"think about this last week. How many times did you personally feel like things were too expensive? How many times did a cis woman you personally know lose to a trans woman in sports?"
Haha, totally. I definitely want to check out Papa Dwarf for the historical significance, but otherwise I actually really enjoy the experience of just stumbling upon them. Once you realize they're around, it's like you start finding a new one around every corner. I like it when cities surprise me, and this is a very good version of that.
Both! You can see a hint of it center left just above the horizon. The clouds were catching the sunlight and doing a wild prismatic thing I'd never seen before.
I haven't seen that, but on a recent flight I saw something that seems connected. My photo doesn't capture how it really looked, but it definitely felt like rainbow clouds all around me.
I think the best ones stem from deep shared history. One time, I spilled a little blue paint on the toe of my shoe. For a few months whenever I wore those shoes my partner would occasionally say something like "here comes ol' blue toe" just to get a chuckle out of me. It was stupid and perfect.
Eventually, that transformed into "blue guy" with occasional mutations: big blue guy, big blue, or just plain "blue".
We have other nicknames for each other too, but that one has been around for years and is one of my favorites.
A key is being able to lovingly poke fun at each other, and not take yourselves too seriously. Sounds like you've got both of those things, so just keep an eye out for an opportunity to make your own!
The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.
Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.
But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.
I used to make these all the time. Based mine off of some tacos from a now-closed Denver restaurant. Mine featured spiced ground beef, pepper jack, caramelized piña, diced avocado, black beans, and a light drizzle of habanero mayo. Dang, now I'm hungry.
There's also couchsurfing.com or trustedhousesitters.com. We stayed in a place for a month for free and just had to take care of their cat and dog. It was a really good experience, and we've been doing it internationally off and on ever since to help mitigate rent.
Been out of the states since January. I started in Portugal and I can confirm how relaxed it is there. I'm in Morocco now and have met the most kind and welcoming people I've ever known. Very relaxed here as well. I don't currently have plans to return.
It may or may not be possible for you depending on your specific situation. If you are in the "How can I get out?" camp, I'd encourage you to think seriously about making it happen. Look at how you could radically change things. Sell everything, quit your job, and crash at a family member's house. The barriers are likely lower than you imagine, and the upsides are dramatic.
5 minutes of meditation. It won't solve the anxiety, but it will insert just enough perspective and space to help you recognize a couple things:
you are not your anxiety, it's more like weather that you're experiencing.
the things that you're worried about may be real, but your experience of them is warped by the anxiety.
My therapist gave me a really helpful metaphor. Anxiety is kind of like putting your hand right in front of your face. It blocks everything else out. It's all you can see. It's all you can experience. While this isn't the desired state, you also can't get rid of your hand without losing a real part of yourself. So instead, what if you focus on inserting space. Move your hand further from your face, and it becomes an element of the environment. It's a thing you can observe. It's still real, and it's still there, but it's now more in perspective.
That's what meditation, even 5 minutes, can do. It pushes your anxiety into perspective. It won't get rid of it, but it will help you see it as an element rather than your entire experience.
As with anything web design, we should think about context and nuance. Is this a web tool where the user needs to do work? Is it designed with small buttons (for function or aesthetics)?
If so, probably keep the default pointer. Though if it's a splashy brand page with tiny buttons, I could imagine some other pointer styles that might be good.
Speaking of, is it something splashy and marketing heavy? Is it intended more as an experiment, experience, or intentional maximalist design?
If so, then I can see the argument. Accessibility still matters, though so implement graceful depredation so that folks who prefer motion effects disabled get a default pointer.
The answer is not "never change the pointer" but rather, "only break web standards if you have a good, well considered reason."
Standard acceptable answer:
"think about this last week. How many times did you personally feel like things were too expensive? How many times did a cis woman you personally know lose to a trans woman in sports?"
Me and Osty are going to the park. Best day ever.
Haha, totally. I definitely want to check out Papa Dwarf for the historical significance, but otherwise I actually really enjoy the experience of just stumbling upon them. Once you realize they're around, it's like you start finding a new one around every corner. I like it when cities surprise me, and this is a very good version of that.
Both! You can see a hint of it center left just above the horizon. The clouds were catching the sunlight and doing a wild prismatic thing I'd never seen before.
I haven't seen that, but on a recent flight I saw something that seems connected. My photo doesn't capture how it really looked, but it definitely felt like rainbow clouds all around me.
I'll let them know so they can goatee up an answer.
I think the best ones stem from deep shared history. One time, I spilled a little blue paint on the toe of my shoe. For a few months whenever I wore those shoes my partner would occasionally say something like "here comes ol' blue toe" just to get a chuckle out of me. It was stupid and perfect.
Eventually, that transformed into "blue guy" with occasional mutations: big blue guy, big blue, or just plain "blue".
We have other nicknames for each other too, but that one has been around for years and is one of my favorites.
A key is being able to lovingly poke fun at each other, and not take yourselves too seriously. Sounds like you've got both of those things, so just keep an eye out for an opportunity to make your own!
Andor, depending on whether you consider Jedi superheroes.
Pepridge Farm remembers
They even put ads on their flag in Vienna? This has gotten out of hand!
The original, excellent passage:
Have you thought about nomad life? I'm coming up on 3 months in Morocco and all of these things are happening. Cost of living out here is great too.
I used to make these all the time. Based mine off of some tacos from a now-closed Denver restaurant. Mine featured spiced ground beef, pepper jack, caramelized piña, diced avocado, black beans, and a light drizzle of habanero mayo. Dang, now I'm hungry.
Well dang. Gotta find something else then
I'm a fan of Private Internet Access. Not currently aware of reasons not to use it.
There's also couchsurfing.com or trustedhousesitters.com. We stayed in a place for a month for free and just had to take care of their cat and dog. It was a really good experience, and we've been doing it internationally off and on ever since to help mitigate rent.
The comments in here are largely centered around "How can I get out?" Or alternately "Getting out is not possible."
I came across this post last year, and it gave me the kick in the pants to get out myself.
https://crazypeople.online/post/6720157
Been out of the states since January. I started in Portugal and I can confirm how relaxed it is there. I'm in Morocco now and have met the most kind and welcoming people I've ever known. Very relaxed here as well. I don't currently have plans to return.
It may or may not be possible for you depending on your specific situation. If you are in the "How can I get out?" camp, I'd encourage you to think seriously about making it happen. Look at how you could radically change things. Sell everything, quit your job, and crash at a family member's house. The barriers are likely lower than you imagine, and the upsides are dramatic.
5 minutes of meditation. It won't solve the anxiety, but it will insert just enough perspective and space to help you recognize a couple things:
My therapist gave me a really helpful metaphor. Anxiety is kind of like putting your hand right in front of your face. It blocks everything else out. It's all you can see. It's all you can experience. While this isn't the desired state, you also can't get rid of your hand without losing a real part of yourself. So instead, what if you focus on inserting space. Move your hand further from your face, and it becomes an element of the environment. It's a thing you can observe. It's still real, and it's still there, but it's now more in perspective.
That's what meditation, even 5 minutes, can do. It pushes your anxiety into perspective. It won't get rid of it, but it will help you see it as an element rather than your entire experience.
Halfway through it starts hawking gold and subscriptions to Masterworks 😂
As with anything web design, we should think about context and nuance. Is this a web tool where the user needs to do work? Is it designed with small buttons (for function or aesthetics)?
If so, probably keep the default pointer. Though if it's a splashy brand page with tiny buttons, I could imagine some other pointer styles that might be good.
Speaking of, is it something splashy and marketing heavy? Is it intended more as an experiment, experience, or intentional maximalist design?
If so, then I can see the argument. Accessibility still matters, though so implement graceful depredation so that folks who prefer motion effects disabled get a default pointer.
The answer is not "never change the pointer" but rather, "only break web standards if you have a good, well considered reason."