First date. I made it clear at the outset that I wouldn't be going home with him. I'm not normally opposed if I'm interested in someone, but I was on my period and felt more like an amorphous blob than a sexual being that day.
During the date, he thought it was a great idea to tell me about how he went on a date with someone a year or so earlier. He said it was clear that she wasn't into him, and he wasn't into her either, but he convinced her to go home with him anyway. He figured that since he paid for dinner, he "might as well get something out of it." He described how she'd basically fled his house afterward as if it was a funny anecdote. I hadn't really been feeling it with him to stay with, so by this point, I was looking for my exit.
I went to the bathroom after we ate. When I came back, he'd already paid the bill, and made a big show of pointing out how the server had drawn a big heart in red pen at the bottom. This is where the big alarm bells started. I was a regular at the pub we were at, and they always asked how to split the bill. I'd also never seen a red pen in the joint. I'd planned on paying for myself, but the guy refused to take my cash.
We both had to catch different lines from the same train station after, and to no one's surprise, he tried to get me to go with him. He even tried to physically pull me toward his platform. I ended up running away, and blocked him as soon as I got home.
This was about 10 years ago. These days, I'd have given him a piece of my mind at the restaurant and walked out, but at the time I was way less confident than I am now.
He said it was clear that she wasn’t into him, and he wasn’t into her either, but he convinced her to go home with him anyway. He figured that since he paid for dinner, he “might as well get something out of it.” He described how she’d basically fled his house afterward as if it was a funny anecdote.
It's sort of nice when they tell on themselves upfront like that at least. SO glad he wasn't successful in physically pulling you toward his platform, what the fuck!
Right? I was really shaken up after the whole thing. The absolute audacity of telling me about his shitty tactic, then trying the exact same thing on me after I'd said no up front. Ew.
I was seeing a guy for a few months on a casual basis. He mentioned once that he had continued to date his ex-girlfriend way past when he knew he should end the relationship. The reasons?
He wasn't attracted to her but still wanted sex.
I knew right then and there that I wasn't going to continue seeing him.
First fate, guy is cute and nice, when drunk pretty blonde zeros in. Good for her shoot your shot, but I froze unsure of what to do. He made no effort to be like "hey we're on a date" and it took like an hour to break away.
Three dates later and we're getting hot and heavy and I decided not to go all the way, wasn't feeling it, ghosted afterwards.
I made friends with this guy in my college biology course. He seemed super cool, was a bio nerd like me, and was really into punk music. After a while, I went to a party at his friend’s place and met a guy there who was in a band. Didn’t really go on a proper date, but hung out quite a few times with the band guy.
Band guy goes overseas to join the foreign legion like his dad did, but he ended up changing his mind and came back 2 weeks later. His reasoning was “they integrate all of the races together just like here and I don’t want to be around any sand n*****”. Then he showed me his dad’s military “memorabilia” which was a bunch of Nazi shit. I grabbed my bag and walked out so fast. Guy called me a few nights later at like 2am. I picked up and said “don’t ever fucking call me again”. I never heard from any of those Nazi loving pieces of shit again.
I didn’t go on a date with this person, but I encountered him on hinge and saved a screenshot of his answer to a question, because I couldn’t think of a worse genuine answer to give for a man trying to attract women in their thirties (which his profile stated).
I’m not sure it’s cool to post it, even without a photo or name attached because that feels like a violation, but the prompt was “a fact about me that surprises people,” and his answer was “I’m allergic to alcohol but I still drink and I’ve never eaten a salad.”
I really can’t imagine there are many women over the age of 22 (or honestly even younger, but maybe younger women haven’t had enough experience to realize how rancid that man’s semen would taste) who want those qualities in a partner.
15 Comments
ratofkryll@sh.itjust.works · 29 pts · 6d
First date. I made it clear at the outset that I wouldn't be going home with him. I'm not normally opposed if I'm interested in someone, but I was on my period and felt more like an amorphous blob than a sexual being that day.
During the date, he thought it was a great idea to tell me about how he went on a date with someone a year or so earlier. He said it was clear that she wasn't into him, and he wasn't into her either, but he convinced her to go home with him anyway. He figured that since he paid for dinner, he "might as well get something out of it." He described how she'd basically fled his house afterward as if it was a funny anecdote. I hadn't really been feeling it with him to stay with, so by this point, I was looking for my exit.
I went to the bathroom after we ate. When I came back, he'd already paid the bill, and made a big show of pointing out how the server had drawn a big heart in red pen at the bottom. This is where the big alarm bells started. I was a regular at the pub we were at, and they always asked how to split the bill. I'd also never seen a red pen in the joint. I'd planned on paying for myself, but the guy refused to take my cash.
We both had to catch different lines from the same train station after, and to no one's surprise, he tried to get me to go with him. He even tried to physically pull me toward his platform. I ended up running away, and blocked him as soon as I got home.
This was about 10 years ago. These days, I'd have given him a piece of my mind at the restaurant and walked out, but at the time I was way less confident than I am now.
velma@sh.itjust.works · 19 pts · 6d
It's sort of nice when they tell on themselves upfront like that at least. SO glad he wasn't successful in physically pulling you toward his platform, what the fuck!
ratofkryll@sh.itjust.works · 11 pts · 6d
Right? I was really shaken up after the whole thing. The absolute audacity of telling me about his shitty tactic, then trying the exact same thing on me after I'd said no up front. Ew.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 6 pts · 5d
And people wonder why my father taught me to carry (and how to use) knives.
ZDL@lazysoci.al · 19 pts · 6d
Well it was this date at a communist rally where ...
OK, I know my way out. No need to handle me roughly!
wezzzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 9 pts · 6d
I dont get it im sorry can you explain it for mr :(
Asafum@lemmy.world · 17 pts · 6d
Communists use the color red, so they'd be waiving literal red flags at the rally
wezzzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 7 pts · 6d
Ahhh okay thanks
velma@sh.itjust.works · 16 pts · 6d
I was seeing a guy for a few months on a casual basis. He mentioned once that he had continued to date his ex-girlfriend way past when he knew he should end the relationship. The reasons?
He wasn't attracted to her but still wanted sex.
I knew right then and there that I wasn't going to continue seeing him.
LadyButterfly@reddthat.com · 10 pts · 6d
Oh god he verbalised "I use women and treat them like shit" and scarily didn't see anything wrong with saying this to you
EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone · 12 pts · 6d
She was still married.
And when I found out and broke things off, she claimed it was "basically already over".
She was still married 6 months later, going on vacation and posting about how much she loves her husband.
Within a year I had heard she divorced her first husband and married another guy less than a month later.
I think she's on spouse #4?
Wren@lemmy.today · 10 pts · 6d
During foreplay he called his dick "Li'l Johnny" and referred to it multiple times in the third person.
CreativeShotgun@lemmy.world · 8 pts · 6d
First fate, guy is cute and nice, when drunk pretty blonde zeros in. Good for her shoot your shot, but I froze unsure of what to do. He made no effort to be like "hey we're on a date" and it took like an hour to break away.
Three dates later and we're getting hot and heavy and I decided not to go all the way, wasn't feeling it, ghosted afterwards.
dkppunk@piefed.social · 2 pts · 2d
I made friends with this guy in my college biology course. He seemed super cool, was a bio nerd like me, and was really into punk music. After a while, I went to a party at his friend’s place and met a guy there who was in a band. Didn’t really go on a proper date, but hung out quite a few times with the band guy.
Band guy goes overseas to join the foreign legion like his dad did, but he ended up changing his mind and came back 2 weeks later. His reasoning was “they integrate all of the races together just like here and I don’t want to be around any sand n*****”. Then he showed me his dad’s military “memorabilia” which was a bunch of Nazi shit. I grabbed my bag and walked out so fast. Guy called me a few nights later at like 2am. I picked up and said “don’t ever fucking call me again”. I never heard from any of those Nazi loving pieces of shit again.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world · 2 pts · 2d
I didn’t go on a date with this person, but I encountered him on hinge and saved a screenshot of his answer to a question, because I couldn’t think of a worse genuine answer to give for a man trying to attract women in their thirties (which his profile stated).
I’m not sure it’s cool to post it, even without a photo or name attached because that feels like a violation, but the prompt was “a fact about me that surprises people,” and his answer was “I’m allergic to alcohol but I still drink and I’ve never eaten a salad.”
I really can’t imagine there are many women over the age of 22 (or honestly even younger, but maybe younger women haven’t had enough experience to realize how rancid that man’s semen would taste) who want those qualities in a partner.