because it's a projection. the women who complain about men being like that... are mostly talking about themselves.
i've dated many women who thought that way... and they are talking about themselves. they see the world through an adversarial lens and everything is about them having power over others and being terrified of anyone having power over them.
and if you explain to them you don't want any power over them they simple don't believe you. they think it's a lie or a manipulation tactic.... because that's how they treat everyone, through lies and manipulation. and no matter how honest you are with them... doesn't matter because they don't believe honesty exists.
parents project their shit onto their kids, it sucks.
a lot of unhappy people, refuse to let anyone around them ever be happy. you're allowed to be happy. don't let other folks unhappiness ruin yours, because they will try very hard to ruin it for you.
all the shit i can afford that i never dreamed of even having.
curse of low expectations I guess.
But I'd be super depressed that I never found a partner or had a family. Half a lifetime ago i was dating someone I thought I'd marry and have a family with... then she turned out to hate me and children. And sadly ever I met since her also hated me and children... so better off being single than being with someone who hates me.
it's mostly folks pissed off about the price of gas. which affects the price of everything else indiscrimately because most of our goods are distributed via trucks.
if gas goes down, inflation cools. generally other fuels/oils also go down.
fundamentally disagree. People are not unique. They want to be unique, for sure, but they are far more similar than they'd like to admit, and micro-labels are a great way to creation 'ego preservation' to feel like one is more unique than actually is, and that someone makes one more valuable and special, internally. And for people with fragile egos, these labels are highly important and they require other people to acknowledge the identity label.
And when they are common enough parlance people will force them on you, whether you agree or identify with them or not. But at that point it's mostly them projecting their own label-insistence onto you.
For some folks labels are pointless, but for some they are fundamental and deeply emotional.
Personally I don't quite get the labeling thing... for me it makes more sense to just name the behaviour, but people love their shorthands, and in my own personal experience, people often use labels to skirt around naming their actual behaviors. It's a great coping mechanism that way.
You didn't. but because this is a 'hot button' issue, people are going to willfully misinterpret you to make you the 'bad guy' so they can feel they themselves are the 'good guy'.
Because it's going to vary a lot depending on people's preferences, backgrounds, and etc.
Personally I don't see LGBT+ people as monolithic in anything... they are just people. They all have their own biases, hatreds, preferences, etc. And plenty of LGBT+ people hate other LGBT+ people for stupid reasons. I find the concept of LGBT+ as some sort of 'bloc' utterly weird, and if you look at like data about it, it isn't really a unified group in anyway.
I've never seen many commonalities in belief or behaviour of LGBT+ people. If you break it down further, yeah, sure, there are.
because that's not how things work. people can't self-police that well.
people use the labels or don't use them, and their use/non-use invites conflict. because human beings fundamentally want other people to be like them and are validated by others doing so, and feel invalidated by those who do not.
But keep telling me how my experience is wrong. And PC gaming is supposedly this flawless experience.
Even though I recently helped two other people setup gaming PCs and they constantly have headaches or have entire games they can't play due to technical issues or have to wait months for a patch before a game can be played. Or they want to play old games and they just don't work without hours of custom work to get them to load.
there are tons of compact suvs and sedans at that price point. almost every major brand makes them.
the issue is people don't want them because they are 'too small' or 'don't feel safe'. they would rather pay 50K for a big ass car and whine about it then buy one that's half the cost and 2/3 of the size. And almost all of them are just commuting to work in it, they will never ever use the extra space or capacity of the larger vehicle. and if you argue with them and point this out, they will tell you what a stupid ignorant asshole you are and how they 'need' a 50K car, and they couldn't possibly ever buy a shitty small car like a Civic. And most of them will go further be like 'well i can only afford the 50K car, but I REALLY WANT the 80K car.' Tons of people buy these 80K 3-row SUVs and whine about how expensive they are, when they absolutely positively have no actual need for a vehicle that large. but psychologically they need it because it's a status symbol and reflection of their 'pride and value' of themselves.
you can get a brand new HRV or Civic for 24-26K, but people refuse to buy those cars, they want the Passport which is 45K to start.
fwiw i drive a 10 year old hatchback and people endless tell me shit like 'you have no self-respect if you drive such a shitty small car'. and i ask them what car I should get then, and they always say 'audi/bmw 5/7 series SUV'. Because it's not about the utility or use, it's all about the fragile image they are protecting by owning a large expensive vehicle.
so if i don't want to spend 2 hours installing custom drivers to play a game I lack skill?
I think you mean patience. 2 hours installing custom driver is 2 hours I am not playing the game. I don't know about you, but I have better shit to do with those 2 hours and many other interests besides configuring a computer I'd rather spend those 2 hours on.
independent just means you don't belong to or identify with a political party. if people classify themselves this way, they are definately not apolitical.
apolitical people don't care about politics. just like asexual people don't care about sex.
you live your own life your way and hope they follow by example. but you can't convince other people's to change their ways unless you want to become an abusive controlling person.
great discussion about how identity politics came out of no where and took over the world in a few short years. and how utterly awful it is and why it makes everyone so hateful and violent.
because it's a projection. the women who complain about men being like that... are mostly talking about themselves.
i've dated many women who thought that way... and they are talking about themselves. they see the world through an adversarial lens and everything is about them having power over others and being terrified of anyone having power over them.
and if you explain to them you don't want any power over them they simple don't believe you. they think it's a lie or a manipulation tactic.... because that's how they treat everyone, through lies and manipulation. and no matter how honest you are with them... doesn't matter because they don't believe honesty exists.
parents project their shit onto their kids, it sucks.
a lot of unhappy people, refuse to let anyone around them ever be happy. you're allowed to be happy. don't let other folks unhappiness ruin yours, because they will try very hard to ruin it for you.
all the shit i can afford that i never dreamed of even having.
curse of low expectations I guess.
But I'd be super depressed that I never found a partner or had a family. Half a lifetime ago i was dating someone I thought I'd marry and have a family with... then she turned out to hate me and children. And sadly ever I met since her also hated me and children... so better off being single than being with someone who hates me.
because it's not in the USA's interest to remain neutral.
It's in switzerland's interest to do so.
it's mostly folks pissed off about the price of gas. which affects the price of everything else indiscrimately because most of our goods are distributed via trucks.
if gas goes down, inflation cools. generally other fuels/oils also go down.
it's not that hard man. it has to do with the 1970s economic crisises, which gave the entire country and policy makers ptsd.
stagflation was a real thing and it freaked the hell out of people.
fundamentally disagree. People are not unique. They want to be unique, for sure, but they are far more similar than they'd like to admit, and micro-labels are a great way to creation 'ego preservation' to feel like one is more unique than actually is, and that someone makes one more valuable and special, internally. And for people with fragile egos, these labels are highly important and they require other people to acknowledge the identity label.
And when they are common enough parlance people will force them on you, whether you agree or identify with them or not. But at that point it's mostly them projecting their own label-insistence onto you.
For some folks labels are pointless, but for some they are fundamental and deeply emotional.
Personally I don't quite get the labeling thing... for me it makes more sense to just name the behaviour, but people love their shorthands, and in my own personal experience, people often use labels to skirt around naming their actual behaviors. It's a great coping mechanism that way.
You didn't. but because this is a 'hot button' issue, people are going to willfully misinterpret you to make you the 'bad guy' so they can feel they themselves are the 'good guy'.
Define 'basic respect'.
Because it's going to vary a lot depending on people's preferences, backgrounds, and etc.
Personally I don't see LGBT+ people as monolithic in anything... they are just people. They all have their own biases, hatreds, preferences, etc. And plenty of LGBT+ people hate other LGBT+ people for stupid reasons. I find the concept of LGBT+ as some sort of 'bloc' utterly weird, and if you look at like data about it, it isn't really a unified group in anyway.
I've never seen many commonalities in belief or behaviour of LGBT+ people. If you break it down further, yeah, sure, there are.
because that's not how things work. people can't self-police that well.
people use the labels or don't use them, and their use/non-use invites conflict. because human beings fundamentally want other people to be like them and are validated by others doing so, and feel invalidated by those who do not.
No, there isn't.
But keep telling me how my experience is wrong. And PC gaming is supposedly this flawless experience.
Even though I recently helped two other people setup gaming PCs and they constantly have headaches or have entire games they can't play due to technical issues or have to wait months for a patch before a game can be played. Or they want to play old games and they just don't work without hours of custom work to get them to load.
there are tons of compact suvs and sedans at that price point. almost every major brand makes them.
the issue is people don't want them because they are 'too small' or 'don't feel safe'. they would rather pay 50K for a big ass car and whine about it then buy one that's half the cost and 2/3 of the size. And almost all of them are just commuting to work in it, they will never ever use the extra space or capacity of the larger vehicle. and if you argue with them and point this out, they will tell you what a stupid ignorant asshole you are and how they 'need' a 50K car, and they couldn't possibly ever buy a shitty small car like a Civic. And most of them will go further be like 'well i can only afford the 50K car, but I REALLY WANT the 80K car.' Tons of people buy these 80K 3-row SUVs and whine about how expensive they are, when they absolutely positively have no actual need for a vehicle that large. but psychologically they need it because it's a status symbol and reflection of their 'pride and value' of themselves.
you can get a brand new HRV or Civic for 24-26K, but people refuse to buy those cars, they want the Passport which is 45K to start.
fwiw i drive a 10 year old hatchback and people endless tell me shit like 'you have no self-respect if you drive such a shitty small car'. and i ask them what car I should get then, and they always say 'audi/bmw 5/7 series SUV'. Because it's not about the utility or use, it's all about the fragile image they are protecting by owning a large expensive vehicle.
so if i don't want to spend 2 hours installing custom drivers to play a game I lack skill?
I think you mean patience. 2 hours installing custom driver is 2 hours I am not playing the game. I don't know about you, but I have better shit to do with those 2 hours and many other interests besides configuring a computer I'd rather spend those 2 hours on.
No. You aren't supposed to feed your cat live mice or live food at all.
It's a pet. Feed it pet food.
No.
I miss the internet from pre 2012 though, back when most interest use was in front of a PC.
mobile users destroyed the internet.
how do people know the bikes I sell aren't stolen?
they don't.
independent just means you don't belong to or identify with a political party. if people classify themselves this way, they are definately not apolitical.
apolitical people don't care about politics. just like asexual people don't care about sex.
you don't.
you live your own life your way and hope they follow by example. but you can't convince other people's to change their ways unless you want to become an abusive controlling person.
it's the same as the old one.
it's boring and it sucks after about 15minutes
The Identity Trap.
great discussion about how identity politics came out of no where and took over the world in a few short years. and how utterly awful it is and why it makes everyone so hateful and violent.