Elders, give them space and let them talk because they give wisdom and knowledge. But of course, more than half the time, it's just old person either talking to amuse themselves, or just talking just to talk with no rhyme or reason.
But once you get past a certain age ... most of everyone around you is becoming younger than you and anyone older is talking less and if they are talking, they seldom want to talk to you. So anyone who does talk to you and especially if they want to talk too long or too much, you just don't give a shit anymore and there are no more cultural rules or taboos, so you can freely cut down the length of the interaction, be polite, say you gotta go and leave. And honestly, it feels great to leave those kinds of long winded empty conversations because it feels like you just gained an hour of your day back.
BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 97d
Slaps hands on knees.... Welp
frog@feddit.uk · 16 pts · 97d
Bro, you are encouraging them.
jasoman@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 97d
Wow
miraclerandy@lemmy.world · 12 pts · 97d
That’s crazy
jaybone@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 97d
Yup
ICastFist@programming.dev · 7 pts · 97d
Dang
UntouchedWagons@lemmy.ca · 8 pts · 97d
Just walk away.
tempest@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 97d
A 'man that sucks, but I gotta go .. ' will get you out of this about 50 percent of the time.
NeilNuggetstrong@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 97d
True. But a relative of mine will follow me around the house and try to restart the conversation (monologue) every time we invite the whole extended family over (twice a year). I cannot leave the house, but I try to find stuff todo, and engage in conversations with others. When he finally gets a hold of me I have to listen to all the "cool" shit he does at work. It's basically just bragging.
ininewcrow@lemmy.ca · 5 pts · 97d
Fake an epileptic seizure and start flopping around on the ground.
jaybone@lemmy.zip · 5 pts · 97d
helpImTrappedOnline@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 97d
Oh wow, you're having a seizure? That reminds of this one Simpsons episode.....
yermaw@sh.itjust.works · 4 pts · 97d
"Sorry hang on i think im getting a text...bloop..there it is i gotta deal with this"
Hegar@fedia.io · 3 pts · 97d
You'll sit there and listen to my entire rant about the arzhan 1 archaeological site's spectral cavalcade and how it backs up yet another bonkers unbelievable thing from herodotos' account of non-greeks, dammit!
And no, i'm not leaving out the context of how horse-pastoralism moved into the region!
JimVanDeventer@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 97d
Lean in and give them a hug. You will instantly be their best friend and it will shut them up. Stopping the feedback loop of negativity can be good for them too. Like, let people feel listened to and validated, but boundaries.
GladiusB@lemmy.world · 1 pts · 97d
When I find myself saying "that's crazy" even once I think of this meme
Nomorereddit@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 97d
If your social skills are that bad, i can juat be myself and talk when/how I want.
Checkmate fox news contributors.
Get a bike yo.