1dalm

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And people here keep getting ruder and ruder for no reason. It's not like I have any actual authority to make this happen.

I mean, you could have just said "I don't like that idea because I'm not creative or innovative enough to contribute something of value that would be cited by others, so that would have prevented me for padding my resume with the stuff that I was able to produce." That would have been much more courteous.

Just being "quotable" isn't going to get you cited (and thus paid). Your work has to be worth being quoted.

Right now, the vast vast majority of published academic work is absolute garbage that no one will ever care about. Even most of the people writing and publishing the garbage barely care about their own garbage. It's just cranking gears to pad their resumes.

If we rewarded people for high value work, and incentivised cranking out garbage, then we would get more high value work.

on Strange Olympics · c/Caricatures · 12 pts · 173d

Didn't forget Oprah and all the other super rich women that could have said or done something that willingly turned a blind eye for decades.

I don't deny that male friends can be toxic. What can be worse still is that the man does share these videos with his friends, and the videos themselves are toxic and reinforce toxic behaviors and thoughts, and the friends share affirmations with the man about the video. That happens a lot too.

That man is probably repeatedly sharing videos with the woman because he's hoping that she returns the same affirmations that his friends do.

And at the same time either aggressively or passive aggressively making it clear to him that she is disinterested in the video, which is reinforcing the man's understanding that she is also disinterested in whatever it was that he found interest in. (That's literally the whole subtext of the meme.)

Just saying that men share their concerns and feelings differently than women. Men very often share concerns and feelings indirectly. If a guy is repeatedly sharing YouTube videos with the woman that the woman doesn't find funny or interesting, there is probably a reason the man is sharing them. An active listening woman might ask the man something like "How do you feel about this video?"

Women: Men don't know how to share their feelings.

Men: share feelings indirectly through content because it allows them to place some distance between themselves and their fear of criticism for having insecurities

Women: Gawd, I don't care!