For example, being spanked until your ass is bruised, having your hair pulled or having nails scratched on your back or chest?
Personally, I enjoy having my balls stretched by hanging weights on them. It feels amazing.
Anything extreme however is a big no no for me. No drawing blood, no asphyxiation, or generally anything that could potentially cause serious physical harm or long term damage.
12 Comments
cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com · 8 pts · 33d
Line getting a cramp when I try to top? Yeah, don’t get old. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be.
BloodMuffin@lemmy.ca · 6 pts · 33d
LemonMan@fedinsfw.app · 4 pts · 33d
I agree with slapping and choking. Those are acts I associate with physical abuse, and even if it's fully consensual for kinky sex, I feel like there's no way to reasonably explain why you slapped a woman or had your hands around her throat.
Something like spanking is a bit different because it's not something that can cause head or face injury.
Weirdfish@lemmy.world · 4 pts · 33d
Beyond the normal aches and pains of being an old broken skater, I'm not a fan.
Have had a few partners over the years that took things too far, on the drawing blood and choking front. One in particular without any heads up which really put me off.
I suppose if worked out in advance I'd be ok being on the giving end, but it's not for me.
Apeman42@lemmy.world · 3 pts · 33d
Light scratching and biting is fine. Nipple pinching is a-ok, and i like having my balls squeezed just a little too tight. Anything rougher than that's just not my bag, baby.
RepressedLemmyUser@fedinsfw.app · 3 pts · 33d
I would tolerate only so much, before kicking someone off bed for that. Rough sex, light bites, squeezes, best I could tolerate.
dabw1@fedinsfw.app · 3 pts · 33d
I like being bitten, scratched, having my hair pulled, and being spanked up to a point. I don't mind my partner drawing blood, but I don't like dull pain or repetitive pain, like being pinched or scratched over the same spot a bunch of times. I like biting, scratching, pulling hair and spanking. Something oddly calming about it when your partner is into it. I've tried choking and asphyxiation in the past, but I'm too worried about hurting my partner to really commit.
flat_rat@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 32d
Mandredge@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 32d
I like it!
freeusething@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 27d
I’m a huge fan of impact play. I’m working on making a “cat of nine tails” with cat 9 cables. I have a flogger with key chains.
Getting slapped or spanked or flogged puts me into a submissive headspace really quickly. It makes me feel like my body is just a tool for physical release.
Big_Boss_77@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 33d
https://youtu.be/L2W2mU8R7-A
tiedigger@fedinsfw.app · 2 pts · 32d
Backscratchers? Backscratchers! Backscratchers? Backscratchers!
It really depends but if my partner pulls me close and scratches my back that's kinda hot.
Otherwise if cavorting/rollicken around gets physical accidents happen so I tolerate that but I am not a huge fan of other painful stuff
quediuspayu@fedinsfw.app · 1 pts · 31d
I like it but it is really hard to get there. It requires a great level of trust in the other person, and I'm not only talking about trusting the dominant part, I also mean trusting a submissive partner. One of my biggest fears in that regard is finding out later that the other person said nothing when something went too far, I'm not that into causing pain but there's something about masochists makes me love them.
Spacehooks@reddthat.com · -1 pts · 32d
Light chocking is fun but nothing that someone could possibly see if my clothes got missaligned. Don't need some social justice warrior thinking I'll being abused such a pain to deal with.