It's gross to specifically seek out someone specifically because they're shy and with mental issues. Men who target people who are vulnerable are usually looking for someone easy to manipulate.
Same thing as the "looking for someone a little autistic" trend. Or before that, "looking for a girl with anxiety". They want the power and none of the responsibility of dealing with the downsides of the mental issue. Red flag behavior.
ib4 the downvotes: I'm not the only one who noticed this bs and there's a rabbit hole of discourse on this trend online.
Sure, because no one who's actually mentally healthy would specifically seek out someone with mental health problems. But if you happened to meet and clicked well, then sure.
I'm not saying I specifically went after someone with parental issues, general anxiety, and other hyper specific mental or developmental issues. I am saying that the type of person that, when combined, these things generally cause is the personality I am attracted to. There are other traits that add to that but physical attraction only gets you so far compared to personality and mannerisms. It's just that I'm attracted to a specific flavor of broken that complements my own
So... Why exactly is it that you immediately jump to the conclusion that this meme means that the broken mess of a girl is "sought out"? Like it isn't possible for people to MEET someone like this, LEARN about them and their issues, then decide to HELP/SUPPORT them? Just... straight to "seeking them out?"
19 Comments
lenz@lemmy.ml · 18 pts · 62d
It's gross to specifically seek out someone specifically because they're shy and with mental issues. Men who target people who are vulnerable are usually looking for someone easy to manipulate. Same thing as the "looking for someone a little autistic" trend. Or before that, "looking for a girl with anxiety". They want the power and none of the responsibility of dealing with the downsides of the mental issue. Red flag behavior.
ib4 the downvotes: I'm not the only one who noticed this bs and there's a rabbit hole of discourse on this trend online.
kungen@feddit.nu · 6 pts · 62d
Sure, because no one who's actually mentally healthy would specifically seek out someone with mental health problems. But if you happened to meet and clicked well, then sure.
DokPsy@lemmy.world · 6 pts · 62d
I'm not saying I specifically went after someone with parental issues, general anxiety, and other hyper specific mental or developmental issues. I am saying that the type of person that, when combined, these things generally cause is the personality I am attracted to. There are other traits that add to that but physical attraction only gets you so far compared to personality and mannerisms. It's just that I'm attracted to a specific flavor of broken that complements my own
Syltti@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 60d
So... Why exactly is it that you immediately jump to the conclusion that this meme means that the broken mess of a girl is "sought out"? Like it isn't possible for people to MEET someone like this, LEARN about them and their issues, then decide to HELP/SUPPORT them? Just... straight to "seeking them out?"
umbrella@lemmy.ml · 0 pts · 61d
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 17 pts · 62d
She doesn't have to be shy though. :3
LouNeko@lemmy.world · 16 pts · 62d
There's only "shy" or "promises to peg you on the first date", no in-between.
Shirow@lemmy.zip · 10 pts · 62d
I mean, I wouldn't mind. (,,>﹏<,,)
TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 62d
Mine pulled a knife on me on the first date and that was an equal turn on.
Telling her that was a real brain breaker lol
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 61d
In between my cheeks! 🥺
Malyca@lemmy.zip · 8 pts · 61d
I was that girl and my issues hurt the only person that's ever been kind to me. Just an fyi sometimes we bite.
Maeve@kbin.earth · 3 pts · 62d
🤗🤗🤗
Nonconfrontational@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 61d
How u doin?
Maeve@kbin.earth · 3 pts · 60d
No
Nonconfrontational@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 60d
Fair enough, I am a trash person.
ICastFist@programming.dev · 1 pts · 62d
I have a suspicion there is a metaphor in how you have a dog (possibly female) licking the head of a snake
Nonconfrontational@lemmy.ml · 4 pts · 62d
Then you've fundamentally failed to understand the meme, lol.
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml · 2 pts · 61d
I've got other versions of this same meme if this one isnt to your liking
ICastFist@programming.dev · 3 pts · 61d
It's fine, it's just my perverted mind seeing sexual undertones
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml · 1 pts · 58d
Making love is beautiful. Don't let the haters make you think otherwise.