My experience has been that healing is hard because it requires acknowledging that there are parts of you that simply do not and will never fit into the expectations society has imposed upon you (regardless of which society you live in), and if you want to be happy, you have to accept that maybe you're just a little weird, that's okay, and it may be better to just live in your own little world.
That's the only way out of trauma imo. Not soothing, not whining - a pure curiosity of what's beyond it. How the world feels, how it functions, how I react to things, how others react to the same stimulus.
My pure, insatiable curiosity is one of the few reasons I've found to keep living. My current connections are another, but in the past I didn't have as many good ones. I have a raw, unending need to know everything I can about humanity, the universe, and how we can best fit in it. Similarly I need to stay around long enough to find out who was right: the religion of the shepherd or that of the goatherd (the answer might be neither, but I'd like to see)?
I agree. Parts of you can get stuck, in the trauma, experienced at the time. Exactly like that. There's this brilliant book called "no bad parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD. And it takes you step by step incrementally through your parts stuck in trauma. I'm wording it poorly, it's brilliant stuff. I was listening to the audio book while gardening, it's absolutely the worst time to ugly cry, snot and all, when you're covered in dirt and can't wipe anything away. It was a good cry though. Letting go.
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TrickDacy@lemmy.world · 14 pts · 31d
Never thought of it that way, but yeah I think that pretty much nails it.
FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world · 9 pts · 31d
My experience has been that healing is hard because it requires acknowledging that there are parts of you that simply do not and will never fit into the expectations society has imposed upon you (regardless of which society you live in), and if you want to be happy, you have to accept that maybe you're just a little weird, that's okay, and it may be better to just live in your own little world.
untorquer@quokk.au · 7 pts · 31d
Your inner teenager is angry and wants justice for the lack of your inner child's safety. Your inner adult is restoring it.
vivalapivo@lemmy.today · 5 pts · 31d
Nope. Where's curiosity?
Phunter@lemmy.zip · 20 pts · 31d
Mars
Findus_Falke@feddit.org · 2 pts · 31d
Would you like to elabotate how curiosity is involved in your process of healing? I genuilnely can't imagine.
vivalapivo@lemmy.today · 2 pts · 31d
That's the only way out of trauma imo. Not soothing, not whining - a pure curiosity of what's beyond it. How the world feels, how it functions, how I react to things, how others react to the same stimulus.
NocturnalMorning@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 30d
I'm glad you're not my therapist bcz this is hogwash.
vivalapivo@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 30d
I'm glad I'm noone's therapist too. Wishing you a recovery
metallic_z3r0@infosec.pub · 1 pts · 31d
My pure, insatiable curiosity is one of the few reasons I've found to keep living. My current connections are another, but in the past I didn't have as many good ones. I have a raw, unending need to know everything I can about humanity, the universe, and how we can best fit in it. Similarly I need to stay around long enough to find out who was right: the religion of the shepherd or that of the goatherd (the answer might be neither, but I'd like to see)?
ouRKaoS@lemmy.today · 1 pts · 30d
I have found that burning down the cause of the trauma so it can't hurt you anymore is also effective.
wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz · 3 pts · 30d
Holy shit I did not expect to be called out like this. I was expecting a shitpost and got this instead?!?
Malyca@lemmy.zip · 3 pts · 30d
Yep
monkeyFromTheLake@programming.dev · 2 pts · 30d
This made my inner teenager even more angry. He is raging now!
LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works · 1 pts · 31d
I agree. Parts of you can get stuck, in the trauma, experienced at the time. Exactly like that. There's this brilliant book called "no bad parts" by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD. And it takes you step by step incrementally through your parts stuck in trauma. I'm wording it poorly, it's brilliant stuff. I was listening to the audio book while gardening, it's absolutely the worst time to ugly cry, snot and all, when you're covered in dirt and can't wipe anything away. It was a good cry though. Letting go.